Little Goals – February 2016

It’s time to tell you about the little targets I have for February! I’m keeping it very low key this month so here they are…

HOME

Cupboard clear out. It’s time for the annual sort out and re-shuffle of the big cupboard and a bit a of clear out generally. The way that the month is going it’ll probably be done on the last weekend of the month but it needs to happen

Defrost the freezer. This is the only thing that didn’t get done in last month’s great big kitchen tidy, I need to just get it done.

BODY AND MIND

Limited drinking. I decided not to give up booze in January but thought that I probably would in February but the events of last weekend decided me. I will only drink a one glass when I drink, those days will be Friday and Saturday. The drinking guidelines have changed and I want to ensure that I keep well within them. So I want to be strict this month to make that behaviour second nature.

Yoga 8 times this month. This is basically to keep me accountable for the over all goal.

Stretching: This is slightly different from the yoga, I have stretching that I should be doing for my knees and I just need to remember to do it every day.

Exercise. Two sets, five times a week of the following. 10 sit ups, 20 squats, 10 push ups from my knees. This is really just more of the same.DSCF4423Watch 4 DVD’s this month. I failed at this last month but hopefully February will be a quieter month.

LENT

Lent starts with Ash Wednesday on 10 February with Ash Wednesday. I’m struggling with church a bit at the moment, not a crisis of faith so much as a crisis of timing where Grace is concerned and not knowing what would fit other than that nowadays. Although my faith is if not the same, certainly as strong as it has been, I am recognising a lack in that area. n. I read something last month, “to have faith, sometimes we have to act as if faith is possible”, which reminds me that practice is as important as belief. For Lent, Grace is meeting weekly-ish and will use 40 Temptations by Ian Adams to kick off some reflection. Meeting in the week is not ideal for me but I do want to get to the monthly service next week and see what else I can manage of the other meetings as work/sleep/migraines allow.  I’ll also through the course of Lent re-visit the Stations of the Cross meditations I did as a Gracelet a couple of years ago because every time I make my way through them, I’m called to a different point in the journey.

 

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Friday Links

Happy Friday!

The links this week appear a bit grumpy, sorry about that!

The importance of a ‘fuck off’ fund. We called it the escape fund but the point is good…

Facebook’s ‘motherhood challenge’ I’ve seen this and I try not to be too sensitive about stuff like this because there’s nothing worse than being over sensitive to stuff that isn’t about you but I found the whole thing in bad taste.

While I’m on the subject this about the nonsense of parents claiming to feel more deeply because parenthood is spot on (and written by a parent!). Also this from me about more or less the same thing. In this case it is about me and it’s a nasty thing to think or say…

Who would be a teacher? I know a couple and it’s ridiculous the amount of work they take home and don’t start about the holidays most of the ones I know go in through the holidays as well. It also doesn’t make sense that the local academy school has more freedom in what and how they teach, in allowing children to be taken out for holidays and in whether or not their teachers are qualified…

I haven’t seen this yet. I don’t doubt that she was well meaning but the minute I read that Camila Batmanghelidjh had 3 PA’s, I was suspicious of Kid’s Company because you have to be really, really tone deaf not to understand that if you run a charity then using it to fund three PA’s for one person (no one is that sodding busy or dis-organised) is wrong. So she can shout all she likes about a plot to bring her down and the government and society letting those children down but she let them down too. The thing is that loving kids isn’t enough. It’s true that the children that Kid’s Company helped for the most part were missing love but parenting isn’t just about love, it’s about teaching discipline, responsibility and other life skills. The job of a parent is to teach a child to live (fully live) without a parent hovering over them, yes these children and their families needed help but handing out money and ‘love’ sure as hell wasn’t going to be enough.

 

 

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Honey, Lemon and Ginger Soother

This week is not going brilliantly, I’m tired and not feeling too great. The plus side is that I’ve stopped vomiting but on the not so good side as I left work yesterday I realised that I had caught a sniffle. Nothing too serious (I hope) but I had a sore throat, was slightly bunged up and there was a mysterious rash under my chin.

Emergency measures were called for so I made some of this up. Honey and lemon drinks are all over the interwebs and I don’t suppose this is anything new but it does the job and is very useful to have in the fridge. It also has the added bonus of soothing my stomach and my sniffle.

If unlike me, you’re drinking booze this month, you could add some whiskey or try one of these instead, it will make you feel better in the short term but experience tells me that it’s best to stay off the booze if you want to make it through a working week with a sniffle.

Start with two lemons and a knob of ginger  Chop up the lemons, grate the ginger, add a tiny bit of warm water and muddle.
  Bung some honey in a jar, add the lemon mixture and stir to dissolve the honey a bit.  Top up with hot water. Stick in the fridge
  When you’re feeling the need for hot lemon and ginger, put a couple of tablespoons with some of the lemon, add in a cinnamon stick (if you have one and you like cinnamon) into a glass or mug. I like to use my duralex glasses ’cause they’re heatproof and just the right size for my hands when I’m feeling poorly!  Top up with hot water, I have a kettle that gives me options for temperature and go for 90C rather than 100C but basically off the boil..
  Take to sofa, until you’re feeling better.

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What I’ve Read – January 2016

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Act Like It – Lucy Parker (borrowed)

Smart Bitches have been raving about this and on NYE, a friend threw it at me and said that I had to read it. So I did, in a day. Clearly, the setting and use of English English didn’t thrill me as it did the Bitchery but I really enjoyed it. It was funny, the couple were believable and not magic, I have read it again since.

The Vincent Boys – Abbi Glines (borrowed)

The Vincent Brothers – Abbi Glines (borrowed)

This is new adult lite, it came via H (as did the two below and provoked some very interesting conversions and a recommended reading list from me) and it was very readable but I had some issues. I had some issues with the relationships, especially in the second book, I just couldn’t work out what it was about the heroine that the hero loved and when he told her it wasn’t about her it was about him and her looks.  Instalove and extreme possessiveness as signs of true love, which was touched on a bit but not properly addressed. Extreme slut shaming. Also the parents, it was frustrating, really frustrating.

Until Friday Night – Abbi Glines (library e-book)

Loads going on this one, again with the instalove and possession and jealousy from the boy as a sign that he’s really in love, which was addressed better here. This I think will be the beginning of a series and I’m sort of interested in reading the next one, in fact when I was reading them they were hard to put down but after I read them I worried about the messages they were sending to H.

Landline – Rainbow Rowell (bought)

I am the only person on the planet that didn’t like Eleanor and Park. Having said that I like Attachments and loved Fangirl, so I finally caved and bought Laneline at the bargain Kindle price of £1.99. You can see that the higher book buying limit has gone to my head already! I really enjoyed this, I loved that by the end of the book the problems aren’t all gone but that they’ve made a commitment to try because pretty much that’s all relationships are, people loving each other enough to try and try again..

Hand to Mouth: The Truth About Being Poor in a Wealthy World – Linda Tirado (library book)

There is another edition of this book subtitled ‘Living in Bootstrap America’. I’ve had this book reserved at the library since last year, I eventually had to cancel the it and re-reserve it and then it came in two weeks, library logic is sometimes not like normal logic. Recently, because of the work of some friends of mine and the volunteering Ma does I’ve become more aware of the thin line line between making it or not, I’ve been so close to that line and it really wouldn’t take much to send me below it. I aware of how lucky I am not to be. Tirado is clear that she is talking from her lived experience, it’s clear that she’s not stupid or feckless or lazy or any of the other character flaws that we like to throw at poor people. She’s talking about the US system which is different from ours but seems like the one that the current political class here would like to send us to. It’s horrific and honest and funny too. Every politician should read it, in fact on the radio today someone suggested that all politicians should have to spend a year on minimum wage before they can be MP’s, I think that is a fine idea!

Winter – Marissa Meyer (library book)

I read Cinder ages ago and didn’t read the next two Scarlet and Cress. Set in a future world, each book is based on a fairy tale but is also part of the over-arching story. I’m basically unable to walk into the library without having a quick look at the new books shelves and picked this one up. Because I’d read Cinder, I didn’t need too much information on the world and while I was maybe missing stuff because I hadn’t read the middle two books, I didn’t feel I was missing out. So this story is Snow White, except Snow is suffering from mental illness and the Wicked Queen can control minds. I enjoyed it, it moved quickly without sacrificing story, the romances of the previous stories show that ‘happily ever after’ doesn’t come quite as easily as you’d think. I also liked that at the end the book, there is hope but it’s not all solved. Winter might find a cure for her condition but she might not. What I really enjoyed was the parity of concern. The boys were protective of the group and the girls but so were the girls of the group and the boys. Everyone of the group got to be heroic and brave in their own way. The evil queen was defeated and although there was some interesting stuff about how she got there, she ultimately died because she couldn’t take responsibility for the wrongness of what she’d done. I do like a complex fairy tale and this was fun as well.

Sorcerer to the Crown – Zen Cho (library book)

Another book picked straight up from the new books shelf. I really enjoyed this it reminded me of Georgette Heyer in the best possible way. I realised halfway through that Prunella reminded me of Sophy from The Grand Sophy, it was funny and kept me reading, I loved the world building and it’s was nice to see a book (a book set in the Regency no less) that had two non-white leads. This could have been tricky but it was dealt with properly, which is to say that it was relevant and irrelevant to the story, no black person or mixed race person could go through life in Regency England unaware of racism but it was not the only thing they were dealing with so it didn’t dominate every thought or scene. I would recommend it to everyone and will be on the look out for the next two (of course it’s a trilogy!)

The Score – Elle Kennedy (bought)

I was having a bad week and I read this in a day, mostly while waiting for my phone to be fixed. This was easy to read, escapist nonsense and it made me happy so I make no apology for it. Also an NA that doesn’t have significantly terrible parents or parental angst ok one dead parent, one sick parent but that’s within the actual realm of possibility (both of my parents were missing one by the time they were 21 – but no evil abusive parents for a change.). Yes of course I will read the next one when it comes out.

Terra – Mitch Benn (library book)

I loved this and have put the next one on hold at the library. It’s a very human story about aliens and very funny.

Exit Kingdom – Alden Bell (library book)

I loved The Reapers are the Angels. This is a prequel featuring one of the characters from Reapers and I loved this almost as much. The language is grandiose but not pretentious, this my friends is how literary novels should be written.

 

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Food and Budget Update: 23/01 to 30/01/2016

You know how sometimes you have a really good week and sometimes even though there’s very little difference from other weeks, you just feel that you were less in control and therefore it felt like a rubbish week?

That was this week. The shopping was fine and within budget, the food was good and had lots of good stuff in it, I just felt off and didn’t feel that it was great until I came to sit down and write this. Blame January, move on.

Here are the reciepts, I forgot to take a photo of the list!. £14.74 DSCF5192DSCF5193

There was no spinach to be had, I forgot to get peaches, I bought sugar for marmalade that wasn’t on the list, it was not the most organised shopping I’ve ever done! DSCF5169DSCF5171DSCF5176DSCF5177I did manage to feed myself but I totally managed to over cater for Saturday night dinner. It was a rice bake using the slow cooker chicken and peppers that was in the freezer, which fed Ma and me that night and was my lunch all of the following week. Work food followed the same pattern it has in previous weeks, fruit, yoghurt and granola, I used the mango as I forgot the peaches. Lunch was the rice bake and instead of spinach I used the peeler to cut very thin strips of carrot as a basic salad. Pineapple was for a snack and I also ate work fruit, mostly apples.DSCF5183

Dinners were:

Monday: Mushrooms on toast, with an egg because eggs made everything into a meal. I also didn’t take a photo of this, but please take my word for it, it was good!

Tuesday: Roasted vegetables with flatbread  Wednesday: Black bean burger with roasted carrotsDSCF5185

Thursday: FNP a day early. I stayed at Ma’s on Friday night but had all the ingredients and it had been a pizza kind of day…  Friday: Out at Ma’s.

See it wasn’t actually that bad of a week, within budget and pretty healthy, so I don’t know why I was beating myself up about it…

This was also the last week of my budgeted month as pay day was Thursday. So for January. I’ve stuck to the budget, I spent £000 and put a grand total of £00.00 into the change jar. Although I’ve been doing this since December, this is the first month I’m doing it as a challenge and I’m really enjoying it, I could have done without losing all that food to the mice and my inability to keep food that was in plastic boxes that the mice had walked on/around but I’ve moved my food cupboard and it’s actually been easier to have less although I do have some re-stocking to do as and when I need things. I do think there will be weeks when that £15 is going to seem really small and although I don’t do a lot of entertaining nowadays, I do generally have the family over for celebration dinners a few times a year, these meals can’t all come out of that weekly £15 but I will try to keep the cost of them to £15 which would be pretty good going for feeding 4 adults and a six year old, especially when one of them is Ben ‘two dinners’ Dempsey and the six year old needs constant supplies of garlic bread!

Other things I’ve learned? I need to check what’s on offer before I make my list and menu plan and life goes much easier if I plan the same breakfast and lunch during the work week and make it all up on Sunday.

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Life Happened: Haircuts and hangovers

Last week was a slog. It was an end of January type thing, still dark, still rainy, mostly dull sort of a week. Given that I was quite pleased to have get to the end of it more or less intact and without abandoning anything important.

Goals for this week were;

  • to continue on with getting up at 6am and into work for 8am. Because I really could not chance having to stand on the journey to work and I was just tired enough that winging it would seem like a good idea
  • keep on top of the housework
  • take my lunch into work every day

These things are not at all about pushing myself, more about surviving the work week and I managed that and all of the above.

It is getting lighter, very, very slowly and the sky on Tuesday was very pretty by the time I got to Paddington. 

 Most of the week was spent trying not to be grumpy and trying to get some sleep (the banshee baby next door has not had a good week!)

I took Friday afternoon as leave so I could get to Jane’s for my haircut earlier and worked from home in the morning. Yay for not having to get up until 8am, when it was more or less light!

Friday night I stayed at Ma’s and on Saturday we headed into Kingston to do some shopping. 

 I was at Mike and Christelle’s on Saturday night and that is where the trouble started! 

I was sick, very, very sick. I’m still being sick, which as far as I’m concerned means it’s more than the evils of drink at fault, I’m going to blame the curry! Although I think C and I are going to be alcohol free for a couple of weeks!

This week is shaping up to be quite busy as we head towards the monthly meeting, so my aims are all about doing what I can do to get enough sleep this week and trying to keep some food in me!

  • Be in bed at 9:30pm so I can be relaxed enough to fall asleep at 10pm, rather than gettting into bed at 10pm and taking a while to get to sleep
  • No screen time after 9pm
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2016 Goal Recaps – January

We made it to the end of January! How did the first month of 2016 treat you? Overall, I would say mine was off to a good start but the last two weeks, which were also the weeks that I went back to full time hours and getting up in the dark, were a slog…

But anyway, it’s time for the first goal update of 2016, which like the month, I’m feeling good about.

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  • De-clutter & Deep Cleaning

Little goal – Kitchen de-clutter and deep clean

This got off to a quick mouse inspired start. Kitchen is thoroughly cleaned and de-cluttered. I’m going to do the deep clean every two months in the kitchen just because. In fact I have a routine for cleaning the kitchen now. The rest of the house is looking pretty good but there will be more de-cluttering in 2016

Little goal – Baby bath to Ryan and Clare. Trying to co-ordinate a time with Ryan has been tricky, it may get done tomorrow, more likely it will roll over into next month…

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  • Tracking. I’m on top of this and feeling much better about life generally because of it.
  • Food Budget. This is going well with updates happening and because I’m paying attention it feels good.
  • Overdraft. I’m on track with this.
  • Credit Cards. Haven’t used them, even in the face of the mouse emergency….

IMG_3249BODY AND MIND

  •  Walking. My walking is better than it was immediately post osteotomy and I’m getting to 10,000 a couple of days a week, but it does have an impact so I need to be careful.
  • Books. 2/24
  • Work Uniform. I love this, it makes life so much easier not just in terms of deciding what to wear in the morning but in keeping it clean, on Thursday nights I do a clothes wash and it’s dried and in the wardrobe ready by Sunday. Simple, can only wonder why I didn’t work it out sooner! It’ll be a bit harder as it starts to get warmer but for January, it’s been fantastic.

Little goal – Yoga twice a week 

This is happening with some adaptions for my foot.

Little goal – Exercise set. 

Doing it every morning, it’s such a small amount but I can feel it getting easier so it must be doing something.

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Little goal – Watch 4 DVD’s this month. 

I managed 1, Ma and I watched Emma

Send postcards to Oli and Miss T. 

I did this on Friday, talk about getting it in at the last minute!

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Friday Links

Happy Friday! Today I am working from home and then having the afternoon off to have a haircut, it’s all excitement, all the time around here!

Here are this week’s links…

As we give up on saving, we give up on our future. Pensions and what not having them signifies. Yep, I have a pension that it not really gonna cut it in 26 years time but I can barely afford the contribution that I make at the moment. But I at least I get an employer contribution too!

Older children are better than babies and toddlers. This was delightful. I’m having a bit of a time with it at the moment from several sources I’m hearing about how much hard work it is and I get it but I think the quote in the article equating babies and toddlers to first five minutes of the movie. I reckon that’s spot on and honestly folks you all signed up for this…

 Why I put 400 condoms in my kitchen drawer. I’m not sure that I’d have put 400 out but I think that adults need to recognise that teenagers have sex however horrific the idea is.

The people behind the claim that Planned Parenthood were selling baby parts have just been indicted. So I’m going to say it again, it didn’t happen…

What IQ do you have to have to take care of a child? I don’t know and I don’t have any answers, but this is worth reading anyway.

Canada is adopting Finland’s Baby box idea. Not quite, but this is a smart idea and every country that could should do this.

The loss of libraries is another another that inequality will become entrenched. My love of libraries is documented and I remember the library being another place I could go to when home was difficult because my dad wasn’t working. They are far more important than you could ever realise if you don’t need them.

Ma has been quoting this article all week, George Osborne’s character flaws may cost him the top job. Basically he’s over confident and doesn’t understand the true impact of his policies. Yep.

Speaking of which, Britain and big business and lack of tax money.

My first thought when I’d heard that Cecil Parkinson had died was that I hoped Sara Keays gets to dance on that man’s grave. Not at all compassionate or very Christian but the family statement that talks about his daughters, grandchildren and step-grandchildren missed a child. Suzanne Moore nails some of what makes me so uncomfortable about him.

If you think light therapy might help with SAD, be careful. Interesting, I did a lot of talking therapy after Stef died, when I was depressed outside of the SAD and me therapist encouraged me to get a wake up lamp but not a light lamp. Good to know why. Although honestly, the more I learn and understand how my SAD (and depression) manifests the more I realise the importance of not indulging it. Yeah, I know that’s the opposite of what the ‘be kind to yourself’ brigade would say but if depression lies and it’s telling to you sad in bed and do nothing then you need to do the opposite. You need to practise tough love on yourself AND get the medical help you can…

The Making of Grease. It could have been awful awful instead of good awful. I still love it (my 5 year old self thought it was the best film of all time!)

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Marmalade

Two weeks ago my friend Sue posted a picture of her batch of just made marmalade, which reminded me if that I wanted to make some this year, I needed to get a move on. I didn’t make much jam this year, in fact the only preserving I did last year were the pots of blackberry jam I made in the summer and that proved to be such a hit (and such a limited amount) we scoffed it all!

Marmalade seems to be a love hate thing, either you love it and it’s bitter sweet taste on your toast or you can’t bear it and think it is the devil’s jam. I’m firmly on the love side and even more so since I put on my big girls pants and started making it.

Marmalade is considered to be a bit of a faff. First you have to find seville oranges, then juice them, then shred the peel, then cook the peel, then finally you have to make and jar the marmalade. Some recipes suggest that before you cook the peel, you soak it overnight. So it’s all a bit of a palaver, so much so that MaMade and Lakeland do all the work for you.  I made marmalade like that for years, it was better than the shop bought stuff but it didn’t feel like I was making marmalade it felt like I was cheating. This is not to knock it at all, in the summer time when seville oranges aren’t available and marmalade must be had it’s a life saver and if you were experimenting with favours and/or just couldn’t do all that chopping, they are godsends.

I felt that I hadn’t made marmalade properly and that I should at least do it once. One of the true joys of cooking is learning about what and how you like to cook and eat and also in learning what it is important for you to make from basic principles and what you are happy to buy from the shop. These things vary from person to person and change depending on what stage of life you are at but there is a rightness about knowing these things for yourself. There is also something lovely about the finiteness (is that a word?) of cooking and especially preserving that I love. The blackberry jam that I made last year is gone but the memory of Ma and I going out to pick them and then getting jam from that is still with us. Last year, I finished a rhubarb and ginger jam, that honestly was getting on a bit but it was the last jam I had that Tina had made and I will confess to hanging on to it because Tina had made it and I’ll never eat a jam she made again. There’s also the changeable nature of it, one year it will behave, one year it won’t, over the weekend Jen made her marmalade noted that this year the shred didn’t float all the way to the top like it had last. Or the year you do everything right and the stuff just won’t set for no earthly reason you can find. It’s happened, there was that plum jam that time….

All of which to say, I don’t make marmalade every year but when I do, I make it from seville oranges and shred the peel and simmer the peel for hours and for me it’s worth it. It’s a process I enjoy and find relaxing. In fact, I started this on Saturday at about 4pm, spend about an hour with the cutting and juicing, set the peel to simmer while I made dinner and finished it at about 9pm. So it takes a while but only about an hour and half of that was hands on time. I used Felicity Cloake’s perfect recipe.

I’m spending a lot of 2016, talking about money and food, so it seems remiss not to talk about the cost of this. The cost of the oranges didn’t come out of this week’s food budget which I’m ok with because it’s not all for me but the total cost of the the ingredients was £4.78. That made roughly 11 8oz jars (there was a bit over but I’m not going to worry too much about that) which works out as 43p a jar, marmalade that you buy generally comes in 16oz jars, so mine would work out at 96p a jar. Which is more expensive than the Sainsburys basics and own brand ranges that come in at 30p and 75p respectively. However, it’s cheaper than any of the premium marmalade and it tastes better so for me it’s worth it.

It’s also really good on toast…

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January doesn’t last forever…

Yesterday, I woke up grumpy. I didn’t feel good and I just wanted to go back to bed. I actually consider it to be a sign of what a grown up I have become that I got up and out of the house and was at my desk at 7.55am. (Some days I barely know who I am anymore!)

Anyway at some point in the morning, I added my water intake to the Fitbit app on the phone and when it had synced up realised why I was so grumpy. 3 hours and 47 minutes sleep. Mmm, basically I’d been running around with a hangover acquired without taking a drink. Fun.

Then I spent an hour dealing with some IT problems and I realised that it wasn’t PMT or lack of sleep or work or anything that was making me grumpy. It was January.

Because it’s a dog of month and we’re in the last week of it and all the happy Christmas joy is dead and it’s still dark and I have to keep up with all the promises I made myself on New Year’s Eve and it’s hard, really hard to do. What I would like to do is go to bed with a tub of ice cream and maybe a manhattan or 2 and then sleep until sometime in March…

Unfortunately, it’s just not possible so I’m going to slog through, I am because January does not last forever… 

  

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