Monday Miscellany

Morning! I hope you are all ready to start another week, I’m always ready and never quite ready, there is always too much to entertain me at home! Which is probably how you should feel about where you live, I love my little flat!

Anyway, miscellany….I bought tulips this weekend, they were 75 pence a bunch so it felt like I had to buy them…

My current netflix obsession is the Miss Fisher Murder Mysteries, they are like Australian 20’s Agatha Christie and I have just a crush on Miss Fisher’s bob, I know from bitter experience that my hair won’t do that but I really admire other people’s perfect hair. I notice that everyone seems to want their hair to do the opposite of what it does, people with straight hair want curly hair and blondes want to be redheads and so on. Overall though, I like my hair which is pretty much like my mum’s, the only difference being colour!

This weekend Ma and I ate our Easter lunch, for Easter we were at Ben and Lu’s and that was lovely (if I do say so myself!) but Ma and I are creatures of tradition and the anchovy roast lamb is an Easter tradition, so we did it a week later…

When it comes to maths, I am the family dud, Ma, Ben, Oli and Laura are all freakishly good at it (I have hopes of Joe but he counts better than he speaks, so those hopes are probably in vain!), which is why I’m not surprised that Ma did a cost analysis to work out whether the compost from Wicks or Homebase was cheaper. It was Wickes….so we went off to buy 580 litres, which is a lot to wheelbarrow to the plot, but I managed it. It also seems much nicer compost than the Homebase stuff.

I finally got all the potatoes planted and gave the shed another cost of paint. We’ve had two sunny days but the weather forecast predicts rain every day this week except Wednesday, at least it’s not snow but I am ready for proper Spring now but the signs are there

On Friday, I came home and really did not want to be dressed, so I took my jeans off and wondered around the house with no trousers on for a bit. My dad used to do this too and Joe is at the stage where he takes his trousers off at any given opportunity. Genetic inheritance right there….

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Friday Links

Happy Friday! It’s been a bit quite around here this week mainly because I caught a bug and have been throwing up, not fun, Ma tells me that nephew no 1 has been ill too and took himself off to bed at 4 in the afternoon. Anyway, bed and sleep and Radio 4 are the best way to cope with feeling sick. That and fizzy water. I’m feeling better.

I posted on Tuesday Start the Week (which had my brother – Hi B! – wondering if I was going to get all religious, I’m not sure if it’s reassuring or worrying that he hasn’t noticed my whole life!!) and goals for April

Here are this week’s links…

Ecuador Shuts Off Julian Assange’s Internet Access in Apparent Response to Recent Russia Tweets Cards on the table, I don’t believe that Julian Assange is being unlawfully detained, he put himself in that embassy and he keeps himself there. So I’m very amused by this.

Would you take £1m now, or £1,000 a week for the rest of your life? I’m not a millennial but I’d take the weekly sum!

How to bring a high street back from the dead

Ray Wilkins died. He was only 61, Richard Williams sums up why football has lost someone special.

A while ago, Sarah posted her Desert Island Books and I’ve been thinking about mine ever since and it’s harder than Desert Island Discs….don’t make me play favourites with the books…

 

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Monthly Goals – March/April 2018

I’m all over the place this week, with the bank holiday and then on Tuesday a bug of some kind. I had to go home on Tuesday afternoon and haven’t left the house since!

Anyway, with March over, we are through the first quarter of the year and it’s been an odd month. It’s not been a good month for illness, I celebrated the last day of February, by putting my back out in spectacular fashion. I’ve hurt my back before and it’s been painful but I’ve been able to move, a bit more slowly than usual but I’ve got to work and I’ve got around. Not this time, I couldn’t stand straight, I couldn’t sit upright, it was seriously the worst it’s ever been, at some points crawling was the only way to get around and simple things like getting out of bed took 5 to 10 minutes. It resulted in two days off work and a weekend of doing very little. There was more snow on St Patrick’s Day and it was another weekend when I didn’t leave the house because I was ill, this time it was just a cold and much milder than usual (I didn’t miss any work days) but I wasn’t taking any chances. In between bouts of illness that kept me indoors, Ma and I spent the weekend in Shefford with the boys, where I caught the cold, but other than that, I had a pretty anti social month!

But on how I did with my March goals

Mind and Body

  • 10,000 steps a day. – Nope, nope so much nope. The target was 310,000 for the month and didn’t get there 
  • Vitamins every day. – This was easy, I take all four at night (multi-vitamin, vitamin d, folic acid and a high strength glucosamine, MSM and chondroitin tablet)
  • Feet and Hands. – again pretty easy to do, I do it before I go to bed
  • Golden hour – I’ve been maintaining this pretty strictly because last month my sleep was appalling and doing this helps a lot, and can be seen in my sleep stats in March I had a weekly average of 4h 35min sleep against the 3hr45min I got in February.

Budget & Spending

  • Stick to the spending budgets for food and household – yep, I did this, even when factoring my ‘throw money at it’ approach when I was ill.
  • No card use. I need to leave my debit card at home this month – didn’t manage it. I used my card, mostly in the chemist!

House Beautiful

  • Hoover once a week, my dislike of hoovering is well known, so I need to make it a weekly habit. – nope, see above about hurting my back. 
  • Defrost freezer – nope
  • Sort out underbed storage – this did not happen
  • Clean oven – nope
  • Curtains in the bedroom – this didn’t happen either!

Allotment  (why is this the longest list?)

  • bonfire
  • Paint the shed
  • start sowing seeds indoors (leeks, tomatoes, cucumbers, cucamelons, peppers, kale, chard, cauliflowers) – we’ve did leeks, tomatoes and sweetpeas on St Patrick’s Day 
  • start sowing seeds outdoors (beetroot, carrots, radishes, peas, salad, herbs) – nope see above answer about the snow and the rain!
  • plant out potatoes the anyas are planted out, the others I’ll do this weekend. 
  • buy compost and fill up remaining beds – nope, we had plans but neither of us felt up to doing it on Monday in the rain
  • plant out mint – done and we’ll see if it lives

Year so far

Reading – The TBR list on the Kindle stands at 92 and the physical pile of books is at 32, it slowly coming down, I just have to stop buying and borrowing books (it’s a disease!)

Household budget – I started with £52.20 ended with £12.00. I’ll have £52.00 for April

Food Budget – I had £14.86 left over which went in the jar.

Saving – The jar now contains £102.43

Health – So it’s not been the best month health wise. My bad back got much, much worse and I caught a cold. Good news is that my back seems better and it wasn’t a terrible cold, I was functional and I didn’t get a cough, so I’m feeling positive about that. But I do think that my overall health is being affected by the low level stress caused by not having a permanent job and temping. There’s nothing much I can do about that apart from work harder to find a permanent role! In other good news the clocks went back in March and we have much more daylight, which always helps. 

April Goals

April, so far is looking very quiet. It’ll be work and allotment and growing all the plants….

Mind and Body

  • 10,000 steps a day.
  • Vitamins every day.
  • Feet and Hands.
  • Golden hour

Budget & Spending

  • Stick to the spending budgets for food and household.
  • No card use. Let’s see if I can make this work for April

House Beautiful

This is pretty much all repeats of March because I didn’t get it done last month

  • Hoover once a week, my dislike of hoovering is well known, so I need to make it a weekly habit.
  • Sort out underbed storage
  • Clean oven
  • Defrost fridge
  • Curtains in the bedroom

Allotment  (still the longest list!)

  • bonfire
  • sowing seeds indoors (summer and winter squash, cucumbers etc)
  • start sowing seeds outdoors (beetroot, carrots, radishes, peas, salad, herbs)
  • sowing flowers in various places around the plot
  • greenhouse?
  • sort out the section at the top of the plot where the squash are going
  • compost
  • finish planting the potatoes
  • another coat of paint on the shed

 

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Start the Week

It’s Tuesday and there has been a bank holiday and today is the start of the working week. Which is silly because I worked over the long weekend too. I cleaned the house, food prepped, cooked most of a roast dinner on Sunday, changed a couple of nappies (it’s always work but it’s especially work when they are not your children, yes even if they are your nephews, it’s work!), changed the bed and hoovered! Work. I also walked 10 miles with a dog and a friend, mostly in the mud and sometimes in the rain but that was for fun!

I did most of that work on my own time though, when I wanted to do it and with downtime in between tasks. Today is work, I don’t choose it and yet I have to do it because I do choose, in so far as I am able to choose, to have a roof over my head and food in the fridge. So I work.

The long Easter weekend is over, but Easter isn’t. I am still in Easter and I want to think about what Easter has taught me this year. What happens every year as I work my way through my life and the Christian calendar is that I learn something new about my life, my faith and what the hell I’m doing with all of it and sometimes it comes out over the course of the year and sometimes I have huge leaps of learning. Much to my surprise because I didn’t plan for it, Lent and Easter has been a learning time.

So what didn’t I plan to learn?

I’m a great one for doing, this Lent I spent more time thinking. A dedicated time every day with God. You can call it meditation, prayer, listening, whatever works for you, but I’ve been doing it. The phrase that keeps echoing through my head has been ‘God has work for you’.

The people that know me well and some of the people that don’t are probably aware that my single, childless state was not of my choosing and has been privately painful for some time. I’ve always been pretty clear that if it didn’t happen then it was probably because God didn’t mean for it to happen. That doesn’t mean that I’ve been ok about it because it has been painful. I’ve really been thinking hard about what it means when God says no.

God has work for me, seems to be the answer. When I was confirmed, I offered my life to God, I say it every time I say the Lord’s Prayer (Thy will be done), so I can hardly be surprised when God takes me at my word and instead of giving me the work I want, partnering and parenting, and gives me something else.

I’m still not sure what that work is but I have the rest of the year to work it out!

 

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Friday Links

No, it’s ok, I know it’s not actually Friday. It is however, the last day of the week if you’re in the UK and the beginning of the long weekend.

For all that I’m not really a churchgoer any more, I am a Christian and this week and the weekend are a pretty big deal. Sunday is also Lu’s birthday so I’ll be spending some of the weekend with the family too.

In case you missed anything this week, my usual round of my posts this week starts as ever with miscellany and my usual allotment update – where there has actually been some progress!!

And here is the other stuff..

The hard truth about back pain. Having recovered from my first severe back pain incident, I did the exercises on the hour and tried to make sure that I moved, but for the first two days, it was almost like my brain had forgotten how to walk or sit or stand up. After the first two days, I was able to walk more and it helped but before that walking just made the pain worse whereas rest helped.

The Grenfell Tower recovery is still being treated as a PR problem

The Hate U Give wins Waterstones children’s book of the year. I also completely agree with James Daunt that this book needs to be read by adults too.

A harassed woman tweeting her story isn’t tantamount to a witch hunt

These gaping holes in male learning and collective action are filled not only by female solidarity, where knowing women look out for one another and swoop in where able, but also by a noisy minority of men whose chief priority in the war against sexual harassment seems to be in reminding everyone that not all men are evil.

How to boost your business? Let workers sleep

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Allotment Adventures: Paint the Shed Grey!

This week’s allotment post will actually feature work done on the allotment! The weather gods were smiling on London and we had a clear, warmish day on Sunday. The rhubarb is finally starting to come up, it’s been on the verge of it for weeks. The rhubarb isn’t the only sign of spring, the grape hyacinths are appearing, there are buds on the plum tree and blueberries and leaves on the raspberries and gooseberries, tiny leaves but leaves nonetheless.Remember I said that I’d solved the mystery of the additional roll of edging, and that the benefactor had been my lovely allotment neighbour, as she was helping clear an abandoned plot. She also found six fixed edging thingies (the type that we’ve been using to surround some beds) and left them on the plot. Ma and I bought two more and lo instead of one big salad bed that everyone walks on, we have two smaller ones!On the bits that aren’t fenced in and aren’t paths, I’ve sown some herbs (coriander) and I’ll sow some flowers. That was my first job, then we planted out some of the potatoes. The anyas. I’m not sure that it isn’t too early but they weren’t so much chitting as becoming trees, also weird cold weather aside, they need planting. We are growing them in bags so I’ve also covered them in fleece, which should protect them from frost. We also sowed two rows of peas (early onwards) and covered them in fleece too. You can see them in this photo.That done, I also split the mint and it went into the green container, two terracotta pots and a bucket.

Then while Ma got on with weeding, I painted the shed with it’s first coat of paint. Finally.It’ll need another couple of coats and then we’ll just do another every autumn.

I also dug over and sort of fenced off the area that I want to plant borlotto beans in this year, you can see it the other side of the broad beans.

It was good to get out and spend the time on the plot. I often feel that I don’t do enough and because I really held back with the sowing, I was worried that I was behind but having spent the day on the plot, we really aren’t, we’re in good shape!

There is a list of things to do though!

  • Plant out the rest of the potatoes
  • Fill the beds that haven’t already been filled with compost
  • work out the space at the top of the plot for winter squash
  • greenhouse
  • build cloche and get the leeks and the sweetpeas out of the house
  • finish prep on the new bean (borlotto) bed
  • sow cucumbers, courgettes, crookneck and cucamelon seeds
  • sow more tomatoes
  • sow beetroot, spinach and salad
  • another coat of paint on the shed
  • sow flowers
  • set up another round flower bed

 

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Monday Miscellany

Happy Monday!

Well folks, it’s a new week! Last week was pretty good, I had a wobble on Saturday but allowed myself a bit of time to be sad and then pulled myself together! Which was good because Ma and I had allotment plans and I wanted to sort myself out for this week. Which I’m happy to report I did.

We’re nearly at the end of Lent and it’s been a really good Lent for me, I’ve spend some time thinking about my life and the thing that has been resonating for me and that I’ve kept coming back to is that ‘God has other work for me to do’. I’ve made no secret that being single and childless and nearly 45 is not how I expected my life to go. It doesn’t mean that I don’t love my life right now, I’m very lucky and although it’s hard sometimes, it’s not awful all the time. It’s been really interesting how over the course of the Grace Lent’s Whatsapp group, so many women have found fertility and carrying and being single and Mother’s Day tricky. The difficulty of not following the conventional marriage and children path even though most of us didn’t chose the paths we found ourselves on. This has kept popping up for me over Lent in other spaces. Friends who can’t have children, or are struggling with parenting. I didn’t get the wish of my heart, which seems odd because I’m really good with children! But my lack of them means that I get to spend more time with other people’s children and this little one, seen trying (I think) to feed a lamb!

Ok serious stuff asides, this week is busy, I have a short work week this week, an appointment with Ma for clothes shopping (I loathe clothes shopping and really try to avoid it but most of my summer clothes and sandals died last summer so it’s time to re-up my wardrobe!), more allotmenting and more family time, we are going up to babysit and to celebrate Laura’s birthday which is over the weekend!

Next week is full of good things, I just need to get over myself so I can enjoy it! Given that my aims for this week are all about getting enough sleep and looking after my space. I also want to spend some time reading and get some bedtime yoga in this week.

What’s everyone else up to?

 

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Friday Links

Happy Friday!

 

In case you missed them, this week’s posts miscellany, Cold Cures (well not exactly cures but coping with and getting rid of colds), this week’s allotment update was all about how it’s still winter even though it’s technically spring, and yesterday

Homelessness minister doesn’t know why homelessness is rising but is sure it’s nothing to do with cuts and universal credit. Really, either this woman is very, very stupid or she’s a liar. Neither is good.

If you’re homelessness minister, maybe you should know something about it Neil Coyle says it better.

This doesn’t help. UK surge in housing costs for poorest ‘worst in western Europe’

Let’s move to Spalding. This is were my grandma grew up, I can’t believe that they mentioned pork pies but not haslet!

Julie Washington’s Quest to Get Schools to Respect African-American English This is interesting.

‘Women are having different fantasies’: romantic fiction in the age of Trump. Also interesting…

The rise of the alpha single. I’m not sad and lonely, I’m on the bleeding edge of a trend! But this was good, this in particular

If my thesis on single life is sounding idealistic to you, let me concede that it isn’t a perfect riot of martinis, sex parties and sleeping in starfish position. There are wobbles, even if like me you have no children to worry about. This Valentine’s Day I came back to my desk after lunch to find that a well-meaning publicist had delivered a bunch of heart-shaped helium balloons. I sat there all afternoon with what felt like a bleakly ironic neon sign hanging over my head: “No romance here,” it blinked in my mind’s eye. “Hasn’t received a real Valentine’s gift since 1993.”

When I’m tired, when I’m ill, when I’m not invited to a dinner party because I don’t come in a pair – these are moments when I feel sorry for myself, and miss the safety net of having someone who loves me and will put their arms around me. But listen – it’s still worth it. When I stack the good moments and the bad on the metaphorical weighing scales, I still understand that this is a happier situation overall than a mediocre relationship.

 

 

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Allotment Adventures: Too cold for any adventures

Nothing got done this weekend, because it was snowing. I’m so over winter.

This time last year, I had planted potatoes, the raspberries had leaves on themThe rhubarb also had leaves…

This weekend it was -1C. Global warming doesn’t mean everything is going to be hotter, it means the climate will be unstable.

I also had a cold so stayed indoors. Ma and I  sowed some tomatoes, sweet peas and leeks. I feel so behind but given the weather that might be fine…

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Cold Cures

I feel that I get more than my fair share of colds but apparently the average adult gets two to four a year and it’s been two and half months since I had the last one. Mind you that lasted nearly four weeks but then everyone seemed to have that cold and everyone was one for about a month, so I don’t think I’m special.

Last Thursday, I woke up at 4.30 in the morning and I was slightly bunged up and I had a tickle in the back of my throat and I knew this was going to be a cold. I’ve been really careful and I’ve been taking elderberry syrup and all my vitamins but I spent the weekend before with Ma, who has a cold and the boys, who are germ magnets, I commute on the train every morning, which is not known for it’s germ free environment and I’d been at the doctor’s on Wed afternoon. So somewhere in all that I’d picked something up and I think I must have subconsciously been aware I was incubating something because I’d spent the weekday evenings, sorting my life out. Over the weekend the mystery was solved, it was the nephews, O had ‘manflu’ and Lu and Ben both had colds.

Cassie had just rounded up her ‘how to cope with colds’ series with a list of her favourite cold and flu remedies, which got me thinking about what I do when I have a cold or infection. Because it’s pretty much the same every time and waking up on Thursday morning, I started to go through it.

Ginger, Lemon and Honey Soother and lots of water.

I make a big batch of this for the fridge at home and to take into work with me, I use a lot more ginger in this than I used to, because last time I was ill, ginger seemed to be the only thing that helped the coughing, I also eat the ginger (it is extreme but it helps!). I drink this all through the day and for every cup of it I manage I also drink a glass of water. Fluids are important and I make sure I have lots of them!

Ginger Shots

I continue the ginger theme with ginger shots from Pret but I also can get them from Sainsburys. I find they help and it might just be the juice element adding to my Vitamin C intake but at this point, I don’t care.

Elderberry Syrup

I’m not sure whether this is having any effect but I have it so I increase the amount to tablespoon every two to three hours through the day.

Sleep

When I’m ill, I sleep. Some small children get wired when they are ill, I was never one of them. When I’m sick, my body wants to sleep, that’s easier said than done because I need to work and it’s hard to sleep if you’re coughing and bunged up.  I do get all the rest I can and have been known to come home, take my make up off and go straight to bed. 

Cold and Flu Medicine

I’m happy to try all the ‘natural’ remedies in the world if they help but at the same time God gave us the ability to science the hell out of things and so I’m more than happy to use cold and flu medicine if I need to. Generally, if it’s a mild cold, I don’t need to take anything during the day but I do take Night Nurse to ensure that I get a relatively good nights sleep.

VapoRub, Olbas Oil and Tiger Balm

When I have a cold, I smell like all of the above. I use the Olbas Oil through the day and smother my neck, chest and back in VapoRub before bed time. I also put tiger balm or VapoRub on the soles of my feet and cover with bedsocks before bedtime.

 

Tidy and organised

Ok, so being caught up on household chores and having an empty laundry basket or tidy kitchen don’t make me feel physically better, however, knowing that they are done or only need minimal work from me relives my mental load and allows me to relax and get on with getting well. Also having to wrestle through a mess or a load of laundry post cold doesn’t help with recovery. Added to that, although I would love to go to bed at the first sign of a sniffle and stay there until it was gone that doesn’t pay the rent so I have to do the 9 to 5 and when I’m ill, I need everything to be as easy as possible.

That looks slightly different each time but last week, it looked like doing a food shop on Thursday night and making batch of chilli, a batch of onion soup and a batch of boiled chicken.  They are all freezable and are easy to eat and heat and relatively  good for me. While I had the energy, I changed the bed and the towels (because those things always make me feel better and got the dirty ones washed (once they dry it takes five minutes to put them away).

Food as Medicine

I’m not super strict about it but I limit alcohol, additional sugar and dairy and try to eat healthily. Last week, I tried this smoothie to have for breakfast and it was great on my sore throat and the meals I cooked were easy to eat and relatively good for me.

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