Friday Links

Happy Friday! It’s the 4th of July, Americans celebrate Independence Day, the British don’t but losing that one enabled us to beat Napoleon, you win some, you lose some. It’s also 5 years since I moved into my flat. That went quickly..

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It’s also the first day of my weekend, I’ve had a week that required a day off doing very little. I will do some reading and I may do some chores but it’s a day devoted to not having to do anything and probably lying in!

So this week’s links….

1) Tony Benn was right about a lot of things.

2) Dilemmas for book lovers. Been there, done most of them and don’t have a TV not because I don’t watch TV but because there’s nowhere to put it because of the bookshelves…

3) Engraved Rolling pins, yes I’d like one!

4) I quite like the Queen but Catherine Bennett sums up why I’m a republican.

5) Why making your home ‘company ready’ is a bad idea. I love this, you should keep your house tidy because it makes your life better.

6) The SCOTUS decision on Hobby Lobby is, to this NHS baby, horrifying. It when stuff like this pops up, I realise how lucky I am that the cost of contraception has never been something I worry about.

7) The Guardian editorial about Israel and Palestine. My brother is in Tel Aviv this week, they went over for a wedding. Ben spoke to Ma last night and said that it’s seems that neither side will listen to the other. Which is about the sum of it.

8) How the Tories hit the poor. We are so not all in it together.

 

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You need to care for your hair

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I got asked last week how I get my hair so shiny. Which was strange because I didn’t think it was all that shiny, having said that I am aware that I have pretty good hair, mostly that’s genetics (thanks Ma!). First things first, I’m all about having my hair cut every six weeks. This keeps the shape of my haircut and cuts away the split ends, that alone makes your hair look better.

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I know that for most people that’s hard to do and I know that I’m lucky, my hairdresser is also a friend, she doesn’t work out of a salon so she is cheaper. Jane has been cutting my hair for over 20 years, she knows me, she knows my hair and she knows what I will and I won’t do. So if I want to change something, she’ll talk me through the care aspects of the new style. That’s the other thing, if you can’t have your haircut as often as I do, find a hairdresser that you trust and that will listen to you, good hairdressers do that. So if you’d rather kill someone than dry and style your hair every morning, explain that before they talk you into a radical new cut!

I have long thick hair, that has a couple of curly sections (around my face) but is mostly wavy rather than properly curly. I did have curls until my first haircut and if my mother’s hair is a guide to mine, it will get more and more wavy and flicky as I get older and greyer! I have it coloured every other haircut, so roughly every 12 weeks. I don’t know what Jane uses on it but I do know that because it’s a full head of colour, it’s semi-permanent. Jane will not do an all over colour of permanent colour, roots are bad enough with highlights or lowlights and one colour all over is not a good look! It’s a reddy colour and my hair feels really well conditioned after it’s done. Although, Jane keeps telling me that even semi-permanent colour stains your hair, it does wash out and I try not to overwash my hair, usually I wash it once or twice a week and use dry shampoo and the tried and tested technique of putting it up when it’s dirty, to stretch out the washing. When I have a fringe, I’m growing it out at the moment, I wash it every day so it doesn’t get greasy and it’s amazing how clean the rest of your hair looks when your fringe is clean.

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So that over, this is what I use on my hair.

Pre Shampoo

L’Oreal Extraordinary Oil. I got this on special offer before Christmas and I put it on my hair to help protect the colour. It seems to work and it does make my hair soft.

Shampoos

I have dandruff and the L’Oreal Paris Elvive For Men Anti Dandruff Intensive Shampoo is the only thing that actually works, and believe me, I’ve tried everything! Bonus points because it’s not expensive. It’s recently had a rebrand (apparently women don’t have troublesome scalps any more.) which might account for why it’s been so difficult to get hold of but if I can’t get that then it’s the Nizoral which is as good but much more expensive. I also use the L’Oreal Paris Hair Expertise EverPure Colour Care & Moisture Shampoo and Aussie’s ColourMate shampoos but much less often.

Conditioners

Everyday is either L’Oreal Paris Hair Expertise EverPure Colour Care & Volume Conditioner  or Aussie ColourMate conditioner. For deep conditioning, especially in the summer, I like Aussie’s Three Minute Miracle.

Styling

I’ve always been a fan of the FrizzEase serum but only really need to use it when it’s damp to tame the waviness. Sometimes, more often in the summer, I’ll like to use a serum or oil before I dry it. More Extraordinary Oil or Lee Stafford’s Poker Straight Serum

I also really like the Blow Dry Spray from Lee Stafford too because properly blow drying my hair takes ages without it.

I don’t really use mousse anymore as it doesn’t seem to make that much of a difference but I do use hairspray and it’s been Elnett for a very long time, usually the unperfumed or coloured hair versions but really all of them are fantastic so whatever is there and when it’s on offer.

Dry Shampoo

I tend to use the VO5 Refresh Me Quick and the Lee Stafford one, but pretty much I’ll buy what’s on offer!

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What I’ve Read – May and June 2014

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Saga Vol 1 – Brian K. Vaughan & Fiona Staples 

Saga Vol 2 – Brian K. Vaughan & Fiona Staples 

Saga Vol 3 – Brian K. Vaughan & Fiona Staples 

I’m going to talk about these as one thing, I read them in a day although, I think I’m going to have to go back and re-read to get more depth, that is the problem with graphic novels. Anyway, I’m enjoying this, I will read the others as they appear but if intergalactic war, one eyed novelists, robot princes, non-corporeal pink babysitters, hired assassins and cats that can tell if you’re lying are your thing, this is probably for you!

Everything I Know About Love I Learned from Romance Novels – Sarah Wendell

Funny but at the same time a call for some people to stop treating romance novels as if they have no value. I bought this because I love Smart Bitches, Trashy Books and Sarah runs the site and it’s the site in book form, maybe with less snark.

Delancey: A Man, a Woman, a Restaurant, a Marriage – Molly Wizenburg

I love Molly’s blog, Orangette and I enjoyed her first book. Like her first book, this is not a book you buy for the recipes, you read it for the stories and the ideas. I dashed through this is a day and I really enjoyed it. I liked that it made me think about food and living and although she joked that the book her husband would write in reply to this is ‘My wife is a liar’, it’s the honesty she shows in detailing her reactions that are key here. She’s honest about the fact that she didn’t think it would happen and honest about how hard she found it to adjust to the new normal. It’s a lovely book and I’m going to buy it for several of the foodie people I know.

The Untelling – Tayari Jones

Sometimes you want to like a book and you just can’t. I wanted to like this book, there are things to like, it’s well written and the prose is beautiful and descriptive but doesn’t wander all over the place. It’s me, I just didn’t like it. Intellectually, I knew what was going on, but I didn’t understand Aria’s actions and by the end of the book I didn’t much care about her pain. Stories don’t just need to show a journey, they need to make you care about journey and I didn’t. I just wanted her to sort it out, so I could be done with the book. I feel a bit guilty about not liking her or her story but there it is. This is probably a great book but I couldn’t connect with it.

The Lost Sun: The United States of Asgard – Tessa Gratton

This was one of Luc and Helene’s holiday books (yep more holiday!). I liked it, Luc would have preferred less romance (he’s 13, he can’t be perfect!), H loved it. It had some fabulous world building, the idea being that Vikings settled the US and the Norse Gods, trolls etc are all real and present in the world. So it’s familiar but different, the names of the States are spelt differently and of course are kingstates, honey soda and mead, instead of coke and beer. An alternate history and an alternate reason for slavery and emancipation, speaking Anglish instead of English, the White Hall instead of the White House, the way Christians (Biblists) are viewed as a strange minority and because the Gods are a presence, so is religion. The only problem is that it seems too pat sometimes, such as ‘The Lays of Thomas Jefferson’, it’s funny but it doesn’t make sense as the book has already established that in this world the Nordic naming customs are used so he wouldn’t be called Jefferson. Its a minor quibble because I think too much. I liked that there’s more to Soren, to his issues, than his parents and his berserking maybe to do with race. All through the book, he mentions his dark skin or someone else as having traditional Asgardian colouring, i.e. fair and he’ll uses his complexion as a description of someone else, ‘almost as dark as me’ but we don’t get a description of Soren or get to see him through anyone else’s eyes, which makes me think there’s something going on. I’ll probably read the next one because I really want to know where Gratton is going with the story.

The Mortal Instruments: City of Heavenly Fire – Cassandra Clare

This was H’s pick for half term reading. Same reaction as the last book, Luc did like some of it, H loved it, I was glad it was a nice ending maybe some of it a bit pat but that’s fine. The set up for the next books was fairly obvious but H and I will read them so it worked. All of Cassandra Clare’s books have funny snark in them and she keeps things moving along.

Guildhunter Series – Nalini Singh

Angels’ Blood, Archangel’s Kiss, Archangel’s Consort, Archangel’s Blade, Archangel’s Storm, Archangel’s Legion

More book crack from Nalini Singh. When you read them all at once, you can see some of the repetition, which was similar when I read all of the Psy-Changling series, massively ‘alpha’ men and so on. Having said that, I liked that the romance didn’t solve all the problems, I like that we get to see the main characters relationship and backstory develop through the books and I like that Singh puts real thought into what a world that had massively powerful angels in it would look like, how things would change. How culture would change depending on which angel was in charge. I also enjoyed the idea that vampires come about because of the angels and how that would change things. By the end of it, I was less interested in the various pairings and more interested in the politics and fighting. Easy to read but interesting enough that you think a bit, I think I read them all over 4 days, I have a problem….

 Ruin and Rising – Leigh Bardugo

The last of the Grisha trilogy. This is a big year for finishing trilogies and series, this, City of Heavenly Fire, Ruins, Unmade, it’s all happening. This ended well, the bad guy was defeated and they sort of lived happily ever after. The solution to the problem was staring them in the face and the solution, wasn’t quite what they thought it was. I’m sort of sad that we ended the series with Alina and Mal losing their ‘talent’ and being together, rather than working out how to live with it.

We Were Liars – E Lockhart

I really didn’t like this. I had the same reaction to it that I had to The Untelling. It was clever, beautifully written and I really didn’t enjoy it or like the narrator. I don’t know why, it’s just one of those things but I worked out what had happened and what was going on with Cady quite early on, so that may have had something to do with it.

Under Heaven – Guy Gavriel Kay

I love most of Kay’s books, this was one I hadn’t read and I’m off on a Guy Gavriel Kay reading spree very soon. It’s based on the An Lushan Rebellion during the Tang Dynasty in China, I really don’t know anything about Chinese history, or culture for that matter, so I can’t tell you how close it is to the real events and it’s early medieval so really how accurate are any novels written about time so long ago? I did like it and I loved the theme running through it, of how much, and how little one person can change events.

Shades of Milk and Honey – Mary Robinette Kowal

I really enjoyed this. It’s set in the regency but with magic, when I put it like that it sounds dreadful, but it’s not and the glamour stuff is actually very subtle. It reads as if it was written in it’s time period and must have been inspired by Austen. I really enjoyed it and I liked Jane. There are others and the next one is set in Belgium just before Waterloo (my own personal catnip!) people have to stop writing good books, I don’t have enough room in my budget or time to read them all!R

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Weekend projects

This weekend, I made cocktail cherries and cherry brandy.

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These are long term projects, neither will be properly ready for 3 months but there is something nice about making food or drinks that can be put up, I like the idea of taking the things that are good in the summer and preserving them for future use and I’m slightly obsessed by cherries..

I made some cocktail cherries the year before last but didn’t last year and regretted it. So this year I wanted to make some and I wanted to make some cherry brandy too.

The cherry brandy was really simple. I used 1kg of cherries, removed the stalks and pricked the cherries and put them in a 2 litre jar. I added 200g sugar, 1/2 litre of brandy and 1/2 litre of applejack. I shook it every day until the sugar dissolved and it’s in a dark cupboard for the next 3 months, at that point I’ll remove the cherries, filter the brandy and bottle it. I didn’t take any photos because I forgot but if you want to see pretty pictures of the process, go here.

I changed up the cocktail cherry recipe this year. I decided to use brandy for the cherries and this is how I did it.

For 1lb of cherries.

Wash, de-stem and pit the cherries. Put the cherries straight into sterilized jars. Take 1/2 cup cherry juice and 1/2 cup sugar, heat in a saucepan for 5 to 10 minutes until the sugar has dissolved. Take off the heat and add 3/4 cup of brandy and 1/4 cup triple sec, mix up and pour into the jars of cherries until the cherries are covered.

I used 4lb of cherries and for the triple sec used half Cointreau and half Grand Marnier.

Hopefully, it should last the from Christmas until next year but I do really like cherries!

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Small Changes

Remember back in April, when I admitted that I needed a kick up the behind?

It has taken a while, but I spent June actively trying to make some of the changes that I needed to make. I’ve done enough counselling to know that, my slump wasn’t really about being lazy and that it needed something other than willpower but I’m allergic to the ‘listen to your inner goddess’ or ‘examine your navel’ form of….well anything.  I’m the girl, who’s criteria for a therapist/counsellor was that they were sensible, I also knew that I didn’t need to go back and see the therapist because this isn’t about how I cope with awful tragedy, it’s about how I cope with the everyday practicalities of the human condition. The therapist suggested some coaching and I been reading Krissie‘s blog for ages and I trust her not to be too woo woo and I’ve watched her do stuff that makes her heart happy, so I signed up to her beFULL course.

It’s been a reassuring and challenging month and I’m sure I’ll witter on about it more later on. However, I’m me and I’ve made some practical changes this month that have really helped.This month the action has changed my attitude because I was ready for it too and because I could link the action to what it did, but generally I’m a huge fan of how much you can change your attitude by taking action when you really don’t want to, I’d thought that I’d lay out what I’ve been doing this month.

Yoga

Yeah, I never thought it would have such an impact or that I’d enjoy it but 15 to 20 minutes every night before I go to bed has been transformative. It’s a gentle, stretching, calm down end of the day routine and I’m sleeping better and my back and knees don’t hurt so much.

Tidy house

I’m pretty good about keeping the house tidy but where I do fall down is during the week. So I’ve been really intentional about getting the things I don’t like to do, done every day. So I’ve been diligent about making sure that the dishes are done and tomorrow’s lunch is sorted every day, before bedtime, I have a quick 5 minute walk around the flat putting things away, I’ve been ironing and putting laundry away as soon as it’s dry instead of leaving it until the weekend. It’s a pain when I want to go and read after dinner but waking up in the morning to a tidy flat and knowing that I have clothes to wear that don’t need ironing makes difficult mornings go better and good mornings fantastic.

Self Care

I’ve been looking after my nails and feet. I live in flip flops in the summer and also they are comfortable my feet get dirty and dry, hobbits have better looking feet! So I’ve been making sure that my feet are moisturised each night and pedicuring them once a week. My feet will never be beautiful but the look much better.

Changing my journey home

I’ve started to walk to Kings Cross to go home, it’s a longer journey but it gives me a 15 minute-ish walk every day and very little helps!

 

 

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Sunday Music

Sometimes you just need something thrashy..

Come on Over – Royal Blood

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Friday Links

Happy Friday!  I’m so glad to get the end of another week, while I don’t like that the year seems to be flying by and technically after last weekend we’re moving into winter, I’m always pleased when I get to the end of a difficult work week. I have grand plans this weekend. I want to clear the front garden, (it’s not my job, the people downstairs should do it but I can’t stand how it looks at the moment!), go for a run, do some crafty things and the usual weekend tasks. On Sunday, Ma is coming over, with a car, to take the garden rubbish to the dump and then it’s all lunch and relaxation until Monday.

Meanwhile here is some stuff to read!

1) It’s a Labour party crisis, not an Ed Milliband one. I should be a natural Labour party supporter (and in fact used to be) but I’m not. Losing the support of me and people like me, should worry the Labour party but it doesn’t seem too.

2) The Fiver on Luis Suarez.

3) Saturday jobs in retail. I managed one day in a clothes shop, really not me. After that I stuck to working the library (if I was independently wealthy, this would be my job of choice!), babysitting and once I’d turned 18 a Saturday job in a bookies, this was before the smoking ban and the relaxation of the laws on betting, by the end of the day, I smelt like an ashtray and if I ever develop lung cancel that job will be why, still the money was good!

4) Put water on the table at dinner times. I know that I’m old and was brought up in a different time, but when did this change? We drank loads of water when we were kids, adults seemed always to be saying “plenty of water in the tap” throughout my childhood. It’s funny how all the stuff they say you should do about feeding children, my mum just did, Ben and I spent most of the 80’s feeling seriously sugar deprived!

5) Miss Piggy was meant to be delicate and lovely. You mean she isn’t?

6) 30 things only anti-social people understand. Before it was the Irish goodbye, it was known, by my friends, as the ‘Dempsey disappearing act’, and yes there was that time I left the post exam sleepover celebration at 3am in my Grandad’s pyjamas..

7) Ann Coulter explains why so many people from the rest of the world hate Americans. All she really proves is that she’s an idiot that really, really doesn’t understand football and chooses call it un-American to cover up her ignorance. Also the French Revolution she mentions (and is generally scornful about) caused because of the money the French spent on supporting this guy…what was his name?….Oh, that’s right, George Washington. There’s a key from the Bastille hanging in the hall at Mount Vernon. Those that don’t understand their own history and pontificate on the history of other nations, without actually understanding any of it…what’s that word..idiot..

8) The US Supreme Court judgement on this will not ever trouble me. I had an abortion in the UK, I decided to go to the place I could have it soonest which was Essex on a Tuesday, what I didn’t know is that the anti abortion protesters only protested at this clinic on Tuesdays and Saturdays. We were mobbed. People shouted at me. A woman told me I was killing my baby. It was horrible. None of those people knew me or took the time to try and know me. They just called me a murderer. Most of them claimed to be Christian. I live in Ealing, there’s a clinic pretty much at the end of my road, I try not to walk past it on Saturdays or during Lent because it makes me so bloody angry! This is part of why.

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Thought for the day…

…I’m not sure that I’d have anywhere to hang this in the flat but this is turning into this year’s work theme…

Inspirational Chalkboard Quote: Nelson Mandela (Small)

from dangerdust’s etsy shop, which is full of amazing stuff that was originally drawn on chalkboards.

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Simple Potato Salad

Seasonal eating is something that I do to a certain extent, I don’t buy expensive, flavourless imported strawberries in winter but I would suffer if I could only eat a peppers in the summer, as it is I do eat less peppers in the winter but mostly because what I want to eat changes with the seasons. In summer, I tend to eat much more simply, instead of stews and soups, I lean more towards salads and cold things.

One of the best things about this seasonal change of appetite is that every winter and summer, I re-discover foods that I haven’t made or eaten for a year or so and this weekend it was the basic potato salad.

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This weekend, Christelle came over and I hadn’t really planned on what to feed her, I had some potatoes that I’d planned to use in the week when friends came for dinner, that didn’t happen and it was too hot to use the oven just for my dinner. Christelle and I bought some nice ham, cheese and bread and I made this.

I was suddenly reminded of how good potato salad can be. I was at Adam and Kathy’s for barbecue yesterday evening and made it again to take as my contribution. It complemented pork and apple burgers perfectly and was a hit with the toddlers!

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It’s also really simple. Cook some new potatoes (you may want to cut them in half or quarters) bung them in a bowl, chop a couple of spring onions in, some pepper, then a scoop of mayonnaise and an equal amount of wholegrain mustard. Mix it up, until the potatoes are coated, add more mayonnaise or mustard to taste. If you have an objection to mayonnaise  that comes from a jar (I do not, I used Hellmans Light!) you can make your own.

That’s it, nothing fancy or complicated about it, just simple and easy and really good to eat in the summer.

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Monday, Monday

Welcome to the new week. I hope you all had a good weekend and are refreshed and ready to start your week.

If you couldn’t have already guessed from my cheery greeting, I had a great weekend. It was that rare combination of getting everything done, seeing the people I like and having a rest. As a result, I feel good AND ready to face another busy work week.

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I ate good food, cleaned the house, went for a run, found the time to paint my toenails and generally attend to my feet, I saw Christelle and Kathy and Adam (and the children, I read a lot of books).

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Aims for this week, yoga every day, run twice and get to bed by 10pm every night (hard to do with all the football!) and find out what’s happened to my Old Crow Medicine Show tickets!

What are you doing this week?

 

 

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