2023: The Year of Small Goals

I’m rubbish at New Year’s Resolutions and goal setting generally. I’ve done it, this space is littered with my attempts. I work better under external pressure, than I am at internal pressure but the weird thing is that over the last few years, without setting big goals, I’ve stuck to my general aims better.

This is because I changed my attitude to my goals and aims. Working towards them became a gift to my future self, so doing them was a good thing, while not doing them wasn’t proof that I was lazy and weak willed, I assigned no morality to failure.

This year is the year I turn 50 so there are some things I want to work towards this year and rather than set massive goals, I’m going to list some small things every month that I’d like to do. It has to be monthly because I may not be able to do continue to do all the things in February as at least the first two weeks of that month are going to be full on as I move to my mum’s and the flat gets a make over! So small things, that will help me feel saner, calmer and more in control of my life!

So in January, I want to try and do these things each day:

Stretching and Yoga

In 2015, I had a scarf and akin osteotomy on my left foot. At the appointment to sign me off and send me back to work, I asked the surgeon if there was anything I could do to prevent the bunion coming back and help the one on the right foot for getting worse. He told me that I should learn to walk on my hands because my feet weren’t that good for walking on! All that to say that the mechanics of my feet, legs, hips and back aren’t great. I’ve noticed recently that my hips and back are tight and sore, admittedly some of this is age and weight but I know that yoga and regular stretching help me and reduce pain, so rather than do them when everything really hurts, I’d like to make it a daily thing, to see if it helps.

Walk more

I work from home 2-3 days a month and that means I can go a whole day without leaving the house, while there have been days when I haven’t left the house and have done 6k steps (according the the fitbit) it’s rare. So I want to set an intention of getting 70k steps a week. The fitbit records it and if the weather is filthy, then I can do a walking workout.

Sleep and Golden Hour

December has done a number on my bedtime routine, I need to get back to it because over Christmas, I got more sleep and it’s been lovely. So more ensuring that I get to bed relaxed and in good time for a decent amount of sleep.

Low Spend Janauary

I don’t need to do this, but it’s good practice after the excess of Christmas and the shock of £300 on varifocal glasses (my glasses are always expensive and varifocal’s make it more expensive – getting old sucks). I also need to run the freezer down this month before the kitchen renovation starts, so the only shopping I want to do is for food and I want to spend no more than £48 which happens to be the exact amount of cash I have in my purse right now. The only other spending will be for bird food for the plot but that comes out of the allotment budget.

Meal Planning and Food Prep

If I can’t throw money at it, I need to take the time to cook and work out how to use the food I have in the house. At the very least, I need to make sure that I have food ready to go for the days I’m in the office.

None of these things are revolutionary, it’s all basic stuff that I’ve done for the majority of last several years, this is just me setting the intention to make it habit again. Small stuff…

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Monday Miscellany: January 2023

Happy Monday!

It’s the first Monday of the year, I think I probably say this every year, but the last 12 months flew by, and I’m surprised to find myself at the start of another year.

December felt brutal but this last week to do Christmas and New Year has been a rest. It’s been a lovely time where I’ve managed some time to rest and to be social.

Christmas Day was just Mum and me and we did manage to grow most of the veg for Christmas dinner! We caught up with Ben and Lu and the boys on Thursday and it was a really lovely relaxed afternoon.

Although January is underway, I don’t go back to work until tomorrow, so I’m taking today to get myself ready for it, with housework and prep. January isn’t a terribly busy month, but once the tree comes down, I need to start packing up the flat in preparation for leaving it at the end of January. Yes, finally the builders are coming to replace the kitchen and do a bunch of other things that my landlord feels is necessary (fusebox replacement, new lights in the hall, replastering of one of bedroom walls, acoustic underlay in the kitchen). It’s great that it’s being done but it does mean that I have to pack up the kitchen, cupboard of doom and bedroom and fit it all into the living room and move out for a couple of weeks. On the plus side, I’ll be in the office every day for a couple of weeks and it’s a great opportunity for me to paint the bedroom and sort out a wardrobe (finally – only taken 13 years!). It’s just a hassle, working out what I need to take to Ma’s and imposing on her for a couple of weeks, we’ve done it before but we were both working then but this time the commute is easier!

Have a good week, I hope that re-entry is smooth!

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Friday Links: Strikes

Happy Friday!

From antibiotics to eggs, this is the age of inconvenience. We’d better get used to it. I’ve had a mindset shift on this because of the allotment but yes, I’m now a person that has a toilet roll delivery and orders flour in 16kg packs.

I’m so cold I live in my bed – like the grandparents in Charlie and the Chocolate Factory. I was talking about this the other day, I’m not there yet but I was considering re-purposing the old camping duvet for the living room.

How to dry clothes indoors and save money on laundry. I used some of my cost of living payment in the summer to buy a heated airer and a dehumidifier. The airer is pretty good but the dehumidifier is amazing, I’m actually thinking about getting another in for the bathroom and hall. Without the heating on the room with the dehumidifier running is 1.5C warmer than the room without! And I always towel dry my hand washing (but I really miss the spin drier we had at home when I was a kid!)

The big idea: has organic food passed its sell-by date? I don’t buy or grow organic food. I’m much more interested in sustainable farming and eating. In terms of the plot I wouldn’t pass a soil association test but perfect is the enemy of good, we’re working on making our own compost and I’m committing this year to only buying used mushroom or peat free compost this year.

Can an Island Feed Itself? This is about Puerto Rico, which has different issues but it’s important, if only our government could think it’s way out of a paper bag, Defra would be thinking more about food security and sustainability…

Will striking nurses affect my care as an NHS patient? That’s a price I’m willing to pay

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Allotment Adventures: Frost

On Saturday, Ma and I went to the allotment to collect, it was -1C on Saturday morning, we didn’t intend to do anything else.

Jasmine

As usual, in the winter, when it’s cold and we don’t want to be on the plot for a long time, there was woodchip.

We had woodchipped the old half of the plot in September but never quite got it together to do the rest, so this was a godsend, as soil on the new part of the plot isn’t as healthy as it could be and while we top up the beds, the woodchip is what we’re using to condition the soil on the paths. So we got a chunk of the main path at the back covered.

Covered

We also tidied the brussels sprouts bed too but by 12:30pm, we were done!

My favourite rose really needs to go into hibernation now!
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Monday Miscellany: Snow and Frost

Happy Monday!

I know it’s Monday evening not morning but work is busy and I am tired and cold and seasonally affected so the last place my effort goes is here. Which means that things slip. And last week was busy.

We celebrated Ma’s birthday again on Monday, with a grown up lunch at Hawksmoor.

Ma and I stopped off at the Whisky Exchange shop on the way home, where I proved (yet again) that I can’t be trusted. Yes, I did buy a heavily peated whisky, no one is more surprised than me!

On Tuesday, Ma and I had a nice breakfast and did some shopping in Kingston, we lasted two hours before we were done. We didn’t get many of the things that we planned to but neither of us really enjoy shopping so two hours is about our limit.

Wednesday was the beginning of my work week and it was busy because I had two days to get five days work done. Friday was our re-arranged Christmas/Year End celebration. Please don’t get me wrong it was a good day but I spend a lot of the team days, running around because when organising is your job, it doesn’t stop when the party starts because you are the only person that knows what’s supposed to be happening. So I started the day, buying snacks, organising and doing the coffee run and liaising with catering because I forgot to include myself in the numbers for lunch…

Still it was fun and everyone has said they enjoyed it, so not bad for a party that had to be moved forward a week and completely re-thought because of train strikes! (and we still came in under budget!)

The weekend was still cold but the allotment had to be visited, and I had some errands to run in the afternoon. By about 7pm, I realised that I didn’t feel well enough (cold, shivery and achey) to get myself to Grace, so I went to bed (I realised on Monday that it was lady problems – peri menopause strikes again). I may have also been slightly over-extended socially, and a day of no people on Sunday was definitely required.

Plans for this week are work and everything else is about being indoors. It’s been cold for this time of year and there was snow yesterday night. I know that there are colder parts of the world and the country (poor Scotland) but this time of year the average temperatures in London are between 9C and 5C, for the last five days it’s not got above 3C and that will continue until the weekend!

We are also in train strike week, I’m planning to be in the office tomorrow and Wednesday, but that’s really TFL dependent, the trains were struggling today, so we’ll see. At the weekend, I’m delivering supplies to Ma’s house and going to the Grace Christmas party.

Have a good week!

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Friday Links: Cold

Happy Friday! We’re having our first properly cold December for a while, it was -1c when I left the house this morning and for London that’s practically artic. As ever the North is having it worse but Ma has been saying it’s going to be a hard winter since about May. So it’s nice for her to be right!

Here are this week’s links…

This winter of discontent will harden the feeling that the Tories have broken Britain

Martin Lewis charity highlights mental toll of cost of living crisis

Thérèse Coffey rules out help for farmers and consumers facing higher costs. It’s not the job of government to give out free food, it is the job of government to make sure that we have a food system that is sustainable. Not something they are doing a great job of right now.

Why inheritance is the dirty secret of the middle classes – harder to talk about than sex

Suella Braverman is spoiling for a fight on human rights – one that undermines this whole government

Have no doubt: opening a coalmine in Cumbria is a climate crime against humanity. It’s just so stupid.

As the Michelle Mone PPE scandal deepens, ministers can no longer feign ignorance

The price of ‘sugar free’: are sweeteners as harmless as we thought?

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Monday Miscellany: Birthday Fun

Happy Monday!

My motto for the week

Last week was Stef’s anniversary (Tues) Christelle (Wed) and Ma’s (Sunday) birthday. It has the potential to be an emotional week. Added into it was my own shit, we’ve had to change the date of the team Christmas celebration to this Friday coming, which has taken some work and I had to run a business continuity meeting and everyone is so busy, I never get everything on the list done, so I always feel behind. (I was also having my first period in two months, this is peri menopause). I was also getting ready for family lunch for Ma’s birthday on Saturday.

Cake for birthday breakfast!

However, it wasn’t an emotional week, i think because I was too busy! I spend some time with Michael on Tuesday afternoon and powered through work (mostly from home!), yes, I did work until 7pm on Friday night and log in on Sunday to check email but it was worth it for having two days off this week!

I got the flat tidy and dog proof (only to have Ben decide to leave Barney at home!), lunch was made, we had a lovely time. It was lovely to see everyone but I missed Barney and we all missed Oli, who was off for his first skiing lesson, we are a family with a teenager and a pensioner for the first time since Ben and I were teens! The Fitbit registered over 7.5k steps and 161 minutes exercise in a day when I only went outside to take out the rubbish, such was the intensity of my homemaking and hostessing on Saturday!!

The succulent collection

Today, I’m at Ma’s house and we have ‘jolly japes’ planned for the next couple of days. Hawksmoor for lunch today and some Christmas shopping on Tuesday.

The rest of the week is work, a re-arranged Christmas party, allotment work, Grace and some time in a dark room by myself!

Have a good week!!

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Sunday Music: The Muppets Carol of the Bells

It’s Advent. Time for some Christmas ‘music’

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Friday Links: December

Happy Friday!

It’s been a while. Here are some links…

Facing eviction, I’ve learned that relying on ‘good landlords’ is a feudal throwback. So much this…

In Buckingham Palace and outside it, we know what it means when people ask ‘where are you from’

We didn’t ask for Lady Hussey to resign. But, really, the monarchy must do better on race. My mother’s family are English (from Lincolnshire and London), my Dad was the first of his siblings to be born outside of Ireland. (Ironically, it was my London Grandad that came from Kilburn). Dad would sometimes talk about not being invited to things as a kid because his parents were Irish, he was born in 1948 so I knew about the ‘no blacks, no Irish, no dogs’ signs and as a kid, I understood that Dad’s family were immigrants. So I also understood that the only real difference between me and the kids at school that got asked ‘where they really came from’ was skin colour. It’s a racist question, implying that black people don’t belong in the UK. There are no excuses and the Royal Family need to do better. (Although my first choice is still a republic and get rid of them!)

Riz Ahmed says it better than I could

How did gourds evolve to be so weird? Biologists think they know why

Black Panther: Wakanda Forever unearthed deep colorism within Latino communities

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Allotment Adventures: Compost

Over the last couple of weeks, we’ve been working on the compost.

Bees on a celeriac that went to seed. Yes it’s November, climate change is happening

I would have rather been sorting out the weeds but the compost was showing signs of being tunnelled into , so it was time to turn it. It’s also been time to get the bokashi bins out of the kitchen. It’s a bit early but I’m going to stop with the bokashi until after the kitchen is done, I’m going to need to clear everything out ad tree r Christmas and I won’t be home for big chunks of January, I don’t want to have to manage the bokashi on top of everything else so I’ll use the council collection for now.

So for the last two weeks, most of my allotment time has been compost related.

Cabbage

I’ve planted the self sown rosemary and lavender plants by the compost bins too. My thinking is the plants and their scent might deter the mice and rats from tunnelling again. I know it’s not fool proof but it’s something and it gets those plants out of the poly.

Non compost related work has centred around the strawberries. We now have three towers of strawberries and five spare plants. My plan is that next year we’ll make up two more towers from runners and keep doing that until we have 10 towers, at that point we can renew two towers every year to keep them producing strongly. Knowing me, we may well end up with 15 towers because I have three now but I’m sure that Ma will work to keep me on track!

The beginning of my strawberry empire!

The bath that the strawberries were in is now home to the Moroccan mint, one of them was outside and is dying back and one of them was in the polytunnel. I took the ginger mint and we have a garden mint in the poly to eke the season out, we drink a lot of mint tea, but at some point we switch to teabags, I know that I should sort myself out to dry some in the summer so that we can be sufficient in mint tea so maybe that’s something to aim for next year, with two tin baths of mint, six other types of min

The second mint bath

All the garlic is in, and the only things left to do are basically weeding and collecting. In January, we’ll sort out the patio area and move raspberries.

There’s always something to do but we are in the best shape we’ve ever been going into Christmas. This time three years ago, we were clearing the old shed at the back and we didn’t do it all by ourselves but I’m really proud of how well it’s looking in comparision.

1 December 2019 – the back of the plot

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