Friday Links

Happy Friday! Some reading for your weekend

Middle-age is mostly about being anxious. I disagree, I’m less anxious in my 40’s, my 20’s and 30’s were anxiety ridden and in fact although I think that I’m less secure financially nowadays, I’m more certain and now. Because really, there’s no point worrying about whether I have it right or not, or what everyone else is doing. This is who I am and I’m where I am and honestly I don’t have enough fucks to give about what other people think or what the future is gonna look like. I’m doing what I can and after that point you just have to get on with it….

Lauren Lavern on daughter-hood. Funny, Ma and I were talking about expectations the other day. Ma always expected me to be able to cope and get on with stuff in a way that she didn’t expect Ben to not because I was the eldest but because I was the girl. I just get on with it and Ben gets on with it too he just makes more of a song and dance about it. That pans out in interesting ways, I have as much use for stuff I don’t want to do as Ben does, at school I seemed very compliant but wasn’t and Ben was kicking off. Ben cooked dinner on Boxing Day and it was lovely but you would have thought he was on the first manned flight to Mars, I cook for all of us a couple of times a year and don’t make nearly as much fuss about it! I think I’m conditioned to just do domestic chores and Ben needs to be recognised for anything he does (and to be fair he does quite a bit). Overall though, I think that I’m a ‘good’ daughter and Ben is a ‘good’ son.

El Salvador is asking women to not get pregnant for two years.  In a country where abortion is illegal under any circumstances and contraception hard to come by and frowned upon by the Church. Not a recipe for disaster at all….

Trump is not Obama’s fault.

Trump validates the maxim that in presidential primaries, the opposition party tends to choose a candidate who differs temperamentally from the incumbent. Obama is an adult. Therefore, Republicans are nominating a child.

A different take on the popularity of Trump. The rise of authoritarians. This is a long read but make the time for this one….

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Pink Grapefruit Marmalade

I’m on a huge marmalade kick at the moment. After my triumphant orange marmalade I decided to have a go at Nigel Slater’s Pink Grapefruit version.I’ve made it twice now and while it doesn’t have the same heft as the seville orange version it is well worth a try as it’s fairly simple and pink grapefruits are easier to find than seville oranges.OLYMPUS DIGITAL CAMERAIt’s making weekend breakfasts much more fun

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What I’ve Read – February 2016

We are two months into the year and you can see what kind of month I had by my choice of reading material.

Shards of Hope – Nalini Singh (library book)

I went to the library to pick up a reserved book and found this on ‘the books just in’ shelves, which I can never resist having look at and this was here, as I’ve been waiting for more of the ‘book crack’ I was delighted and snapped it up. I’m at a point with the Psy-Changling series where I’m more interested in the world than the romance so this worked for me. I want to know where it’s going and although I don’t think she has an overarching plan for it (which could be dangerous given that this is book 14 and 15 is out in the summer). Singh has a particular style, the same when she’s write contemporaries or the Guild Hunter books and as I have read so many, I’m very aware of it, there’s lots of men being men and dominant  and characters often have the same flaws, this can grate but I don’t feel that it interferes with the bits of the story I find interesting and given that the overarching world is moving forward (unlike say the Anita Blake books which I gave up somewhere in the middle of book 9 because I was just tired of her sleeping with everyone and everyone wanting to sleep with her!).  Will I read the next one, oh yeah, I’m not bored of the world and I’m still interested in what happens next, also I get the feeling that the next book will catch us up with all of the various couples and move the plot along fast. We’ll see.

Carry On – Rainbow Rowell (library book)

After Landline last month, I put this on reserve at the library and it turned up this month (it was the book I was going to pick up when I grabbed Shards of Hope). I was a little bit worried about this one, I’ve liked all of Rowell’s books except Eleanor and Park (I know I’m a monster!) but this was set in England in a school called Watford, which I can’t quite reconcile as a place of refinement and taste given that my brother lives in a town called Watford. Anyway, I really enjoyed it. Really, really enjoyed it. It was both funny and sad and it had an ending that worked and also although the reader got the answer to all the questions, the characters didn’t which is pretty much how it goes. I liked the friendships as well as the romance, points for not being afraid to tackle the ‘Am I gay or do I just like kissing this boy?’ issue. Penelope clearly needs her own book and although there were a couple of Americanisms I found that I wasn’t really thinking of this book as set in England so it didn’t pull me out of the book. Go and read it’s fun.

Trade Me – Courtney Milan (library ebook)

Courtney Milan goes contemporary new adult and of course I read it. As a story it didn’t quite hit the heights of other books of hers that I’ve read but it was good. Lots of other reviews mention that it gets a bit melodramatic in the last quarter but I didn’t think it was melodramatic as too quick and too easy to resolve, I suspect that it isn’t because there is another book about them planned. So what did I like? I liked that Tina’s experience of poverty was honest and real, in so many books the heroine says that they are poor but I don’t see it, a lot of Tina’s issues come from having no money, really having no money. One of the things that you see a lot in NA is problem parents and this is no exception but I liked that both sets of parents loved their children and that it was obvious, even when they fucked up. I struggled with Tina’s parents more because her mother drove me bats because…..well because I lack imagination maybe I just don’t know people who behave like that. I liked Tina’s best friend and am looking forward to seeing more about her in the next book too.

The Turn of the Story – Sarah Rees Brennan (free internet story)

This is an example of an author getting carried away (long may it continue if the author is Sarah Rees Brennan!). I’ve been meaning to get around to reading it but you know, not getting around to it and saw a quote from it;

‘And he did not want to be loved as a second choice, as a surrender. He had spend his whole life not being loved at all, and he had thought being loved enough would satisfy him. It would not. He had never been chosen, so he had never had a chance to know this about himself before now; he wanted to be chosen first’.

So I had to go and read it as soon as possible, which was Valentines Day. I love most of what SRB writes, it’s funny and silly and sad and happy all at the same time. This story features gender flipped elf society where the women are the warriors and the men ‘sweet, gentle virtuous creatures’, a bi-sexual mouthy and extremely grumpy ‘hero’ and it all generally delightful. Now I need to go and find The Wings in the Morning….

Lord Dashwood Missed Out – Tessa Dare (library ebook)

A novella set in Spindle Cove. When I read the first of these I wasn’t that keen, nowadays I really enjoy Spindle Cove books because they are silly and easy to read and funny.

Make It Right – Megan Erickson (free book)

NA set in college, I actually liked this one more than the first. The H/H actually had some stuff to deal with and apparently I really like it went a character knows they’ve done badly and tries to do better. I also think that the author has a thing for teachers as this is the second book in the series and characters has decided to become a teachers in each book! I also liked that the hero was able to take instruction and direction from the heroine with no alpha male nonsense…

First Last Kiss – Lia Riley (free book)

Woman gets divorced, leaves the big city to go back to her hometown and meets the first boy she ever loved. I know what’s gonna happen, but this had some interesting issues, ie the town became the place she could live in because of gentrification I was more interested in what was going to happen to the town (cause you know it’s not going to go well for the people already there!) and more interested in the downsides of small town living than I was in the heroine’s crisis of confidence and decision making.

Blitzing Emily – Julie Brannagh (free book)

The more I think about this book, the more confused I get. The book seems to take forever to get anywhere and stuff that was supposed to be a big deal just got brushed over and not resolved, which is just annoying. I don’t mind characters not knowing but I really object to readers not knowing. My major issue is that it feels like a first draft, not a finished story.

A Duchess in Name – Amanda Weaver  (free book)

I mostly really enjoyed this, but I had issues with the hero who was a whiny, whiner and needed a smack upside the head. First he needed to use his words and second I’m not sure there were enough apologies for what he did. So other than the fact that he was a git, I really liked it!

Heart’s Desire – T. J. Kline (free book)

I’m going to damn this with faint praise because I finished it but all the way through I was mild irritated by everyone in the story. It felt old fashioned and at times I was reading while muttering ‘get to the point’ and ‘use your bloody words’

Wish Upon a Star – Sarah Morgan (TBR list)

I find Sarah Morgan delightful and this is I think Mills and Boon Medical. So old-fashioned, it reminded me of being 14 again and reading these all the time, we had a chart in the library at school for repeated phrases and ‘___’ would have gone on the wall….

Made me thankful to live in more enlightened times…

Midnight at Tiffanys – Sarah Morgan (TBR list)

A novella that kicks off her new trilogy, which I will be reading at some point. Fine in that I read it in an hour and want to read about the girls in it

Among Others – Jo Walton (library book)

I cannot express how much I loved this book. It totally nails the reading teenager, the odd mix of  being really clever about some stuff and totally naive about the other stuff. Ultimately, it’s about becoming a person and making friends and overcoming hard things and I just adored it.

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Food and Budget Update: 20/02 to 26/02/2016

It that time of the week! Here’s this week’s recap on what I ate and spent on eating…

SHOPPING 

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I got all fancy this week and did three lists! I didn’t buy carrots, peppers or mushrooms this week because I didn’t use much last week with the whole not eating for two days. Onions and parsnips were on offer and I needed to replenish the frozen vegetables (I always have spinach and peas in my freezer and usually have corn, broccoli or cauliflower and green beans. I also prefer to buy them from Iceland because the spinach is whole leaf and it’s easy to get everything there knowing it’s all £1 a bag)

Here are the receipts
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Got everything on my various lists and came in at £14.93. Here’s what that looked like…OLYMPUS DIGITAL CAMERAOLYMPUS DIGITAL CAMERAOLYMPUS DIGITAL CAMERALidl have started carrying wholemeal bread flour as well as just white so I bought both colours.

COOKING AND EATING

I’m trying to shake up my breakfasts a bit or I’ll get granola and yoghurt fatigue and stop eating breakfast. I saw a recipe for quinoa egg muffins and with some adaption (added vegetables, basil instead of mint) made those, I ate those each morning with some carrot batons.OLYMPUS DIGITAL CAMERALunch was noodle salad (made with spelt spaghetti) and spinach. I had pineapple and a marmalade muffin as snacks. I also had fruit from work too.

Dinners were more varied. I was out on Saturday and we had Indian takeaway, on Sunday I think I was still full from the day before because I didn’t notice that I’d skipped dinner until about 8:30 on Sunday night and it was too late to eat then!

Monday was a mixed of vegetable (spinach, onion, peppers) and quinoa with chickpeas and an egg (and I really didn’t realise how bad that photo was after I took it – sorry!)Tuesday was roasted vegetables (potato, carrot, onion and parsnips) with baked fish.

 Wednesday was pasta with vegetables and the leftover fish from Tuesday

 Thursday was sauted potatoes and vegetables with an egg… Friday Night Pizza was a repeat of the sausage and spinach and was fantastic!
LESSONS LEARNED

Shopping is easier the earlier I do it. I was up and out of the door before 9am on Saturday so I could get it done before I left for Watford and the whole experience was better. I won’t be able to do that next week but I do think I should make it the first weekend chore that I do every week.

I also need to check my work diary, this week was another week where I planned for 5 days but I had a work lunch, it wasn’t a problem I just ate the spare on the weekend! I also have noticed that some weeks it seems like there are loads of options and some weeks not, this is more to do with what else is going on, work was pretty straightforward this week and I think maybe my brain had more space for thinking creatively about my dinner!

 

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Life Happened: A normal week

It’s not that I’ve had any really abnormal weeks this year it’s just that last week has been so normal.

Honestly, nothing really happened. No dramas at work, I was in before around 8am each morning, got the work I needed to do done. Went home.

I was quite tired and made a concerted effort to make sure that I did everything that needed to be done before I sat down because on the one night I didn’t, I fell asleep on the sofa and then had to get up and put the washing up away

I finally have nails that are in good enough shape to paint, which made me happy! 
On Friday we had another team lunch to use up the budget and plan what our team page on the intranet should look like (I told you it was all fun, all the time this week!) and I renewed my annual travelcard (goodbye £1520.00 and thank god for work travel loans!)

Ma’s cold prevented her from coming over for pizza as planned so I had a cheeky cocktail and made pizza. 

 The weekend was quiet, I met Sarah for coffee and a chat  Made marmalade  and read a book, Among Others by Jo Walton, which I loved   Next week will be less boring, I have a busier work week, a funeral, family lunch in Saturday (I’m very much looking forward to hearing about Oli going to Beavers and seeing Joe who is standing now (or as my brother says growing up too soon!)

Aims for this week, keep on top of the flat so I’m not running around on Saturday morning, library visit and getting enough sleep… 

 
 
  

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2016 Goal Recap – February

When my Oli wants to draw your attention to something that he thinks that you ought to have done but he doesn’t want to outright ask and appear rude, he starts a sentence with “Do you remember…..”. So at lunch for Ma’s birthday last year, he started with “Aunty Nic, do you remember that the last time we were here, you made lovely garlic bread?” (I did, I hadn’t made it that time, I will make sure there’s some for Mother’s Day lunch in a couple of weeks!)

Anyway in the spirit of that, I’m going to re-start this post with a question. Do you remember that I finished January feeling that I was in a really good place (despite the mouse and the Januaryness of January? That I’d achieved things and was ready to move into a positive February?IMG_3723And I’m going to tell you that I feel nothing like that about February, which frankly felt like a struggle. I’m not sure why but if I had to pin it on anything, I’d blame the ‘back to the grindstone’ feeling of this February. At the end of last year, I had a new nephew to coo over, six weeks off work and therefore not being terribly SAD because I could sleep in more, I also saw more of my friends, then there were reduced hours at work and the need to be really careful of my foot, the excitement of Christmas and then thinking about what I wanted to do in 2016 and challenge of making it through January with my brain intact.

This February has been much more dreary by comparison. My foot is better more or less but I can’t do everything I used to, I’m back to the grindstone of work and home and laundry and sleep. It is getting lighter in the morning but it’s still too damn dark for my liking. You know you can make all the plans, dream all the dreams but eventually, you just have to buckle down and do what you’d said you’d do or wouldn’t do. And it’s boring.DSCF5121Until I sat down to write this post I was pretty sure that February had been an abject failure but that isn’t entirely the case. My focus on the goals for the year has been strong, I’m on track financially, the house is clean and under control, I’m gradually increasing my walking.

But the little goals, I have almost completely flunked them. I remembered to stretch, but the exercise and the yoga, nope, nada, zilch. I have cut down on my drinking and been under my 14 unit limit every week but one, when I went right up to it but not over. The cupboard did not get sorted nor the freezer defrosted.

I managed to get to the Grace big service but so far none of the weekday evening stuff and I managed the first seven days of daily reflection on 40 Temptations (one of which aptly was called ‘You will fail’)

It doesn’t feel like February was a successful month at all. However, Monday is the last day of February and therefore I have a couple of days to re-frame my perspective, February was not a disaster, I’m still on track and I have two days in which I can finish strong and ready for the challenges of March!

 

 

 

 

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Friday Links

Happy Friday! I am more or less avoiding this week’s two big new items Brexit and Donald Trump. This is ’cause we have months more to think and talk and read about them and I just can’t this week…

Happy reading!

You can’t sell freedom of movement to people who are insecure.

If, politically, you have no answer to how a regular person under 30 gets to live in a regular house when 91% of the country is unaffordable on the median wage, then you need to find an answer. You cannot make a case for immigration, on either economic or humanitarian grounds until you’ve recognised the economic pressures on, and the human rights of, the people already living in the country. That recognition has to progress. It isn’t enough to describe how hard it is to get a house; you need to be able to describe a future in which people can afford housing.

What hope has Pope Francis offered to women exposed to Zika? None That’s about right. I keep pointing out that for all his talk, nothing has changed.

I turned the weird internet dating messages into comics. This is why I’m not keen on internet dating, I really would rather be single…

Republicans in Charge of Considering Supreme Court Nominees Say They Will Not Consider Supreme Court Nominee. When inflexible constitutions go wrong….the American system relies on people being reasonable which is not something their politicians are managing (although a look at the House of Commons will tell you that’s not exclusive to the US!)

Michael White on the rise of the left and what Blair (and others) don’t understand.

The Money-Empathy Gap. Interesting.

Romance and the trope of the alpha male. Funny AND worth reading..

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Blood Orange Syrup

Around this time of year the internet seems to be full of recipes for things involving blood oranges. It is citrus season but the obsession with blood oranges seems to be a mainly US thing because I’ve never seen them here, we do clementines and seville oranges and pink grapefruits but my corner of West London seems devoid of blood oranges. I know that they exist, I’ve seen photos of blood orange margaritas that apparently exist only in East London bars. Could it be that I’m not hipster enough for blood oranges? Possibly.

Still I wanted to know what it was that made them so amazing. Was it just the colour? Did they taste different from orange oranges? So when I found some in Lidl and bought some. Turns out that they taste just like orange oranges and the colour while spectacular, is….erratic.IMG_3789This actually didn’t matter that much because I like oranges so it was no work to eat them. However because this month I am working on things I can drink that taste nice but are not booze, I decided to make a syrup with them. If you google ‘blood orange syrup’ or ‘soda’ there are lots of options. I took the juice and zest of 4 blood oranges, a cup of sugar and a cup of water and them all in a pan. I brought it to the boil to dissolve the sugar and let it simmer for 15 minutes. After leaving it cool, I strained out the zest and there it is blood orange syrup.OLYMPUS DIGITAL CAMERA

Basically I made posh orange squash. It’s lovely and when diluted with fizzy water it tastes great, it’s sharper and less sweet than squash you buy in bottles (I refuse to call the resulting drink soda – I’m not American and it feels pretentious!) but it’s still basically posh orange squash and disappointingly the vivid colour of the syrup dilutes to plain orange. That aside I think it would be interesting if you added booze, I think you could use it in a cocktail instead of sugar syrup and see what happened (if you do that please let me know!)OLYMPUS DIGITAL CAMERA

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Food and Budget Update: 13/02 to 19/02/2016

It that time of the week! Here’s this week’s recap on what I ate and spent on eating. I should start off by noting that it was a bad week not for budget or shopping but for eating because I got a bug or something, basically, what I thought was only a migraine on Tuesday was a migraine and upset tummy. You don’t need to know anymore but it wasn’t fun!

SHOPPING 

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Here were the lists. Lidl’s cheaper vegetables offer included onions and it had Comté on special offer (French week), so French Onion Soup was happening. I ended up with two pots of yoghurt and no fizzy water. I bought rocket salad instead of spinach for my week day lunch, knowing that I only needed it for 4 instead of five days. At Sainsburys, the price of tinned fruit went up and I bought the cheaper apricots over the tinned fruit but could someone please explain to me why the lower basics brands of tinned fruit only come in syrup not fruit juice? I don’t do fruit in syrup. This is also the time to confess. I had salt on the list but I ran out before I shopped on Saturday so had to buy some on the way home on Friday night and that puts me over budget by 76p. Here are the invoices for the shopping minus the salt.

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Total spent £15.76.

And here’s what it looked likeOLYMPUS DIGITAL CAMERAOLYMPUS DIGITAL CAMERACOOKING AND EATING

The plan for the week was pretty simple. Yoghurt pot for breakfast, farro (with tomatoes, spinach and green beans) with salad for lunch, pineapple and a marmalade muffin and work fruit as snacks. While I managed to remember that I only needed lunch for 4 days while I was shopping, I completely forgot while I was doing the weekly food prep, so five lunches (one day soon I will have five salad containers because perhaps then my brain will calm down!) and this is what food prep looks like in my house!OLYMPUS DIGITAL CAMERA

Over the weekend I was out on Saturday and on Sunday ate several bowls of French Onion Soup (it’s not as good as Christelle’s dad’s soup but it was still pretty good!)OLYMPUS DIGITAL CAMERA

I was out on Monday night, babysitting so didn’t plan anything.

On Tuesday I had the orzo and chicken, which has been  stashed in the freezer. I’d been sick a couple of times in the morning and post migraine ate this. Mistake. I ate nothing on Wednesday.

Thursday was more French Onion Soup

Friday was FNP.

LESSONS LEARNED

There weren’t really any lessons this week, more that I put in the work and organisation and it worked, 76p overspend not withstanding.

 

 

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Life Happened: Small Children…

Last week was not an altogether great week. Monday was fine, after work I went to the Baxters to help with bedtime and get told that there was ‘no hitting, no throwing and no throwing stones’ in the Baxter household, so the youngest one knows the rules even if he’s not consistent about obeying them!

Tuesday and Wednesday were complete write offs due to me being sick, I’m still not sure if it was a migraine or a bug or a bad combination of the two but it wasn’t fun.

Life didn’t get interesting until Friday. We had team lunch followed by team building. We had lunch at BoBo Social (which is the most stupid name in the world) but has good burgers.   Then we went to the Secret Studio, we made it out but two minutes over time!

We’ve had Saturday booked in for family time for ages and I was really  looking forward to it,  although it does involve Shepherds Bush Station. Shepherds Bush is still grim even if there is a big Westfields there nowadays…

 It was good to see everyone. Oli was moving too fast to take a photo of but trust me he’s cute and very clever. Joe and I managed a picture before he tried to eat the camera, J is also the spit of my brother, although he’s much less of a grump!  We’ll see them again in a couple of weeks for Mothers Day lunch!

I was tired on Sunday, so housework, food prep and reading were the order of the day. I was pleasantly surprised to see that Chelsea beat Man City 5-1, I was expecting to lose although to be fair it looked like Man City fielded their youth team. Anyway we have Everton in the next round plenty of room to fall on a banana skin, we are not having a good season at all!

This week is more or less, the last week of the month and March and hopefully spring lies ahead of us, my only plan is to survive the week!

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