Cake

This week I will bake myself a cake. It won’t be all for me, there will be Ben, Laura, Oli, Josephine, Tabitha and Ma to help me eat it. There will not be candles, the last time I had a birthday cake with candles was also the last time someone baked me a cake for my birthday. It was my 21st. I’m not complaining I’ve just learnt that if I want a birthday cake (and who the hell doesn’t want birthday cake?) I have to make it myself. So I do.20140804-095007-35407773.jpgI have noticed that my birthday cake baking is now tends to be the following 4 things because they work, I know they work and no-one complains about them.

The Birthday Cake

The first time I made this was for Oli’s 1st birthday. I made it in various badly decorated versions until he was 4. That was the year of the decorating disaster that we shall never speak of although Laura made Oli’s cake for his 5th birthday which was probably for the best. I can cook but decoration is beyond me.photoIt’s a perfect party cake, sturdy but not solid and lightly favoured.

The Custard Power Cake

This is a Nigella Lawson recipe, she thinks it makes a great birthday cake, which it does, and you can make it quickly on a Saturday morning when the first cake goes wrong (not that I’ve ever needed to do that!). In the example below, I sacrificed Oli’s birthday card to get the shape of the 4….20131125-084835.jpg

There’s the ever adaptable Carrot Cake.Back Camera

This is the cake I make most. I joke that I am the Baxter birthday baker and it’s always this cake that I get asked for, in fact this year the toddlers and I made the cake for Adam, while Kathy tried to get some work done.DSCF0825I’ve made some changes from the original, more carrots, the addition of raisins or sultanas, lots more cinnamon (like at least triple the amount!). I don’t make a cream cheese frosting because I get that so wrong on a regular basis and this one is easier to manage.

Finally pavlova. Its not cake but it’s another thing that no one I know turns down.IMG_2847

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Reasons to be Cheerful July 2015

I got to spend time with Oliver at the beginning of the month and he was mostly delightful. He explained adhesion to me “when two things stick together, like a nose and candyfloss”. He is a self confessed drama queen (a Dempsey for sure!) but also funny, curious and clever. This is his scary face.IMG_3164Breakfast for a week in July was this and it was amazingIMG_3187Kindness from others, I nearly fainted on the Tube one morning and the girl who walked me to the Victoria Line train and gave me some water, by freaky co-incidence, lives in Fulham right next to where I used to live.

A weekend where all plans got cancelled lead to dinner at Ma’s (and fizz!)IMG_3225An appointment about my foot. It was a frustrating couple of hours but I’m still amazingly grateful for the NHS, which hopefully will survive in spite of the governments best efforts to destroy it.IMG_0039

Haircut. Last thing in July a much needed haircut. I can see through my fringe!   

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Life Happened – High Society

Some weeks  are really hard and you really feel it, some are still hard but good and this week fell into the later category. All of the things that are difficult in my life were still difficult, I’m still struggling with my breathing more than I’d like, I’m still feeling poor, my feet still hurt, work is boring and frustrating in equal measure and I have raging PMS but last week did not feel like a disaster.

Why?

I did the things at home that needed doing, I went to bed early, I forced myself to get out of bed when I really didn’t want to, I took a half day on Wednesday to sort myself out, I changed my route home from work so I walked for half an hour first which helped me transition from work to home. In short, I got a grip on myself and being in control really helps me get things into perspective, so that I could really appreciate the nice things that did happen this week.

There was bread pudding mostly for Jane because she needed something nice..IMG_3242And a haircut which I really, really needed..IMG_3249-0I got two early birthday cards, from Kathy and Adam, and from Jane and co. (Jane also gave me a bottle of Champagne because she knows me well, and K&A, who also know what I like, bought me the Franco Manca pizza book!). On the way back from Jane’s, I picked up a huge bag of free rhubarb from the allotments near her. There is crumble in my future…IMG_3245I also popped round to see Kathy & Adam and the Baxter babies, we had pizza and watched A Close Shave, with the youngest of the two telling me about the ‘bad dog’ whenever he appeared! Those children are delightful but I don’t think K&A are going to get any proper sleep until they’re teenagers!

On the way home, I discovered that Waitrose are selling Gin and Tonic Ice Cream (like they read my mind!)IMG_3252On Saturday, Ma and I went to see High Society at the Old Vic. It was good but my problem with it was that it wasn’t The Philadelphia Story which is better…IMG_3256The rest of the weekend was passed reading, relaxing and generally loafing around.

A good week…

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Sunday Music

Something More Than Freedom has been on replay for the last couple of weeks. It’s all OCMS’ fault, they said to go and listen and I did. So now I’m saying it Jason Isbell, go and listen now..

you thought God was an architect, now you know/He’s something like a pipe bomb ready to blow

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July Recap/August Goals

July was a slog, I’m not sure why, could it be because it’s the month before my birthday and therefore the month before the good stuff happens? Not sure but it felt long and difficult.

  • I had no migraines this month, I’m not saying any more than that because I might doom it.
  • Bad month for walking and exercise, I’ve only started to make up for that towards the end of the month…
  • My eating has been much the same, my sleep has been better than last month and I seem to be averaging 4 to 5 hours a night, not great but not too bad for me.
  • I’ve restarted the yoga before bedtime because even if it doesn’t help my sleep, it does help my back, feet and knees, which need all the help they can get.
  • No book buying this month, although my library habit is out of control, 13 books out currently, I love the library….
  • The house is tidy and clean but that’s about it. I’m loving the new quieter washing machine but it seems to lead to more ironing, even when I use the reduced ironing button.
  • I stuck to the budget this month although I did find it harder this month, I’m chalking it up to July being a slog. Ma and I also decided not to go to Northumberland this year, which is entirely due to budget issues. We will go next year in April instead. I will miss it but will keep the leave in October and do some stuff to the flat.

August Plans and Goals

Hurrah for my birthday month. Today, Ma and I are going to see High Society at the Old Vic. I’ve got time off on my actual birthday and the day after and even though there’s a planned Tube Strike, we’re going to the Hayward Gallery for Carsten Höller: Decision and then to the OXO for Manhattans (on the terrace if the weather is good!). 20140806-214843-78523315.jpgFamily lunch for my birthday, this year sees the return of Jo and Miss T, I’m looking forward to see what Miss T and Oli make of each other!

I’ll be popping into the Allotment Open Day on the 15th.

Last but not least, I have the last week of August off work and I’m heading off to Wales to see Ryan and Claire get married! So a pretty busy month in all!

BODY

I’m feeling good about what I’m doing at the moment I just need to do it more. So regular body balance, more walking and yoga before bed are the August goals.IMG_2825

HOME & MIND (BOOKS)

This is another more of the same goal, don’t buy any books…photo

HOME GENERAL

Just keep it clean and tidy, I’ll be busy in August, so just keeping on top of it is good enough this month.

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MONEY

This is more of the same, stick to the budget…

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Friday Links

Happy Friday! Happy last day of July!

Today I am not at work, I’m having a haircut, which I really need, but here are this week’s links

When weddings attack… I really don’t get it. I just don’t. Go to a registry office (or Church if that’s your thing) get married. Job done.

Why smart Tories should worry about Jeremy Corbyn.

Jay Rayner’s reviews are always good to read, even when the review is bad!

And then there are the prices. Le Chabanais is named after a famous Belle Époque Parisian brothel, which is an irresistible gift from the god of restaurant critics. I could resist it, of course, but I didn’t get where I am today by being classy and subtle. Because, believe me, this does feel like a place where the customers come to get screwed.

The real Lord Sewel scandal is financial not sexual. Yep.

paid women in prostitution for their services in a grace and favour flat in Dolphin Square for which he pays £1,000 a month instead of the going rate of nearly £3,000. This man’s “private life” is subsidised to the hilt by the taxpayer, and that is what really sticks in the craw

Labour is now so passive it might as well be lead by an out of office email.

From where they are at the moment John Major could lead them to the left…

Why is premenstrual syndrome still so badly understood? Tell me about it. I have a mother who didn’t get PMS, so for years I thought it was me being a wimp. It is at least easier nowadays, when I wake up feeling, well hungover and sick for nearly two weeks of the month, to know that it’s just hormones and it will pass.

there are over 150 different symptoms of PMS from depression to backache to migraines, and still few answers about how and why these occur. Stranger still that the contraceptive pill or antidepressants are often the only solutions offered, with little explanation. How can there be this much vagueness and confusion over the female body in 2015.

The 10 Commandments of Daughterhood. Or treat your mother like she is a human being. To  paraphrase my own mother “Your mother wasn’t put on this earth just to be your mother, she was herself before she was ‘Mummy'”. Treat her accordingly! Also with the exception of the funeral planning, (I want to play ‘ha ha the witch is dead’ and she keeps saying that I’m going to die before her!) we already do everything else because we have a relationship and we talk to one another, even when we annoy one another!

Last month my local council decided that next year it would introduce wheelie bins and alternate weekly collection of rubbish and recycling, food collection will still be weekly. To which I say hurrah! I want wheelie bins, it’ll stop recycling being blown out of boxes, it’ll also stop foxes attacking the bin bags on Monday nights. Everyone else in Ealing seems to be outraged. I’ve been leafleted, there is a petition…it’s slightly bonkers. It seems to me that the local Tory councillors should be spending more time and energy worrying about the cuts to housing and social services coming down the line than bloody wheelie bins!

The joy of living on a boat. If it’s your choice, I’m sure it’s lovely. I wouldn’t like it at all.

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What I Ate – July 2015

At the end of every month, my posts on what I’ve read, what I’ve been cheerful about and my goals for the month, have been really useful to me in tracking my moods and progress. So I’ve decided for this month to do something similar for my eating and cooking. I may not do it every month but I found it quite interesting to look at posts about food in July and generally to reflect on my cooking and eating.IMG_3158I kicked off July with Salted Caramel Sauce. It’s not something I’ll make very often, it’s far too dangerous to have in the fridge at all times but it’s something I’d never made before and it’s nice to try new cooking techniques.IMG_3184Most of this month seems to have been about revisiting old favourites or trying to make interesting food without busting my budget. The budget thing is really important to me as I start to pay down debt and think about what I’m spending money on. This pasta bake isn’t rocket science, but usually I wouldn’t treat it like lasagne and would only at red sauce, using white sauce as well made it better. IMG_3187I talked about how what I eat changes when it’s hot but what actually happens is that how I cook changes, for the brief week of the heatwave, the breakfast crisp made a come back into my menu as did the cous cous salad.OLYMPUS DIGITAL CAMERAWe went for afternoon tea (with a Wimbledon theme) at the Charlotte Street HotelIMG_3202When I found myself unexpectedly staying at Ma’s, we raided Marks and Spencer for dinner. IMG_3225There was some pizza. Although to be fair there is never a month when I don’t make pizzaIMG_3223There was also a cheeky manhattan – because sticking to the budget is not the same as not buying whiskey!IMG_3233And this is the amazing something out of nothing rice. All the dying vegetables, rice, a tin of tomatoes and a ball of mozerella. It fed me and Ma on a Saturday, was lunch on Sunday, dinner on Monday and did lunch on Tuesday. Total cost roughly £4 and I didn’t have to go shopping…. IMG_3235It feels like the theme of this month was making do and using up what was there.

 

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What I’ve Read – July 2015

All my reading this month has been Regency or Regency-ish. Lots of Mary Balogh, carrying on with the Temeraire books, and two history books about Waterloo and a re-read of John Kincaid’s memoires…

Empire of Ivory – Naomi Novik (library e-book)

Laurence and Temeraire made a daring journey across vast and inhospitable continents to bring home a rare Turkish dragon from the treacherous Ottoman Empire.

Kazilik dragons are firebreathers, and Britain is in greater need of protection than ever, for while Laurence and Temeraire were away, an epidemic struck British shores and is killing off her greatest defence – her dragon air force is slowly dying.

The dreadful truth must be kept from Napoleon at all costs. Allied with the white Chinese dragon, Lien, he would not hesitate to take advantage of Britain’s weakness and launch a devastating invasion.

Hope lies with the only remaining healthy dragon – Temeraire cannot stay at home, but must once again venture into the unknown to help his friends and seek out a cure in darkest Africa

I love these books, I love the way they are written and the way that Laurence deals with things. Just lovely and because it ends badly, I immediately put the others on hold…

‘The Scum of the Earth’: What Happened to the Real British Heroes of Waterloo? – Colin Brown (library e-book)

The Scum of the Earth explores the common soldiers the Duke of Wellington angrily condemned as ‘scum’ for their looting at Vitoria, from their great victory over Napoleon at the Battle of Waterloo in 1815 to their return home to a Regency Britain at war with itself. It follows men like James Graham, the Irishman hailed as the bravest man in the British Army for his heroic action in closing the north gate at Hougoumont, and fresh documentary evidence that he was forced to plead for charity because he was so poor; Francis Styles, who went to his grave claiming that he had captured the eagle that was credited to his superior officer; and John Lees, a spinner from Oldham who joined up at 15, braved shell and shot to deliver ammunition to the guns at Waterloo and was cut down four years later at the Peterloo Massacre by some of the cavalry with whom he served. All this is set against a backdrop of civil unrest on a scale unprecedented in British history. The Regency age is famous for its elegance, its exuberance, the industrial revolution that made Britain the powerhouse of Europe and the naval might that made it a global superpower. But it was also an age of riots and the fear that the mob would win control just as it had done in Paris. Britain came closer to bloody revolution than ever before or since, as ordinary men – including some of the men whom Wellington called the scum of the earth – took to the streets to fight for their voices to be heard in Parliament. The riots were put down by a series of repressive measures while Wellington stood like a bastion against the tide of history. He was defeated with the passage of the Great Reform Act in 1832. There is no one better placed to take a cold, hard look at the battle and its aftermath in order to save us from a bicentenary of misty-eyed backslapping than a former political editor with a reputation for myth busting. Colin Brown provides original research into the heroes of Waterloo and the myths that have clouded the real story

Colin Brown is not a fan of Wellington but his premise, that the ordinary soldiers at Waterloo were treated badly and that that Establishment didn’t really care about them or giving them a voice is true and he makes his case effectively.

Waterloo: The History of Four Days, Three Armies and Three Battles – Bernard Cornwall (library ebook)

On the 18th June, 1815 the armies of France, Britain and Prussia descended upon a quiet valley south of Brussels. In the previous three days the French army had beaten the British at Quatre-Bras and the Prussians at Ligny. The Allies were in retreat.

The blood-soaked battle of Waterloo would become a landmark in European history, to be examined over and again, not least because until the evening of the 18th, the French army was close to prevailing on the battlefield.

Now, brought to life by the celebrated novelist Bernard Cornwell, this is the chronicle of the four days leading up to the actual battle and a thrilling hour-by-hour account of that fateful day.

In his first work of non-fiction, Cornwell combines his storytelling skills with a meticulously researched history to give a riveting account of every dramatic moment, from Napoleon’s escape from Elba to the smoke and gore of the battlefields. Through letters and diaries he also sheds new light on the private thoughts of Napoleon and the Duke of Wellington, as well as the ordinary officers and soldiers.

Published to coincide with the bicentenary in 2015, Waterloo is a tense and gripping story of heroism and tragedy – and of the final battle that determined the fate of Europe.

More Waterloo and a note that it doesn’t matter how often I read about British cavalry charge, I’m always thinking ‘turn back, don’t go for the guns’ every single time as if I could somehow stop them, 200 years after the fact! This is a really easy to read but at the same time detailed telling of the battle. Cornwall is even handed about the decisions made on both sides and you do really get the sense of how much of a ‘close run thing’ it was. Reading this I can’t help but see how what really won the battle (other than the Prussians arriving on time) was really about Wellington’s control of and presence on the battlefield. Wellington said that Napoleon was worth 40,000 men on the field but what strikes me is how little Napoleon was on the battlefield and little he did to turn the tide of the battle. Now you could (and Andrew Roberts certainly would) say that the Napoleon at Waterloo was not the same man who won at Austerlitz but it seems to me that he was. He was a general who relied on dash and élan to win. Wellington wasn’t loved by his men like Napoleon was but he was trusted. It seems to me that ultimately, that the French lost that battle because Napoleon was too sure of the genius of his plan, didn’t properly communicate his orders or adapt his plan when things changed.

Tales of the Rifle Brigade – John Kincaid (re-read owned)

To Napoleon’s troops, the sharp shooters of the 95th (Rifle) Regiment were ‘the rascals in green’, famed throughout Europe for their bravery, skill, and dash. Kincaid’s Adventures in the Rifle Brigade was the first book to be published by a veteran, recounting the amazing escapades of this legendary unit in the war against French armies in Portugal and Spain. His second volume, Random Shots From a Rifleman, is just as vivid and memorable as the first, and finishes with a remarkable first-hand description of the Waterloo campaign from the ordinary soldier’s point of view

Because I had a strange evening and needed comfort and Johnny Kincaid got a lot of mentions in Bernard Cornwall’s book and Johnny Kincaid is my idea of comfort reading.

The Escape – Mary Balogh (library book)

Only a Promise – Mary Balogh (library book)

Slightly Tempted – Mary Balogh (library book)

One Night for Love – Mary Balogh (library book)

A Summer to Remember – Mary Balogh (library book)

I’m working my way through these and I’m really enjoying them. Mostly Balogh doesn’t do villains, she does people who hurt and as a result act badly. I love the way that her characters all live in the same world and that the hero and heroine both learn and grow and change. They are such lovely books…

 Victory of Eagles – Naomi Novik (library e-book)

Laurence waits to be hanged as a traitor to the Crown, and Temeraire is confined to the breeding grounds as Napoleon invades Britain, and takes London.

Laurence and Temeraire have betrayed the British. They have foiled their attempts to inflict death upon the French dragons by sharing the cure they found in Africa with their enemy.

But following their conscience has a price. Laurence feels he must return to face the consequences, and as soon as they land they are taken into custody. Laurence is condemned to the gallows and Temeraire faces a life of captivity in the breeding grounds. None of their friends or allies can come to their aid, for every hand is needed elsewhere.

Britain is completely unprepared for Bonaparte invasion and the advanced tactics of his own celestial dragon – Temeraire’s mortal enemy – Lien

Tongues of Serpents – Naomi Novik (library e-book)

Convicted of treason and stripped of rank and standing, Temeraire and Lawrence are transported to the prison colony at New South Wales. With them travel three dragon eggs destined to be handed over to second-rate officers willing to accept so remote an assignment – including one former acquaintance, Captain Rankin, whose cruelty once cost a dragon its life.

They arrive at a young Australian colony in turmoil after the overthrow of the military governor, William Bligh – formerly Captain Bligh, late of HMS Bounty. Eager to escape the political quagmire, Laurence and Temeraire accept a mission to pioneer a route through the forbidding Blue Mountains and into the interior of Australia. But when one of the dragon eggs is stolen, the surveying expedition becomes a desperate race to recover it before the dragonet hatches – a race that leads to a shocking discovery and a dangerous new obstacle in the global war between Britain and France.

Crucible of Gold – Naomi Novik (library e-book)

Former Aerial Corps captain Will Laurence and his faithful dragon, Temeraire, have been put out to pasture in Australia – and it seems their part in the war has ended just when they are needed most.

The French have invaded Spain, forged an alliance with Africa’s powerful Tswana empire, and brought revolution to Brazil. With Britain’s last desperate hope of defeating Napoleon in peril, the government that sidelined Laurence swiftly offers to reinstate him, convinced that he’s the best man to enter the fray and negotiate peace. So the pair embark for Brazil, only to meet with a string of unmitigated disasters that forces them to make an unexpected landing in the hostile territory of the Incan empire.

I read these books one after another and I’m still gripped by them. As they progress Novik has really started to build her world and change things up from the actual history. That being said, I felt that her interpretation of Wellington (and Napoleon) was recognisable, that the way the books are written feels Regency and I’m loving that we’re getting more of an insight into how Temeraire (and dragons) think. I can’t recommend these highly enough and they are books I want to own, I have one more on hold and the last one ever is out next year.

Getting Lucky: Sapphire Falls Six – Erin Nichols (borrowed from Ruth)

Out of Bounds: The Boys of Fall (borrowed from Ruth)

The Sweetest September – Liz Tally (borrowed from Ruth)

Ruth reads a lot and if she’s read something she really likes, they get given to me. I read all of these on a rainy Sunday afternoon with occasional stops for bread making. Perfect.

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Flicky fringe

One of the things no-one tells you about middle age is how unruly your hair gets. I knew it was coming, Ma’s hair has got increasingly curly, not enough to actually curl but it’s very wavy. I had curly hair when I was a baby and it’s got a wave, one of the reasons I keep it long is that weight of it keeps it straighter.IMG_3237The only thing that you’d notice is the flicky fringe. It’s worse when it needs a cut (and it’s been 12 weeks since my last haircut!) and it’s worse when it’s damp (I live in England, when isn’t it damp)IMG_3220It’s not good….IMG_3023IMG_2503

 

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Life Happened – Frustration

There are two ways of looking at how last week went. One view is that it was a horrible week, a hard slog because I had to spend so much time dealing with the ridiculousness of others and lots of waiting on others before I could get on, with some really terrible weather thrown in.

The alternative view, is that it was a challenging week and that I can be proud of how I responded to it and to others around me with only some minor (although Ma may not see it that way!) venting and lots of achievement, both in work and out of it.

I’m going with the later.

Waiting for the train and proof that there was some sunny weather this week.IMG_3227The new addition to the local hindu templeIMG_3229This week I spent approximately 11,000 hours waiting for stuff at the hospital. Ok, maybe only 3 and a half but it felt like longer. Good news is that I’m on a waiting list to have my foot fixed and that list is not as long a I expected, about 3 months!IMG_0039Ma came to dinner on Saturday and we started with manhattans.IMG_3233in fact we drank quite a lot, I blame Ma!

Dinner was yummy though!IMG_3235Sunday was rainy and grim and I stayed indoors and read books. I also made potato bread and thus accomplished something!IMG_3239

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