November

It’s November tomorrow.

First, what happened to the year? It seems to have just whizzed by.

Second, it’s November tomorrow. I find November really hard to deal with, it’s cold and miserable and the beginning of the doom and gloom that I don’t truly come out of until after Christmas. For the last couple of years, inspired by Krissie, I’ve tried to remember to be thankful, It’s helped a lot, as motivation to look for the good things instead of focussing on the negative ones and a reminder that life is not a terrible and dark place.

Krissie, through her coaching business is offering free daily email to remind you to do just that. Which is a godsend for me and I’ve signed up, I have no idea what it’s going to consist of but I’m looking forward to it.

If it sounds like something you might need through the next month, you can sign up here.

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What I Read – October 2013

The American Way of Eating – Tracie McMillan

I’m not sure that enjoy is a word I’d use given the subject matter, but I read this over a weekend which given the subject matter showed how it held my interest. McMillan goes ‘undercover’, working at jobs in the food industry, as a farm worker, at Walmart and then at Applebees and looking not only at how food in the States is produced but how difficult or not it is to eat well on minimum wage and why people don’t. On the way she covers, food snobbery, food prep, food deserts, and urban gardening. I know that the US has a slightly different way of doing things, but I suspect that it’s not that different from how food is produced in the UK and it has strengthened my resolve not to shop at Asda (owned by Walmart). Anyway, worth reading and really made me think about food and how it’s produced and sold.

The Coldest Girl in Coldtown – Holly Black

Loved this, loved Tana, loved that she rescued herself, loved that she understands how completely messed up she is and that she doesn’t mistake glamour for truth. Loved the mad love interest, the unreliable ex-boyfriend and the ending. Go and read, especially if you like vampire books where the vampires aren’t sparkly ‘vegetarians’.

Fortunately, the Milk – Neil Gaiman

This is lovely, I’m looking forward to Oli being old enough for it. Meets all my requirements for a ‘old enough to read by myself, but young enough to want pictures’ book. It’s handsized, beautifully illustrated and all 4 of the older godchildren read it in an hour but went back for the drawings.

The Final Empire, Mistborn Book 1 – Brandon Sanderson 

I really enjoyed this. It was just complicated enough and has set up the next book brilliantly. I sort of thought that some of it was too easy and we’ll see how the rest of the trilogy (all fantasy books seem to come in multiples!) goes.

Allegiant – Veronica Roth

Well, I didn’t see that coming! It’s difficult to say what I thought of this without giving away too much and I understand why so many people are unhappy with the ending. I’m not, although it wasn’t what I expected. I liked the ending, but then I firmly believe some Happy Ever Afters aren’t about being in a couple.

Before the ending though, comes the story and while the story is like crack, I found the Tobias/Tris split tricky as there wasn’t enough of a shift of tone. I liked that no one was all villain (except maybe Marcus) and thought that was an interesting choice, to portray domestic violence like that. My experience is that people who are violent really regret it and the only way they can deal with the fact that they keep doing it is to make it the victim’s fault. Marcus was always too much in control and the violence seemed plonked in the story and I felt was never well explained. The theme running through the book, that no-one is perfect, we all think we’re doing the right thing and trying to be basically good people wasn’t carried through to him and I found that odd, when Roth went to such lengths to do the opposite with Evelyn. I felt that Roth was trying to tell too many stories but I understand that, because I wanted to know all of them.

The House of Hades – Rick Riordan

I’m a big fan of Rick Riordan’s books. I like that they are easy to read and encourage readers to go and find out more about the Greek and Roman myths. I’m also happy that he manages to have his characters develop but keeps the stories readable for 12 year olds.  Luc read this in a day (it’s a pretty thick book) and is complaining about waiting another year for the next one. I liked that you could see that our heroes were changing and growing and I liked seeing that from other people’s viewpoints too. Nico’s development in particular has been great. The boy has issues and what he’s going to do about them is still in the air, but I did like that while his sexuality is a big deal for him and well explained in the context of him being out of time as well as it’s just a difficult thing. It isn’t a big deal for the other character that knows, who tries really hard to just be nice to him. Which is all you can really do for anyone going through something like that. However, Nico’s aloneness is echoed by Reyna’s aloneness, she doesn’t have the same issues but she is, like him left behind a lot and still does the ‘right’ thing. Nico’s issues are not all about his sexual orientation.

 

That’s it for this month. What are you reading?

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Right Now I’m..

Sleeping…ok not actually this minute but last night I was in bed at 9pm, lights out at 9.21pm. I’ve decided to go to bed when I’m tired and last night I was tired early. I think it’s a combination of the darker nights, being in ‘migraine fortnight’ and fighting off the cold that is making the rounds of the office.

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Happy…about weekend plans, theatre on Friday night and fireworks and family time on Saturday. Looking forward to Oli’s reaction to fireworks and sparklers now he’s a little bit older.

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Reading. The Waking Dark by Robin Wasserman. Suitable reading for Halloween!

Eating…..all the vegetables. Going with the theory that the more vegetables I can pack into my diet, the better. Last night, dinner had onions, carrots, corn, leeks, courgettes, squash, mushrooms and peppers in it. Also lentils and black beans. Yes. there were lots of leftovers and I should have taken a picture.

Thinking….that people need to stop going on about Christmas, it’s too early for Christmas music and Christmas treats. Having said that, the songs for this year’s Christmas CD are selected and ready to go!

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Resisting….the urge to put the heating on, it’s got colder this week but I don’t want to put the heating on until 1st November if I can help it and it’s not that cold yet!

Hoping…that it doesn’t rain until the roof is fixed. It’s a vain hope, I do live in England after all but I could happily go without water coming through my bedroom ceiling in the middle of the night ever again!

 

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Disaster bread update.

This weekend I revisited the disaster bread recipe and tried to get it right. It was only partially successful.

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The dough did rise but very slowly and when they were cooked the rolls looked ok but were…lacking something. They were tougher than I want them to be although quite tasty when I dipped them in coffee, which is a bad habit I picked up from the French contingent (the godchildren and Christelle dip pain au raisin and bread into coffee and it’s surprisingly good!)

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I think the dough recipe is tough because it’s designed to have syrup poured over it, which I don’t want to do! I’m not giving up on this though, so still no recipe!

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Extraordinary or being proud of your ancestors…

This weekend I read this in the Observer Magazine.

For those of you that can’t be bothered to click the link, it’s about some women who feel that they were forced to give up their children for adoption in the 50’s and 60’s and the group they have formed to campaign for an apology from the government.

What is really clear to me, reading their stories is that the people that they didn’t get support from was their parents. Because good girls didn’t and a pregnant unmarried daughter was disgraceful.

I know that my Grandad was firmly of the opinion that you should be married. If you got pregnant (or got someone pregnant) you should get married and I know how upset he was when my cousin didn’t get married. But I know that he loved his first great grandchild and the circumstances of her birth didn’t matter. Once she was here, she was her and you love your family.

It wasn’t my Granddad I thought about when I was reading this article though. I was thinking about my great-grandparents, who I didn’t know and never met. I don’t have photos of and in the case of my Dad’s grandparents, I don’t even know their names although I’m going to bet one of them was called Mary!  My ancestors weren’t anything special, they didn’t invent anything, they weren’t well known, they were pretty normal working class people.

Ordinary people that they were, it seems that on both sides of my family, they did something extraordinary. They didn’t force their unmarried daughters to give their children up for adoption. Not just once but a couple of times.

Here’s the story my grandma, Iris and her sister Ellen.  According to Ellen, they were trouble and, again according to Ellen, she kept getting caught and Iris didn’t! Ellen had 13 children in total and I’m hazy on all the details but I think at least 6 of them had different fathers and were born before she was married. Two were adopted, one down the road and he always knew Ellen was his biological mother and one completely outside in a closed adoption.

My paternal grandparents, according to family legend managed a couple of children before she was married, all of them to my grandfather and maybe that’s what saved her because in Ireland before and during the war, I can’t imagine that there wasn’t some pressure to send her off to the nuns, in fact she did go off to the nuns. One of my uncles was born in a Magdalen Home. He and my aunts recently tried to find out more about it but there’s little information and it’s hard to work out what exactly happened.

In both the cases of my great-aunt and my grandmother, it seems to me that the support they had from their parents was the important thing. You can’t be forced to give your child up for adoption if your parents support you, even if they don’t approve.

I can’t imagine that being the parent of daughters that got pregnant outside of marriage was a very comfortable experience in the 30’s and 40’s, so to stand by your children at that time as they made the same ‘mistakes’ and added yet another mouth to feed to the household, would have been no small thing to my working class great grandparents. It seems that they did though and I think that’s extraordinary.

I feel for those women in that article but my aunt and grandmother weren’t amongst them because of their parents.

 

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Weekend Tasks, What I Actually Did

It’s seems silly to put up a post about things I need to do at the weekend and not follow up with what I actually managed to do.

Given that I spent most of Saturday with a migraine, I’m quite impressed with what I did do. Tonight I will wash my hair brushes so the only things I didn’t do were clean the oven, make soup and organise the cookbook shelves but I have soup in the freezer, so it’s not going to give me any issues this week and the cookbooks can wait another week. I am going to put the oven stuff on tonight and clean it tomorrow because it needs to be done. Other things I did that weren’t on the list are back up the laptop and transfer photos to a hard drive, which I have been meaning to since August! I also re-arranged the insides of the drawers that hold my make up and hair things. I threw away a ton of old make up, it felt good to get rid of the things that I haven’t used and start afresh!

Kitchen

  • Clean the oven
  • General clean (this means sorting out the recycling and rubbish, mopping the floor and general cleaning)

Cooking

  • Make black bean soup
  • Food prep for the week, breakfasts and lunches
  • Make sourdough
  • Sort out the ‘disaster bread’ recipe so it works

Bathroom

  •  General clean (mop floor, change towels, empty bin, clean bath, sink and toilet)

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Bedroom

  • Move furniture back into room and maybe re-arrange it!  I decided to put the furniture back where it was but underestimated how much work I needed to do to get the floor clean and the paint off the furniture! I was quite high off the white spirit fumes when I finished. I am thinking that might paint the chest of drawers white, we’ll see if I can be bothered!
  • General clean (mop floor, change bed, dust, general tidy)

Living Room

  • General clean (sweep floor, dust, tidy sofa, put things away etc)

Hall

  • Hoover I hate hoovering, in fact I hate all floor cleaning related stuff in general but hoovering in particular!
  • Sort cookbook shelves out. I dusted the shelves, does that count?

General House things

  • Washing
  • Ironing
  • Wash make up brushes I did them this morning, but that still counts!
  • Water plants
  • Wash hair brushes
  • Shopping

Overall a successful weekend of house related tasks, which is good because next weekend is going to be busy, I’m at the theatre on Friday night and up in Watford for more family time and fireworks! So everything will be fitted into Sunday and when I’ve been that social, I need to spend at least half a day doing nothing!

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The Weekend

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The weekend began with a haircut! I decided to have a little bit more length off than usual and Jane chopped about two inches off my hair, which I was fine about until I got home and had to very firmly remind myself that my hair was shorter not short! No photos of the haircut but I did take a photo of Jane’s ridiculously cute puppy!

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On Saturday, I had a plan, I was going to get my bedroom back to normal, do most of the housework, do the shopping and clean the oven. Then I was going to go and see the godchildren. Easy. Well easy if you don’t have a migraine. I sorted the bedroom out and did some housework, until I just had to give up and go to bed. I surfaced about 6pm hoping it was done, it wasn’t and I went back to bed.

The clocks went back on Sunday morning, so I was a bit confused until I changed all the clocks in the house! I went to the gym and had breakfast.

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The rest of the day was spent getting on with the housework and shopping. I also located my torch in preparation for the “storm of the decade”. In fairness, I think the Met Office might be overstating it a bit, ever since the 1987 storm, they’d rather take flak for overplaying it than underplaying it. I remember the ’87 storm and it honestly didn’t affect us. There were some trees down and a short power cut but we went to school and life continued. Which meant I really wasn’t expecting any issues in London, we are fairly protected.

What did for me though was being woken up at 1am because there was water dripping on my face. Well, the roof is being fixed in a couple of week and this is why! So I moved the bed out of the way which is harder than you’d think, it’s a big bed in a smallish room! Put a bucket under the drip and prayed! This morning it had stopped and I put the bed back placing bucket on top. Hopefully, it’ll be ok, but I didn’t sleep well and it’s fair to say that my flat has not felt like a calm place to be for a number of weeks!

Getting in to work this morning was amazingly easy, I’m kind of wishing for a storm every day if it makes my commute this easy!

What did you get up to this weekend? Any storm related issues?

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Current favourite necklace

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Last month, I was wearing this necklace all the time. This month it seems to be this one.

This pedant, Sarah brought back from India. It was just after Stef died and rose quartz (the bigger stone) is supposed to be healing, so she thought it was appropriate. While that’s a little big to ‘new-agey’ for me, I appreciated the thought and it is pretty!

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Weekend Task List

There was no real house work to do last week because I hadn’t been at home, this week as I sort the house out in the aftermath of the builder, there is an issue with the window still but it’s outside the house! This hopefully will be the last time I complain about the builder! I feel like I will spend a lot of time on housework and cooking this weekend and that’s ok, ’cause I’m totally up for that!

Kitchen

  • Clean the oven
  • General clean (this means sorting out the recycling and rubbish, mopping the floor and general cleaning)

Cooking

  • Make black bean soup
  • Food prep for the week, breakfasts and lunches
  • Make sourdough
  • Sort out the ‘disaster bread’ recipe so it works

Bathroom

  •  General clean (mop floor, change towels, empty bin, clean bath, sink and toilet)

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Bedroom

  • Move furniture back into room and maybe re-arrange it!
  • General clean (mop floor, change bed, dust, general tidy)

Living Room

  • General clean (sweep floor, dust, tidy sofa, put things away etc)

Hall

  • Hoover
  • Sort cookbook shelves out

General House things

  • Washing
  • Ironing
  • Wash make up brushes
  • Water plants
  • Wash hair brushes
  • Shopping

What’s on your to-do list this weekend?

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Friday Night Cocktail Revisited: Aperol Spritz

I haven’t been making anything new, I’m not drinking at all during the week and have been struggling to find time to make and photograph new to the blog cocktails! So I’m going to re-visit some of the old ones!

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We are having amazingly warm weather for October, it’s not quite summer but at 19C I’m pretty sure that we’ve had colder summer days.  Everyone is predicting a really cold winter but the current warm but grey weather has put me in the mood for something brightly coloured and a bit summery.

Time for a bit of Aperol Spritz action.  Since January, I’ve changed how I do it.   a bit and add a slug of freshly squeezed orange juice to it.

So the What list now reads:

3oz prosecco

2 oz aperol

1 oz of orange juice (and yes it does have to be fresh from an orange, not a bottle!)

A dash of soda water (I measured this a couple of times and in my house it’s somewhere between half an oz and an oz)

The How is still the same.

Glass, ice, ingredients, stir gently, drink!

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