Sunday Music

Tomorrow is Tina’s birthday (and no, the fact that she’s dead doesn’t mean I don’t think about it!), I need to be careful about this, Tina’s birthday (and anniversary) aren’t really mine. She was my friend and mentor but not my partner or mother but Christina chose this for her wake because she remembered it as a song that reminded her of T.

Listening to it again last month as it popped up on the shuffle on my phone, I’m reminded of how many people in my life it could apply to. I’ve always maintained that London is the centre of the world, so I hardly ever leave! I’m lucky though ’cause so many people from other places end up here and some of them are my friends. So for all the people in my life who expanded my horizons by being from somewhere else and Tina, who did that a lot…this..

And yes I realise this is another repeat…but it’s my space and who only ever listens to a song once!

 

 

 

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June Recap and July Goals

Halfway through the year already, that was quick. June has been an ok but not stellar month mostly because of the cough.

  • I had one migraine this month.
  • I only hit 10,000 steps on 7 of the 30 days of June. At the beginning of the month I really went for it with 24,000 steps in one day and I need more days like that, because the cough of doom meant that walking anywhere was a problem.
  • I really enjoy the body balance classes, but I missed a lot this month again because of the cough and general breathlessness.
  • My eating has been much the same, my sleep has been dreadful, I’ve had a couple of nights when I managed 5 hours sleep but and again because of the cough, I’ve been getting an average of 3 hours, and it’s really beginning to show on my poor, exhausted face!
  • I’ve abandoned the yoga before bedtime because it didn’t seem to be helping but I was doing it for sleep, I might need to start again because it stretches me out.
  • I bought one book this month, so I’m allowed 9 more this year, I’ve mostly been reading library books.
  • The house is very tidy and clean, I had a day to really work on it and I’ve started to do some of the deep cleaning as well as being all over the daily stuff. The oven is finally clean.
  • I’ve (with help – thanks Ma) cleaned out two chest of drawers (one in the living room and one in the bedroom). I’ve also adopted a throw it away policy for things that I’m not going to use anymore and can’t give away (goodbye lovely cream suede handbag, I loved you to bits, until you fell to bits!) Which is why I don’t feel too bad about not going through the cupboard as thoroughly as planned but it’s tidier than it was
  • I stuck to the budget this month and I feel that I’m making some progress on paying things off. It’s going to be a longer haul than I’d like but it’s doable and I’m in control of it, instead of it being in control of me

July Plans and Goals

I’m spending today with Oli, while Ben and Laura are at a wedding, Ma is on holiday and travelling back today, so it’s just me. It’ll be fine! Other than that, July currently has 2 social engagements and one day off! So I reckon it’ll be a quiet month which should give me time to prepare for the drama that is my birthday and Ryan and Claire’s wedding!

BODY

I’m feeling good about what I’m doing at the moment I just need to do it more, preferably without coughing until I vomit, so I’m going to be working on that. IMG_2825

HOME & MIND (BOOKS)

This is another more of the same goal, don’t buy any books, also when I have the 17 books that I currently have on loan from the library read, I really need to start on my TBR pile and maybe have a month off from the library!photo

HOME GENERAL

The flat is in really good shape. I want to have another bash at sorting out the cupboard. This is a repeat goal from last month because I did look at it and it was tidier but the tent got returned last weekend so that needs to go back in the loft, so a through sort out would be a good thing.

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MONEY

This is more of the same, stick to the budget…

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Friday Links

Happy Friday! Here are this weeks links…

The Vaccine Delayers. Interesting, I know loads of parents who just don’t feel that it’s right to stick needles and viruses (even weakened ones) into their babies and I have some sympathy for that argument (I was also around for the MMR linked to autism study that has now been debunked and I remember that Stef opted no to give the MMR to the twins and they had the old fashioned vaccines) but that study has been proved to be rubbish and the more I read, the more pro-vaccination I become. This is the NHS vaccine schedule and it’s not nearly as bad as some anti-vaxxers make out.

Some links about working mothers, guilt and judgement. Before that, my standard disclaimer, my mum worked because that was what was best for her family and children, we needed the money. If Ma ever felt bad about working, I didn’t know about it and so it didn’t occur to me that I was in any way hard done by. It was just how we lived. Looking back as an adult, I have no idea how she managed but it’s probably best summed up by her, “You can have it all, but you don’t get much sleep”

First up, the study. This from Gaby Hinsliff about working mothers and guilt and the view from a daughter, working mothers are great mums

Could bourbon’s rebellious roots come from England?

Dying alone in Japan.

Why Americans are talking about the confederate flag and not gun control. I’ve always thought the confederate flag was about racism, just as the American Civil War was about slavery rather than states rights but why don’t Americans get behind gun control? I understand that guns aren’t responsible for people shooting others but it takes longer to kill someone with a hammer than with a gun. Less guns has to equal less gun deaths and massacres, it’s basic maths…

Children should steer clear of their parents sex lives. Ain’t that the truth? I love the tactful advice that basically points down to ‘MYOB’ and ‘maybe you’re a bit mucked up in the head’

America is just a little bit more equal this week than it was last!

Obamacare

Marriage equality

The Greeks at the bottom of the pile.

London the city that ate itself. Once a city starts being about the people that don’t live here, rather than the people that you, it’s in trouble!

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Salted Caramel Sauce

This is one of the Guardian’s ‘How to cook the perfect…’ and it’s really good.

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What I’ve Read – June 2015

This month’s reading was all from the library, I really need to start tackling my TBR pile.

The Bees – Laline Paull (library book)

Enter a whole new world, in this thrilling debut novel set entirely within a beehive.

Born into the lowest class of her society, Flora 717 is a sanitation bee, only fit to clean her orchard hive. Living to accept, obey and serve, she is prepared to sacrifice everything for her beloved holy mother, the Queen.

But Flora is not like other bees. Despite her ugliness she has talents that are not typical of her kin. While mutant bees are usually instantly destroyed, Flora is removed from sanitation duty and is allowed to feed the newborns, before becoming a forager, collecting pollen on the wing. She also finds her way into the Queen’s inner sanctum, where she discovers secrets both sublime and ominous.

But enemies are everywhere, from the fearsome fertility police to the high priestesses who jealously guard the Hive Mind. And when Flora breaks the most sacred law of all her instinct to serve is overshadowed by an even deeper desire, a fierce love that will lead to the unthinkable . . .

One of my colleagues has been raving about this and had promised to lend it to me when she gets back from her holiday but I was in the library and there it was. It’s an interesting book, I had to start looking up information on bees to see how much of it was based on actual bee behaviour! which is probably a sign that I was pulled in. I really enjoyed the book and I’m still thinking about it.

Shadow Scale – Rachel Hartman (library book)

As Seraphina travels the Southlands in search of the other half-breeds to help in the war effort, the dragon General Comonot and his Loyalists fight against the upstart Old Guard – with the fate of Goredd and the other human countries hanging in the balance.

The gripping sequel to the bestselling Seraphina

I really, really wanted to love this. I loved Seraphina but this one, I just didn’t really connect with it.

The Road To 1945: British Politics and the Second World War Revised Edition – Paul Addison (library book)

1940 has long been regarded as the time when political parties put aside their differences to unite under Churchill and focus on the task of war. But the war years witnessed a radical shift in political power – dramatically expressed in Labour’s decisive electoral victory in 1945. In his acclaimed study, Paul Addison traces this sea-change back to the Thirties and goes on to recapture the powerful spirit of post-war reconstruction

After the election, this book has been mentioned a lot so I decided to see if the library has a copy. It did and it was fascinating, I’ve been annoying Ma by talking about it loads and I may actually have to buy a copy and read it again.

The Friend Zone – Kristen Callihan (ebook – bought)

So more new adult comfort reading. Ok, I don’t like the ‘happy ever after’ quality of new adult (it can happen, but I know exactly one couple who’ve managed meeting at college and getting married and are still together 25 years later, so experience teaches me that it’s rare) and this book gave the couple all sorts of last minute issues that didn’t seem to fit with the scope of the story. However, one of the things I love about this series is that it perfectly captured the ridiculous amount of angst you experience in your early 20’s, when everything new and shiny especially emotions and romance. I remember it well but I did spend a fair amount of the book rolling my eyes and muttering about the importance of USING YOUR WORDS.

First Comes Marriage – Mary Balogh (library ebook)

This is the fault of the Smart Bitches. There was a review of one of Balogh’s books (Only a Promise) and it was all ‘go and read this now’ but they didn’t have it at the library probably because it was only released on 9 June!) but they had this one and when I wasn’t coughing my guts up, I was able to read this and keep track of it. Then I reserved all the ones I could at the library, apart from these I have another 11 at home to read…

Slightly Married – Mary Balogh (library book)

I really enjoyed this, Mary Balogh lives in Canada but is originally from Wales and that shows here. I liked the hero and heroine, that the made the best of a difficult situation and both had a sense of themselves.

Only Enchanting – Mary Balogh (library book)

The hero of this book is a cavalry officer injured by getting shot through the head, falling off his horse onto his head and then getting ridden over. He is called Viscount Ponsonby, which I can only hope is a shout out to Frederick Ponsonby, who depending on your point of view was either one of the luckiest or unluckiest men at Waterloo (shot in both arms, sabred off his horse, stabbed in the back and abandoned on the battlefield where he was robbed, used as a shield by a French skirmisher,  ridden over by Prussian cavalry, roughed up by a Prussian looking for plunder and spent the night on the battlefield. He lived and was nursed back to health by his sister, Caroline Lamb (presumably during one of her more stable periods!).

Apart from that, I really enjoyed this. I liked that the couple come to support one another, that their partnership helps but doesn’t heal everything, the power of love does not miraculously cure our hero’s wounds or stutter but makes dealing with it easier. There is a section of the book where the heroine basically says, ‘this isn’t ideal but we will make it work because you and I matter. I’m a person and I’m worthy of respect and happiness’. Which is nice. Generally, if Balogh has a theme it’s that happily ever after doesn’t exist, what you get instead is happy and safe and content and communication, which is pretty much what it should be.

Talon – Julie Kawaga & Rogue – Julie Kawaga (library e-books)

To the outside world Ember Hill is an ordinary girl, but Ember has a deadly secret. A dragon hiding in human form, she is destined to fight the shadowy Order of St. George, a powerful society of dragonslayers.

St. George soldier Garret is determined to kill Ember and her kind. Until her bravery makes him question all he’s been taught about dragons.

Now a war is coming and Garret and Ember must choose their sides – fight to save their bond or fulfil their fate and destroy one another

Godchild 2 was reading these and wanted me to read it too because “I don’t know what to make of it”. I know what she means, I wanted more detail and at the same time less detail. There’s a lot of info dumping and what seems to be a love triangle being set up…which I don’t like all that much anyway. Given how much info dumping is done, the things I want to know aren’t covered, how did Garret become a member of St George, why is Talon so evil, I have a feeling this is going to be series rather than a trilogy. Also Ember is a pain in the arse, for someone who has brought up in a super secret organisation of dragons and trained to be an assassin, she’s pretty dumb. She keeps doing things that put her and everyone else in danger because she’s bored or a hothead. I’m hard put to understand why we should care about her. It was weird, when I was reading them they were hard to put down but when it was time to pick them up again, I wasn’t all that bothered!

 

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Reasons to be Cheerful – June 2015

The view from the National Theatre. That we have a National Theatre and how lovely London for all it’s faults.IMG_3098

A morning on the allotment (that was a busy day, 24,000 steps!)11393205_10207192757963476_8150599775323232927_n

Cherry season is here. I love cherries IMG_3102Good weather for some of June and ice cream van banana ice lolliesIMG_3110Work colleagues that go home to Texas and bring back Swedish Fish!IMG_3112My lovely Mum, who came over to Ealing and took me to the doctor because I was poorly and she didn’t think I’d make it over by myself. She also delivered my second set of drugs to me because she’s awesome!20130801-082237.jpgJune featured World Gin Day AND National Martini Day. I’m always happy to have gin but this month in particular!IMG_3133John was in London for a day, it has been literally years since I’ve seen him, so it was good to catch up…IMG_3141Last but not least this month a new washing machine. Renting is expensive but when your landlord replaces the broken washing machine in two days (and comes and fits it!) it feels worth it!IMG_3153

 

 

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Life Happened – Coughing and Wheezing

Hello and welcome to Monday and the last days of June!

I started last week with two nasty realisations, first the cough was not going away and second the washing machine was leaking! I got another set of pills from the doctor to take on Wednesday and by Thursday the cough was less present but I still had the full on wheeze and breathlessness, which could have been due to the pollen and pollution rather than the cough. Who knows? As of today, I’m still coughing but not all night and not uncontrollably, so I’m calling it good!

I started Tuesday morning tired and grumpy but a message from John, who was in London overnight, and Tuesday night drinks cheered me up no end. It’s nice to have friends who get surprise visits to London!IMG_3141On Wednesday, I got a new washing machine (God bless my landlord), which meant working from home and washing all the things…         IMG_3153

The rest of the week was pretty average and but Friday night I was ready for a quiet night of reading…IMG_3150and a drinkIMG_3145And because I was spending time in living room as it got darker, candles in the fireplaceIMG_3147The rest of the weekend was very quiet. Gill came over on Sunday to return the tent, I went to the library, did all laundry including the ironing. So by Sunday evening, I felt rested and productive and then I found a spiderIMG_3152I really like spiders so it made me insanely happy!

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Sunday Music

I’ve loved this song for a long time, I’ve heard the Isley Brothers do it live and I just love it. In fact I’ve featured it on Sunday Music before, sometimes things are good and they need a repeat…

And it’s still glorious, “how can you use with the stuff you use”, well how can you…

 

 

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Friday Night Cocktail redux

I haven’t been doing FNC for a while because I haven’t really been doing anything different in the drinking stakes for a while and on Friday nights I might have a gin and tonic and leave it at that.  However, this morning, the Summer in a Glass, popped into my head and this will be my drink of choice this evening. It’s still one of my favourites and just right for the weather..

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Friday Links

Happy Friday! Here’s some reading for the weekend!

Mind Your Own Damn Business…An Ode to Tact.

Fix the housing crisis by banning non resident ownership I’m not sure that’s the only thing that needs to happen but what the govt is doing now clearly isn’t working.

I can’t stand Father’s Day. As I was reading this, I was thinking “get over yourself, go have some therapy or something but don’t do this”. I don’t do Father’s Day because my father is dead and I have lots of well documented Daddy issues. So I don’t really pay it much attention. I did roll my eyes at the sentimentality that choked up my Facebook feed yesterday but I feel the same way on Mother’s Day and I really love my mum. Some of us have good relationships with our parents, some of us don’t, some of us are in deep denial about the state of those relationships. If you find days like last Sunday hard because of a problem relationship, go and sort it out in your own head, don’t expect people to get it but once you are ok with what it is and isn’t, those days will stop bothering you.

How long it will take you to read the books you’ve been putting off. Bit American, I have no intention of ever trying to read Ayn Rand but interesting..

Reading taught me about being a grown up. Pretty much…most of my role models (the good ones) are from books…

Why is my hangover so bad? Interestingly, I haven’t had a bad hangover for a while maybe because I’m improving my diet?

French students complain about English question. I love the French…

Things I didn’t know until this week. Platypuses produce venom and it’s really, really nasty..

However Cameron defines poverty, it affects too many children

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