Monday Miscellany

We are finally in February, thank goodness!

This weekend, Sarah at SBTB posted this, I will link to this again in Friday Links but I feel it should be read more than once and especially as a reflection on the spaces that woman make.

Other things this week….I spend a lot of my life on buses and tubes and I spend a lot of time wondering why they don’t work like they should. This is not a complaint about overcrowding, it’s about why it takes 25 minutes to go 5 stops or if there will be a week this year where all of the tube lines I use won’t have a signal failure. Now I’m going to talk about overcrowding. Dear Transport for London, if I have to spend 20 minutes squashed into a tube, or have to let trains go because I can’t physically fit on them, it’s not a good service, it’s a usual service. On top of your manifest inability to run a transport network, you also mangle English!Other than the daily, tiny trauma of the commute, last week was surprisingly productive and social. I went to the cinema (The Post), went out for drinks on Friday, walked with Sarah and Fred, caught up with Kathy and I also need to take a moment to praise God for the joy and strength and joy that friendship gives me. I also visited the plot with Ma and drank martinis.I’ll also link to this on Friday but I think that it’s also worth linking to twice. Anyone who’s been around me or this space for five minutes will know (0r I hope they will) know how important my faith is to me, but seeing the workings of another person’s faith was interesting and reminded me of how much we have in common. I really hope that Sarah does more than this and it’s something I’m considering for this space too..

It’s been a busy and emotional weekend, somewhere in there, I managed to shop, food prep and tidy the house. I’m ready to go to work for a rest!

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Sunday Music: Say Something

Justin Timberlake feat. Ma’s favourite man with a beard, Chris Stapleton

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Friday Links

Happy Friday! It’s been a week, I’m off out tonight to Dirty Martini (all I can say is that some of the martinis had better be clean!) with the ladies from Elexon, although the ex-Elexon ladies are now in the minority!

The week is more or less done and I have a more or less clear inbox (or will be by 4.59pm this evening – something that is easier to accomplish every other week when two of my four directors don’t work!) and the weekend lies ahead of me with lots to do, Saturday is volunteer day at the allotments and a walk with Sarah and Fred and then actual work that needs to be done on the plot and at some point housework! Being an adult is all about balance!

We’re finally talking about money more openly. Now we have to get brutal about it.

Can you really save for a deposit by ditching coffee and avocado toast? 

Theresa May’s problem is that her failings go far beyond Brexit. The problem with spending years of your life scheming for power for the sake of power. There’s no point having it if you don’t have a plan for what to do with it.

Reading this review for Julius Caesar makes me happy because I’m going to see it next week!

All I Watch Is Trash. Sometimes you just have to switch off your brain.

My seven month migraine. This is interesting about migraines and the kind of medical treatment women get generally

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What I’ve Read – January 2018

Welcome to a new year of ‘What I’ve Read’…

It’s not been a bad start to the year but I need to knuckle down to the 564 page, Citizen Clem (about Clem Attlee) in February. Fun fact that is completely unrelated to reading, I grew up opposite Clem Attlee Court, where eventually my Grandad lived, all the blocks were named after Labour politicians, Grandad lived at Jim Griffiths, I remember when he moved in. Grandad moved from a three bed council flat in Sands End to a one bed, to free up the space and to be nearer to us, it can’t have been long after we moved to North End Road because his flat was painted (by my Dad) with the same paint as our living room was (a nice 1970’s beige!). I do remember that we couldn’t get his wardrobe up the the stairs and it lived in the sitting room! He eventually moved to the sheltered housing on the estate, Michael Stewart House, he loved that and as an adult I loved the planner who thought, that mixed age housing was a good idea.

Anyway on to reading in January…

Magus Chase and the Ship of the Dead – Rick Riordan.

I was trying to get myself out of my December reading slump and I thought this would be fun and easy to read. It was both of those things. I’ve been reading Riordan’s books with the godchildren forever and you can see that he is really thinking about representation in them, he doesn’t make a big deal about it but the fact that there is representation and it just is, is really important. Aside from that, this read like a last book, like Percy Jackson and his other hero’s Magus does better because of his friends, his friends are the people who get him though and winning in this book is pretty peaceful. I liked it.

Heart on Fire – Amanda Bouchet

This is the last of a trilogy and I was really looking forward to it and it was deeply ok. Cat irritated the hell out of me. I loved the world building but it was just the same thing over and over. Cat confronts her mother, discovers her power, fails to beat her mother and realises how perfect Griffin is for her. Again and again. It was boring because she didn’t grow, she just kept doing the same thing. Look being the chosen one is hard but Cat’s refusal to engage her sodding brain when everyone is telling and showing her how fabulous she was, was very irritating. And then it just ended. They won but nothing about anyone else, it was strange.

The Hate U Give – Angie Thomas

All of the praise this book has received is well deserved. I loved Starr, I loved her voice and I loved her strong parents. One of the problems I have with YA, especially as I get older is parents in YA, because they are mostly awful people. Starr’s parents are not. They aren’t at all perfect (and both younger than I am now, which was horrifying…) but they are really doing all they can. They can’t solve the issues that Starr is dealing with but they care, they are involved and they never leave here hanging. Honestly, it was really good to read. All of this makes it an easy book to read, what it’s about is hard. Thomas never sugarcoats it and reading her notes, this book based on her life and experiences. We need to read books like this.

Eleanor Oliphant is Completely Fine – Gail Honeyman

This year at Christmas, I bought everyone a book. This was Ma’s book, which she wanted to read after hearing it as a Book at Bedtime. I borrowed it when she’d finished and I loved it. Eleanor is an odd duck, it’s almost as if she’s on the spectrum, she wears the same clothes everyday, has had the same job for 9 years, and spends every weekend alone and drunk on vodka. She’s fine, a survivor. Eleanor tells us about her life and you know something is not right, the references to Mummy, the flat that she lives in was because she was in care, she’s also really bright and very strange. At the start of the book, she’s been to a concert and developed a crush on a singer because he’s wearing a three piece suit correctly but she’s also getting drawn into other people’s lives and then things start to happen. She’s so damaged and so innocent and so alone. She’s terribly lonely and she doesn’t know what to do about it. I know a couple of people like this, I wonder if this is how I’ll end up. All through the book, I was rooting for her and laughing at her (she gives a 40th birthday present of half a bottle of vodka and a packet of sliced cheese – because men love cheese!). Eventually life gets better but only after it gets much worse. I loved this book and everyone should read it.

Jane and Prudence – Barbara Pym

At some point in this book Prudence asks Jane if the village Jane has just moved to has any of the right sort of people. This encapsulates the issue I had with this book, I am not the right sort of people for it. I don’t understand the people (Philip Larkin, I’m looking at you) who think that she is better than Jane Austen.

Iron Gold – Pierce Brown

This book picks up 10 years after the events of the first three books and things are not going well. At times I didn’t want to read this book because it’s nasty, people are compromised and they know it. Darrow really wants to give up, nothing has gone the way he planned. In fact everyone in this book is compromised. The beginning of the third book gave me nightmares and this one is depressing in a different way. I really hope Brown has a way out of this because I can’t take that much hopelessness right now. On the other hand, the people feel real for all the good and the bad in them. The world building is better, I got a real sense of a future world but there had better be another book with more resolution….

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Monthly Goals – January/February 2018

Today is the last day of January, well done everyone, we made it through. I’m not keen on the dark months and January after all the light and feasting of December is the one of the worst.I decided to change how I thought about goals in January and that helped a bit. I will confess that although I don’t feel bad about my lack of achievement, if January had a pass/fail, I would have probably failed.

Other stuff that happened in January, Ma was really ill and we reversed visiting schedules for a while at the beginning of the month, the littlest nephew can say Nic (he’s still working on the Aunty part but I don’t need the title!), Ma and I made an allotment plan which we are very excited about, I finally got a haircut, Ryan and I spoke to each other once a week (we haven’t been this communicative since he was 10!). I’m still employed!

So the goals for Jan were:

  • Yoga for 30 days. More precise to say yoga for 10 days. Time to be real, I have to do yoga in my living room and I hate having to get my mat out every day and roll it back up, I’m thinking that there must be a way to get me over because when I do it, I enjoy it and it’s good for me.
  • 10,000 steps a day. I didn’t get there very day but the aim was 310,000 steps for the month and I did that!
  • Vitamins. I took a regular multi-vitamin, folic acid and vitamin D everyday, this was pretty easy, I bought them, I took them every night before bedtime, I didn’t have as many spots on my chin when I had PMT and while I’m not exactly bouncing with energy, I haven’t come down with anymore lurgies…
  • Feet. I have lovely soft feet because I’ve been moisturising them 5 days out of 7.
  • No spending in January. This was a complete fail, it started with buying Junipalooza tickets, then there was the £50-ish on gin. It was bad, I need to put my horns in next month. I did stick to my food budget though.
  • Food prep and menu planning. I did it, I resented it on Sunday nights, but loved it Monday to Friday!
  • Sort out. I did this and was surprised about how little there was to chuck out, my less clutter mantra is finally having an effect somewhere in my house!

So that was January but I did start the year with some aims too so a little update on that.

Reading – I’ve read 6 books this month. 2 off my TBR list. Others were pre-ordered with Christmas money or borrowed. The TBR list on the Kindle stands at 90 and the physical pile of books is 34 because I added a borrowed book to it. It’s like a compulsion my need for books!

Household budget – in January, I spent £20. I start February with £60, in the kitty and a list of things that I need to buy for the month!

Food Budget – I spent all of it! So I’m starting this Saturday with £60. Next month I’ll make more of an effort to track my spending

Saving – It’s weird because this account currently has money that I’m using as planned. And I want to keep it separate, so I’m throwing spare money into the pot and managed to throw about £20 in there, which shows me how much spare money I have when I don’t think about it.

Health – this is such a vague category but I have spent January looking after myself. I’ve started to use aromatherapy again to help me relax before bed and on my itchy scalp and yes, it may be all in my head but it seems to help so who cares. More conventionally, I committed to taking a multi vitamin every day and added folic acid and vitamin D to it and I can’t say that the vitamin D is having a massive effect but the folic acid seems to be helping my spotty chin, so I’m hopeful it’s helping my insides. I hit my step goals and I’ve checked in with the therapist for a bit of a tune up. Overall, I feel better than I have in January for a while and that I’m fitting my skin a bit better so all of that feels good.

My word for 2018 is grow and given how difficult I find January, I’m happy that I got through the month with sanity intact, got back into a working mindset and less SAD affected than usual. 

So little goals for February.

Mind and Body

  • 10,000 steps a day.
  • Vitamins every day.
  • Feet and Hands.
  • Golden hour

Budget

  • Stick to the spending budgets for food and household.

House Beautiful

  • Deep clean hall carpet
  • Clean oven
  • Put together the unit I bought at Christmas
  • Curtains in the bedroom

Allotment  (why is this the longest list?)

  • plant the rhubarb crown
  • dig up raspberries and the gooseberry at the end of the plot
  • sort out the raspberry frames
  • paint the shed
  • cut the grass at the edges of the path
  • order new raised beds
  • build new raised beds
  • fill the new raised beds with compost and top up the others
  • sort out the sides of the current brassica bed
  • create sections at top and sides of allotment for flowers
  • clear that bed of broccoli and kale
  • prep the buckets and boxes for carrots, radishes and mint
  • put up and secure the cloche
  • trip to the dump
  • bonfire
  • sort out sowing supplies and start sowing leeks etc

 

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Allotment Adventures: Communal Space

Last week an email came from the allotment committee, reminding us that rent notices will be winging their way towards us soon and more importantly that we are moving to an October start so this year’s rent will be for 18 rather that 12 months. I love my half plot so view it as worth every penny but it is expensive compared to other sites! So this is a big change.

Also in big change, the committee has identified a plot that it would like to turn into a communal plot. The idea is that we could use it for teaching, open days, volunteer days etc. It would be a place for the allotment kids to hang out, somewhere for plot holders to grab a cup of tea, a space we could invite schools and groups to use. You get the idea. I think it’s a fabulous plan and I’m slightly in awe of Christina who is head of the committee, she’s got a lot on already and we still have the threat of development hanging over us but she’s still working to make the allotments a good place for the community of plotholders and the community at large. We are listed as a community asset and she really wants that to mean something!

So when Ma and I turned up at the allotment on Saturday, two hours later than intended, (it was the martini effect!). We surveyed a rather bleak plot. I’m not sure that it would win a ‘pretty plot’ award right now! Ma started at the top by getting the big weeds up. I filled up the bird feeders and ‘tidied’ up the herb patch. It’s been getting on my nerves for a while. I’m not sure that it actually looks tidier but I viciously chopped the sage back, and got rid of some of the rosemary! Hopefully, I haven’t killed the sage, I suspect not because it’s hard to kill but I had to give the thyme and oregano a bit more room…

Then we got chatting to Christina about the plans for the communal plot and talked about the open day in July and hours passed. It was getting cold so back to the plot and I helped with the weeding.By May/June this space will have sweet peas, rhubarb and the gooseberry bush in all their summer glory, there will probably be californian poppies all over the place and we are going to plant winter squash there too. We’re not going to get to grass or paving this year and because it’s bare, people just walk all over it, hopefully, if we cover it with squash, we’ll get more squash and Ma won’t have to weed it so much!

We also got a massive rhubarb crown from Christine, who was splitting hers and that will go in here too.

We still have lots of work to do. February is looming but this is what we need to have done by the end of February:

  • plant the rhubarb crown
  • dig up raspberries and the gooseberry at the end of the plot
  • sort out the raspberry frames
  • paint the shed
  • cut the grass at the edges of the path
  • order new raised beds
  • build new raised beds
  • fill the new raised beds with compost and top up the others
  • sort out the sides of the current brassica bed
  • create sections at top and sides of allotment for flowers
  • clear that bed of broccoli and kale
  • prep the buckets and boxes for carrots, radishes and mint
  • put up and secure the cloche
  • trip to the dump
  • bonfire
  • sort out sowing supplies and start sowing leeks etc

I am really looking forward to spring but there is a lot to do….

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Monday Miscellany

It’s Monday and I’m tired. I’m always tired but there has been a sameness about January that is tough to handle. Anyone else or just me?

I’d like to say that it’s January but really it’s the dark, I’m pretty sure that if I lived on the other side of the world, I’d be fine about January but miserable in June.

Last week wasn’t helped by a migraine but was improved with a haircut and gin

My aims for this week are basically about getting to the end of it with work, sanity and flat intact!

It’s not very exciting but any day I manage to get out of the house and see other human beings is a victory this week!

 

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Friday Links

Happy Friday!

The last full week of January! Five more days and we are done and move on to February and the delights of Valentines Day and Ash Wednesday (which are the same day this year!). Today is a marvellous day because I’m finally getting my haircut and I’ll be able so see out from under my fringe! Other things notable about this week were the migraine I had on Wednesday (I don’t love only being able to see out of one eye) and lots of essential oils to help with sleep.

In case you missed it, there was Miscellany on Monday when I talked about my daily photo habit and how it is propelling me towards the mostly non-grumpy version of myself that I am in summer and about the importance of a bedtime routine that I call ‘the Golden Hour‘. I also talked about what we’re planning on growing on the plot this season and how I’m reviving my love of lipstick by wearing it more often and yesterday showed you some of my food highlights in January (lots of food prep, some martinis!)

How the UK rediscovered gin. I would point out that some of us didn’t need to rediscover it because it’s always been our favourite, but that would be churlish…

This about Beefeater is true and very funny…

Seven in 10 UK workers are ‘chronically broke’, study finds. Yep, I’m a steady stater and the shock was being made redundant. I’m working now but I don’t feel very secure.

‘I baked fairy cakes and it dialled down the horror a little’ I think this is a lovely, I really like the way she got that she had SAD but that something else made it worse. That’s my experience of how winter felt after Stef died…

‘Any less than 10 hours and I feel grumpy’: meet the clean sleepers. Oh dear, is this me? On balance, I don’t think so, my sleep is pretty rubbish, I try to make sure that I have the opportunity for 8 hours sleep and I do practice sleep hygiene and try and have a bedtime routine. When I feel ill or really tired I do go to bed early or have a nap in the afternoon at the weekend but I try not to stress about it!

Seeds of Hope: New Beginnings on the Allotment. Something everyone that grows things understands. I’m really excited right now, come April and May when my mood is “there are seedlings everywhere and I would just like all the plants to be in the ground now and out of my living room thank you very much. And now I have to water all the things and is there a frost coming? I need to save my potatoes” I will feel differently..

This was sweet. Thanks for my football tickets. That’s one uncle winning all the points….

I wasn’t keen on Germaine Greer before it was fashionable to hate her for being anti trans. I think that she’s actually one of the worse examples (by which of course, I mean the best) of the issues I have with some baby boomers. Which starts with a total lack of empathy towards other women and situations they may find themselves in. Maybe she isn’t being no platformed because students are anti free speech, maybe her opinions are just out of date. Germaine Greer criticises ‘whingeing’ #MeToo movement

 

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Food Lately

All my focus this month has been on learning to get back into the routine of a full time job. This means that I’ve been making a real effort to pack breakfast and lunch. It’s really funny, the fridge starts off stuffed with food and boxes of food on Sunday night and gradually empties..Most of January has been fuelled by coffee, I’m good at sticking to just drinking it before I leave for work and then switching to mint or lemon and ginger tea. There has not been a lot of time for kitchen creativity but that’s ok, there has been lots of soup and roasted squash. I’m coming to the end of my homegrown squash and am quite sad about it.I cooked the first of my winter radishesand cooked lots of leeks

There has been pizza – this one is sausage and spinach.Last week there was also a martini with MaThere has been chocolate too…this is a bar that Jo put in my Christmas present from Cote d’Ivoire (and we really need to talk another time about the amazing coffee body scrub that was part of that present but this is about food and it’s not edible as far as I know!)

 

 

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Learning to love lipstick again

I used to wear lipstick all the time. Usually bright red, I always had it on. At some point it just became too much effort, I love how it looks when it’s perfect but I hate when it wears off and re-applying properly can be a pain. So instead of lipstick, I used lip gloss and balm and that was that.

I still wore lipstick for special occasions but it wasn’t something I did every day.The other thing that happened is that my skin tone changed and the reds that I’d always worn were a bit too much for my face and I’m not really up for wearing a statement lipstick everyday.

Over the past couple of years, I’ve tried new lipstick colours and eventually decided not to buy them or I bought them and didn’t use them them because the colour or the texture wasn’t quite right.

This year as part of a 2 for 3 I bought a Revlon Ultra HD lipstick in Arabica. This hit all of my lipstick needs. It’s shiny, I can put it on like a lipgloss without the need for liner or a brush, it’s fairly moisturising and the colour builds. It’s also pretty long lasting for an non matt lipstick.

So then I bought 2 more, in sand and dessert.

I like them a lot and I’m learning to love wearing lipstick again.

 

 

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