Scenes from a Walk

This is my last week of commuting from my Mum’s house, and so the last week of doing this walk more or less very day (sometimes I get the Drain). Here are some pictures from my walk:

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Monday Miscellany: The Plaster isn’t Dry

Happy Monday!

This is my last week in Surbiton, however the work on the flat is still not finished (the plaster hasn’t dried and so the work on the kitchen hasn’t begun).  I had said that I wanted to be back in the flat for 25 February, it’s been four weeks and I’m just done with this. Did you know that in this country, even though I can’t live in the flat, I still have to pay rent and that the landlord is under no obligation to compensate me or find me somewhere else to live. If I don’t pay rent, I can be evicted but if I can’t use what I pay for there’s no penalty for the landlord. I could ask him to compensate me, I could take him to small claims court but then he could just evict me with no fault. Welcome to the 21st Century and the rentier economy. Something needs to change, I know the Tories won’t do anything and I doubt Labour would either. Look, I know that my landlord is a decent person but my housing, shouldn’t be at the whim of a someone deciding to be decent, there should be protections for landlords and tenants. Robust protections. Yes the work will be lovely but it’s costing me and it’s costing my mum (I have offered her money but we’re going to work it out in a series of dinners!)

Rant over, this week I’ll be in the office and living at Mum’s, at the weekend, I’ll move back into my flat but for at least a week, it’ll be like camping, I won’t have a kitchen and most of my furniture will still be in the living room, but I’ll be able to get on with painting the bedroom. Then next week, I can start returning it to somewhere I can comfortably live in. I’m sure it will eventually be lovely but it still feels like there is a long way from here to there!

So what am I planning for this week? The same thing, I plan for every week. Work, home, sleep, don’t annoy Mum. Also Lent starts this week, so I would like to go and get ashed. It’s funny most people who aren’t regular churchgoers, turn up at Christmas, but it’s the Easter services that get me back into a church, this year, the easiest church to do that in, is St Paul’s cathedral, so that will be interesting.

Wednesday is also the start of me giving up biscuits, crisps, sweets and chocolate I started doing this in 2019 and it’s never as hard as I expect and a really good reset on what I should be eating. Also for Lent, I’d like to get into the habit of doing the Examen. For a few years, I’ve posted about Lent and my faith during Lent, this is a heads up that I’ll do some of that this year and probably on Sundays, so if it’s not your thing, just don’t read them. I won’t mind and I’ll get back to whittering on about work, home and the allotment as usual during the weekday posts.

Have a good week!

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Friday Links: Another Nicola Gone

Happy Friday!

What happened during Scotland’s rent freeze? Landlords fought back My sympathy for ‘good’ landlords is at rock bottom right now. Rent controls and assured tenancies are the least renters need.

I know the inhumanity of prepayment meters. Forget reform – they should be abolished

My generation is sucking Britain’s young people dry. Why are politicians too scared to admit it? Because it’s not all boomers. It’s class, all those things happened as my parents grew up but they didn’t get to do A levels and go to University and for my Mum that was because my Grandma died young and my Grandad with children who were 17 and 14 years old, lost my Grandma’s pay AND was taxed as a single man, and in 1962 there was no allowance for being a widower as there was for being a widow. Ma is ok now because she does have a good pension, (it’s not loads but it’s still above the tax allowance and she pays tax) and lives in social housing with a more stable rent. From the age of 24 to 66 she lived in private rented accommodation). Yes, she is lucky but there is no generational wealth for her to pass onto my brother and me. My Dad died at 53, the state doesn’t have to pay him a pension but again no generational wealth to pass on. Housing for people of my class, has been in crisis since I was in my 20’s (certainly, I’ve been banging on about it for that long) and the middle and upper classes have been fine with that, now it’s affecting them and all of sudden it’s an outrage and older people are the problem. No. It’s not about generations, it’s about class. The way you solve for this is to tax wealth, not income. 

People often ask me, what do you like so much about plants?

The work from home revolution is here to stay – if you’re rich, white and live in London. I’m two of those things, and honestly, I thought we already knew this. In a one bedroom flat, I’ve had to re-arrange my flat so I have a space to work, and I’ve also noticed that I spend less time in my living room for leisure because I work there. Taking all of that, Mum had to work some Saturday’s when I was a child and I chose to work in an office so I wouldn’t have to work on weekends or Bank Holidays. I guess the issue, as ever, is choice, pay and other working conditions. Yet again, the problem is work…

‘Every day is doomsday’: how a food bank is struggling to keep up

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Allotment Adventures: Surprise

I’m still too far away from the plot to do much work on it, although this weekend we did visit to feed the birds and got a surprise.

So to set the background, I had been talking my plot neighbour a while ago about needing to cut back the trees at the back of the plot, because they were really impacting the light that the polytunnel got, I didn’t want a massacre but just to stop them overhanging the polytunnel. The thing is that if it’s going to be done, we’re in the last period of being able to do it before the birds start to nest. I sought of knew that it wasn’t going to get done this year because I wasn’t going to get back to the plot until March

Before

So imagine my surprise to get to the plot on Saturday and find it done. My neighbour had seen they were burning on the communal plot, was doing some trimming of her own, knew I wasn’t around and did mine! I don’t know that it shows up in pictures but it’s so much lighter at the back now. It didn’t stop the robin coming to visit either!

After and not overhanging the poly

In other news, I bought some more seeds, so the other cherry tomatoes, will definitely be galina(yellow) and chocolate cherry. I also bought another squash (the Thelma Sanders Sweet Potato) and some more flowers, Night Scented Stock, to attract pollinator moths, and ‘After Midnight’ a breadseed poppy. All from Real Seeds and I really need to stop.

We are moving onto planning, now. I really need to get to the grass that is trying to take over the plot but for right now, I can do nothing. In March, I’ll start with the weeding, moving the raspberries (yes I know it’s not a great time) and turning the compost. Then move onto seed sowing, tidying the polytunnel, laying the patio, ordering compost and getting all the beds sorted for spring. I just need to wait for March and getting the flat sorted before I can start.

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Moth cocktails

This morning, my email has been flooded with Valentine’s Day offers. I’ve been single for over a decade now so Valentine’s isn’t something I have many feelings about at all!

However, today is the day we take delivery of our Moth cocktails order. So if you are feeling sorry for yourself, this might cheer you up.

Negroni

I find these delightful because they are ready made and portion controlled. Yes, you could make them at home, they’re not hard cocktails to get right, but this takes away all the faff. They’re great to travel with or when you’re living at you Mum’s for four weeks!

Aperitivo Spritz

We have tried and loved the Aperitivo Spritz and the Negroni. I wasn’t keen on the Old Fashioned but I’m not generally keen on them usually, so that was down to user error! They do other drinks that I haven’t tried but you can buy them in Waitrose for £3.99 or four for the price of three or order directly from them online at Moth Drinks.

I keep seeing that little luxuries are the way to keep going in a recession and these are out of mine!

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Monday Miscellany: No End in Sight

Happy Monday!

I spent most of last week being grumpy and feeling not very well (raging PMS) but finally got my period and I’m just my usual brand of peri menopausal grumpy. I did not feel good.

What else? The fridge freezers and kitchen were delivered on Tuesday, however, that two weeks in which they promised it would be done? Not going to happen, I can’t get in to paint the bedroom this weekend because they haven’t plastered the wall yet, something that should have been done, last week. I shouldn’t be surprised, it took them three weeks to build a porch, but I moved out so they could go quicker and while I love my Mum, we are both going to need to me to back in the flat (I’m still paying 43% of my monthly take home salary to live in) soon.

We popped in to pick up post and it’s a building site, as you can probably gather, I’m less than impressed. It’s not just the length of time it’s taking, it’s that I can’t plan anything because I have no fixed dates for anything. I need to paint the bedroom before I move anything back into it and so I can’t order the wardrobe because I don’t have any idea of when we’ll be able to do that. If I can’t put the bedroom furniture back in the bedroom, I can’t get to the kitchen stuff or the stuff that should go in the cupboard of doom. So it all daisy chains, and the builders don’t really get that there is a lot of work I have to do when they leave. In short, I’m cross and trying to be reasonable but it’s working my last nerve.

So my plans for this week are have a haircut today, I have a day off for that, and I’ll like to get Ma’s curtains up this afternoon and then work this week. I’m not going home until 25 February so the goal is not to annoy my Mum too much in the meantime!

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Friday Links: The PM hates trains…

Happy Friday!

It’s been a week. There is a lot happening in the world, not much of it good. My favourite WTF moment came with the news that the Prime Minister flew from Dorset to London and then the next day from London to Cornwall. New zero is clearly only for the little people!

Energy bailiffs for the poorest, huge profits for the richest: this is Britain in 2023

Mould complaints in England’s social housing double over two years. This is directly related to the cost of living. If energy is expensive, you don’t put the heating on and you’re always cold so you don’t open the window. I have central heating and can afford to use it. Even so there is some mould in my house. Taking down the kitchen, it was all over the cupboard and outer wall where the sink had been leaking, which was to be expected but there’s some in the bathroom and by the windows in the living room and the bedroom. I use a bleach spray once every couple of the months but it’s much less this year because of the dehumidifier. Ma doesn’t have a centrally heated house the past couple of weeks have been an education is

You can’t raise children on the cheap, so why is this government set on doing so?

‘I knew I wanted to stay here for the rest of my life’: how London got its first LGBTQ+ retirement community. This is really interesting as a model. However, it does worry me how much money is needed for all the good retirement options!

‘I’m really worried’: homeowners and would-be buyers on UK interest rates. People with mortgages are worried, buyers are worried. Complete failure to mention renters. I’m never going to be able to afford a mortgage but I’m expecting my rent is going up as my landlords buy to let mortgage will too! Everyone is going to hurt. Not just homeowners…

‘It’s a control thing’: why are we so fascinated by super-organised homes?

A warm welcome to February, it’s time to dig in. One of the hardest things about not being at home right now, is that I should be gardening more!

Turkey’s two-faced ‘sultan’ is no friend of the west. It’s time to play hardball. I couldn’t agree more.

A warm welcome to February, it’s time to dig in. One of the hardest things about not being at home right now, is that I should be gardening more!

Netanyahu is an existential threat to Israel. He can be resisted – but only with Palestinian support. While it may be factually true that Arab Israelis could have an influence on the Israeli elections, it is not and cannot be the work of the oppressed to save the oppressor from the moral harm of its actions. Which seems to be the argument being made. It’s a great idea but does very little to address how difficult it is for Israeli Arabs to vote for starters. It glances at the prejudice but still manages to imply that somehow that the majority of Israeli’s aren’t to blame for Netanyahu and his far right cronies.

There’s no cycle of violence in Jerusalem – only Israel’s lethal oppression of my people

From This Hill, You Can See the Next Intifada

The ‘leftwing economic establishment’ did not bring Liz Truss down. Reality did

Dimmer than she appears or totally dishonest? Liz Truss may be both

This Is What Netflix Thinks Your Family Is. This is interesting. Ma and I live in different places (usually) but in a lot of other ways we are a household. I guess in another age, we would still be living in the same physical place because we couldn’t have afforded to do otherwise

Stop ‘wishcycling’ and get wise: how to recycle (almost) everything

Orca mothers make ‘lifelong sacrifice’ for sons

Mane of terror: the sorry return of long-haired men. I don’t necessarily object to men with long hair (or beards for that matter) and anyone who met my Dad will get it. I object to badly kept long hair, in men and women, it’s not that hard to care for but Christelle does not enjoy it at all, so she’s not going to be happy if it becomes a thing.

 

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Allotment Adventures: What I’m Growing this Year

Ma and I have been hashing out plans for this season of growing and the sad truth is, I need more room but I’m not going to get more room because one allotment is enough (would love another half for production crops but I truly don’t have the time and the waiting list at my site is now running at about 5 years, maybe more). So this is the space I have and we just have to maximise it.

So let’s talk crops.

First the perennials. Blueberries, plums, gooseberries, raspberries, rhubarb, alpine strawberries, boysenberries, blackcurrants, black berries. We’ve expanded the amount of strawberries we’re growing this year and new is my little cherry tree. We need to look after it and hope it produces, I think the lemon and lime tree may have died, but we’ll see. I’m expecting a smaller year for the plums and boysenberries, because I need to seriously prune both of them and raspberries because of moving a bed.

I’d like to try again with wild garlic, garlic chives and maybe even Egyptian walking onions and Taunton Dean kale. However, they are maybe’s not must haves.

In terms of herbs, we have rosemary (normal and bbq), lemon verbena, chives, oregano (common which is – currently trying to colonise the plot and hot and spicy), sage and blackcurrant sage. We have lots of mints (black, lime, strawberry, garden, spearmint, pineapple and so on), winter savoury, thyme (lemon, ordinary, lemon curd and orange), the olive herb, hyssop, and camomile lawn. Last year there was also camomile but I don’t know it that will come back. We also have lots of lavender (mostly hidcote) in the rose garden and wild area and some edelweiss at the back. Right at the back of the plot there’s lemon balm knocking about as well.

I don’t really think I need to add much more to it to be honest, but we’ll see when Urban Herbs opens it’s doors next month! I will of course grow basil, parsley, dill and coriander next year but with the exception of the Greek basil nothing too outlandish and just the seeds I have from gardening mags and in the case of the dill from my saved seed.

For the veg, I’ll start in the order I’ll sow them but this will go all over the place, so first up are the things I sowed on New Year’s Day, broad beans, sweet peas and leeks. Again no particular care taken with the varieties, just what I had, so the super aquadulce for broad beans, singin’ the blue sweet peas and elefant leeks, they are all in the polytunnel and may or may not be growing well. They are in the hands of the gods of gardening.

Next up for indoor sowing on a heat mat and growing on in the polytunnel are aubergines (again from free seed so it’ll probably be black beauty) and peppers (lipstick from Real Seeds). I have attempted both before but I bought the plants. We did get peppers but not aubergines. These two will fill a bed in the polytunnel so we’ll see how we do.

Sowing times get all confused but when I’m back on the plot in March I’ll sow spinach in the poly for an early spring crop and start with peas as well, we are growing Oskar and American wonder both from Real Seeds and both early dwarf peas. The first sowing of carrots will be the tricolour ones I’ve been growing for a couple of years and some chantenay again from whatever time I have in the seed box. I’ll sow another bed as soon as I have one free and they will also be free seeds so whatever I have probably autumn king or nantes. I’ll also sow radishes and lettuce and I went a bit crazy with seed this year, usually I just use the free seeds but I was seduced by Real Seeds ‘Mystery Mix of Radishes’, so we’ll be sowing them and seeing what we get. I also bought some lettuces that are good for cold weather so I’ll grow them in spring and again in the poly in autumn. For the rest we’ll get what we get. We’ll also grow beetroots and as usual we’ll just use the free seed packets.

The garlic is already in the ground, we have three beds this year, including elephant garlic and some of the garlic we grew last year and it’s all the early type designed to be ready in May and June to avoid the worse of the rust. We also have a few shallots in a bed, and in late March, I’ll so some salad leaves and chard in the other half of the bed. My seed potatoes are chitting and we’re growing nicola as a second early and rooster as a main crop, we’ll grow in pots and get what we get.

Coming into summer crops, melons, we’re going to sow early indoors and see if we can do better than last year, and we’re grow cucumbers in the poly (variety to be determined) and our usual mix outside, boothby’s blonde, early fortune and wautoma.

I love growing tomatoes and will dedicate four beds to them this year, roughly 40 plants (maybe more because I always seem to have extra plants!). This year for cherry tomatoes, we’ll grow gardeners sweetheart, if I could only grow one cherry tomato, this would be it. For a yellow, Ma has vetoed the millefleur because she found it too fiddly (my friend Sue loves this one so she has saved some seed). I think I’m going for galina and the chocolate cherry for fun. For bigger tomatoes, we’ll grow amish paste, orange banana and new to me are mosvich, which is extra hardy and latah a determinate variety. With the plan being that I’ll have a bed of tomatoes that don’t need too much attending too. We’ll see how that goes. All those seeds are from Real Seeds but I’ll also grow tigerella, marmande and cour di bue from saved seed.

For courgettes and summer squash, we will grow an early prolific straightneck, a patty pan and two courgettes, other than the straightneck I’ve not determined varieties. Winter squash is a return to old favourites too, we’ll grow hokkaido, Waltham butternut, boston, honeybear and I think the new squash on the block will be Queensland blue, don’t quote me on that though because at the time of writing, my seed box isn’t where I am!

What we will do differently this year is beans. On the winter squash beds, we’ll grow lazy housewife, gigantes and Cherokee Trail of Tears for drying. The heat was hard for them this year but we did get a good-ish crop and liked them. We’re also going to grow carlin peas to see how they do. For french beans we are doing, green, yellow and purple beans all dwarf varieties.

We’re going to have another go at sweet potatoes, same type as last year but outside.

We’ll grow the winter veg as usual, chard, kale, sprouts, cabbage, cauliflower, swede, turnips and maybe broccoli, I’m going to try and grow from seed. Again, I’m going to use the free seed packets.

Finally, I’ll sow some more zinnias, nasturtiums and poached eggs plants. I’m expecting all the self sown flowers to come up as usual!

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Small Goals for 2023: February

As I mentioned last month, I’m keeping goals small and manageable this year

Before I get into February, let’s have a brief recap of January.

In short, I didn’t do well.

Let’s start with the successes, budget was a big tick, I didn’t use my credit card and I didn’t spend over the money I had in my purse. I didn’t buy lunches and I really worked on emptying the freezer, which I mostly did.

The not so great list was everything else.

  • I wanted to walk 10k steps every day and hit 310,000 for the month. I was thinking I really missed this one but in fact, I walked 263,711 in January. Which is much less worse than I thought I did. So I was 46,289 steps short.
  • Yoga every day. I didn’t think this one through. It’s really hard to commit to an activity that you need space for, when you are packing up your flat. I did four days of yoga before the whole thing became untenable and I decided to push this one to March, assuming that I’m back in the flat and it’s organised enough to do it. Also giving the current state of my hips and lower back, it’s something I’m going to need to do.
  • 10pm bedtime and Golden Hour, nope. This was something I should have done but didn’t do consistently. This is on me, I gave in to my worse impulses. It was January, I was stressed by the whole concept of moving and I didn’t do a good job.

Having said that, I feel I did alright in January. It’s always a difficult month and I was extra stressed by I didn’t over spend, I did get the flat packed up (which is something made so much easier with Ma chivvying me on and Sue and Richard organising a trip to the dump).

So let’s talk about February. I’m at Ma’s, probably until at least 18 February, I’ve already mentioned that living with Ma, exerts some natural discipline because she’s doing a bunch of things for me (cooking dinner, washing and ironing – this is the most ironed my clothes have ever been!) and I’ve reverted to doing what I’m told! However, I didn’t realise until last week, how much I needed it, because like almost everyone else I know, the three COVID lockdowns and hybrid working have left me a bit adrift, and I didn’t realise how adrift, until I did a full week in the office.

Continuous days in the office require a discipline that I’ve lost over the past three years and it’s been kind of nice to find it again, in a supported way, and to realise that I want more of it. Look, I do know this about myself, but one of the things I really want for this year is ease and a lot of ease comes from preparation and discipline. It absolutely sucks that this is the case but there it is. So with that in mind and with the knowledge that I’ll be back in my house (God and builders willing) sometime this month, here are the small things I want to do in February:

  • 70,000 steps a week (which I’m basically getting done by Friday because of the walk between the office and the station five days a week), to equate to 280,000 by the end of February;
  • Stretching every day because my hamstrings are tight and so are my hips;
  • Food prep on the weekend, so that breakfast and lunch are ready and consistent;
  • 10pm bedtimes on school nights;
  • More office time once I’m home (3-4 days once I’m home, it’s every day while I’m at Ma’s); and
  • I’d like to have the flat sorted and everything unpacked by the end of this month, building work permitting.

That’s all I’m doing until Lent, when I’m adding my tradition ban on sweets, cakes, biscuits and crisps and I’d like to make time for the examen every day.

See you for the wrap up in March!

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Monday Miscellany: Week Two

Happy Monday!

I’ve been at Ma’s a week and it’s going fine. I’m finding it both delightful and strange to have all my washing done (and everything ironed) as well as coming home and finding dinner on the table. I suddenly really understand why my colleagues with wives at home are so relaxed about everything!

I’m not enjoying the 6am wake up quite as much but when did I ever? I am quite enjoying the walking into the office although, I’ve had to enlist Mum’s help with stretching my hamstrings each night to help un-tighten my hips. Once I’m home and the flat is unfucked, I’m going to have to put some serious work into yoga to unfuck my lower back, hips and knees (getting old is no joke!)

The rest of the week was also ok, I ordered the fridge freezers, got a picture of the stripped back kitchen. It’s all happening.

On Saturday, I headed off to Christelle and Mike’s for dinner, which gave Ma a rest from me. I got home on Sunday and we had a cosy afternoon and I had an afternoon nap.

This week, I’m ready for more of the same. Work is also going to be busy, Ma is out on Wednesday, so I will have to cook my own dinner (the horror!) and its Grace on Saturday, so we’ll see if I can make that. I have no idea what will be up with the flat by then. I’m hoping to be able to spend the weekend painting the bedroom but suspect that the kitchen won’t be finished and I’ll have to spend another week at Ma’s, we’ll see.

Have a good week!

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