Monday Misc: Good Sport

Not gonna lie, I’m finding everything difficult right now. PMT, SAD and some sort of stomachache with a side of throwing up this weekend (Ma had some kind of bug last week so I’m blaming her!) is quite honestly kicking me up the bum. I would just like to stay indoors until the clocks go forward..

This week there were consolations, UNO with Nephew 1 who didn’t win one game but was a consistent runner up. He was a really good sport about it though, which I’m glad to see! Nephew 2 was his usual sunny self, and arranged himself into a Hungry Hippos box, variously announcing that he was a hippo, a robot or Tree-fu Tom. Nursery has been so good for him!

There was also a catch up with JessI don’t miss much about working at the last place but I miss her and Laura.

This week is all about rest and recovery, I have nothing but work both paid and housework. The weekend is another epic compost buying spree and a trip to the dump!

If you’re not living on the edge, you’re taking up too much room!

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Friday Links: A Special Place in Hell

Happy Friday! Here are this week’s links…

You Should Never Have Trusted Flickr to Protect Your Cherished Photos, I spent a couple of hours getting all my photos off flickr last week.

John Humphrys ‘assuming’ he will leave Today programme this year. End of an era, I don’t remember The Today Programme, without John Humphrys, it would be nice if they could get a presenter that didn’t go to private school or Oxbridge but with Sarah Sands in charge, how likely is that?

Why Bible-inspired diets and fitness plans are catching on. Can you hear that noise? It’s the sound of my eyes rolling…

Nissan leaves Tories to explain why they can’t even manage a bribe

Is clean beauty a skincare revolution – or a pointless indulgence? I don’t love the trend to be against chemicals. Because science dunce that I am, even I know that everything is a chemical and I have no patience at all for the ‘I only use natural chemicals’ brigade because cyanide is a natural chemical but it’ll still kill you. Don’t put anything on your skin that causes it to swell up and hurt. For me that’s some Clarins products (my face was swollen and quite red for a number of days!), for others it’ll be something else.

The class pay gap: why it pays to be privileged. Telling us what every working class kid knows. The issue is whether anyone is going to do anything about it…

Skin deep: why Alexandria Ocasio-Cortez’s beauty regime split the internet. I didn’t feel like it did split the internet. I thought it was a brilliant demonstration of authenticity, she’s a woman in her 20’s it’s possible to be interested in your face and social policy. The broader point of why so many women (myself included) feel the need to be so interested in how they look in a way that so many men don’t. And also why men who are interested in how they present to the world are ‘groomed’ and women are ‘vain’

How a recipe goes viral on Instagram. I made the cookies last weekend in part because of all the stuff about Roman going around.

Rural Communities Struggle to Adapt to Life Without Football. They really should take up soccer, it’s just better and less expensive to run!

Rebuild the faded towns of Britain to end our national malaise

Work isn’t working – but a four-day week would help fix it

UK chips an inch shorter after summer heatwave – report. We grew more potatoes than last year but the yields weren’t as good. I also didn’t have a good year for carrots and even the courgette harvest was less!

Fantasies of Dunkirk spirit couldn’t survive a no-deal Brexit

Their romantics, such as Charles Moore, flippantly yearn for hardship. “I am just old enough to remember when fresh fruit and veg were in short supply at this time of year. People used to know how to store things to mitigate the problem: apples would be carefully laid out on straw-strewn shelves. We ate lots of root vegetables and not much greenery … Perhaps it is time for a Brexit recipe book, like those comforting wartime rationing ones.”

 Which is all very well if you have a house big enough to store fruit and vegetables in. I’m pretty sure that my Grandad’s family didn’t have the room in Kilburn. I know that I struggle with were and how to store my squashes. As ever, rich people can ride stuff out because they have the means to be frugal. They have storage space, they can buy in bulk. I love the allotment and it is teaching me to eat more seasonally but winter veg can be extremely boring, it’s all leafy greens and turnips. The apples, pears, squash etc that we eat this time of year are all from storage and honestly I don’t have the space.

A Suspense Novelist’s Trail of Deceptions. Wow, just wow…

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Brain dump

My head is sometimes an odd place to be so here’s a run down of what’s on my mind this morning:

1. I get really irritated by the ‘See it, say it, sorted’ thing that Transport for London are doing at the moment. For non Londoners, it’s the message that if you see an unattended bag or package, you should report it and staff will sort it. So it goes “…we’ll sort it. See it, say it, sorted”. And it’s driving me bananas because it sounds wrong. I’m sure there are thousands of people it doesn’t annoy but it annoys me.

2. I’m over winter, my body is now inventing reasons not to go outside (mostly waking up feeling ill and being sick), I’m so tired all the time, and my PMT is terrible. It’s a comparatively small thing but getting to work every day right now, for me, requires superhuman effort. I have to ask myself every morning if now I feel is genuinely ill or just SAD. Which shows at least that the therapy works..

3. I have stopped drinking coffee on weekday mornings. I’m didn’t consider myself caffeine sensitive, it has no impact on my migraines but it does seem to contribute to PMT hot flushes. So I’m cutting down and going back to lemon and ginger or red bush teas.

4. While I’m here. Peri-menopause sucks. There are so many things I enjoy about my forties but that and all the things that my body is beginning to struggle with (I’m now both long and short sighted, everything aches in the morning, hangovers last two days, I have less hair overall but some of it is migrating to my chin, I have one perfectly white eyelash, my hands often struggle to grip so open jars and champagne is a problem) are not on the list.

5. I’ve managed to damage the ring finger on my right hand. I don’t know what I’ve done but it hurts. My usual tactic is give it 4-6 weeks and if it’s no better book a GP’s appointment and feel bad about it being a waste of time. It’s only my hand, not like its major? Anyone else feel like they don’t like to go to the doctors for stuff that might get better on its own or that feels minor? I grew up under the NHS but I feel that the era of not being able to afford the doctor has some kind of genetic memory..

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Monday Miscellany: Frozen

Happy Monday!

It was a bit chilly last week, not polar vortex chilly, but cold for London. London did not have much snow, it was cold and a bit slushy on Friday morning.There was work, cinema, works drinks, a trip to Ramsgate for a 70th birthday and a quiet Sunday. I’m not sure that I’m ready for work this morning but it’s happening anyway!

This week is pretty quite I’m at work for four and a half days and then off to babysit the boys on Friday..

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Friday Links: No Sleep ’til Brexit

Happy Friday!

I’m happy. And that makes me really uncomfortable. I know this feeling, saying that you’re happy is complicated in these circumstances because it feels like you’re saying that you’re over it but that’s not how you feel. I’m not over the people I’ve loved dying but it is fair to say that the size of the rest of my life has expanded again so my grief is a much smaller part of the totality of my existence. It’s a weird space though when that starts to happen.

When Modern Men Throw Ancient Weapons

Scott Wagstaff double sends West Ham packing as Wimbledon relive glory years. This is the most FA Cup thing I’ve ever seen.

This video is exciting, air conditioning, walk through trains but notice that they don’t have a time frame and I’ve never seen a Piccadilly line train that empty ever!

Why we must resist the cult of ‘performative workaholism’ Not that much of a problem for me!

England can be better than the Brexit caricature. We have to make the case for it

Is jam coming to a sticky end?

May thinks she’s won. But the reality of Brexit will soon hit her again. What alternative arrangements, the EU has been nothing but clear on this. We are heading towards no deal, start stockpiling food….

As schools are forced to be academies, the will of the people means nothing. Stuff like this is why people have no confidence in the political system, Brexit is a symptom of this not the cause.

The white stuff: why Britain can’t get enough cocaine.

Outsourcing education to Clarks shoes: only a Tory could think of that. I really would like a politician to say that no one likes paying tax but that if we want a society that functions and gives everyone a chance, taxes are what make that happen!

I’m an EU citizen with an Android phone – I’ve hit the jackpot! Most of the French people I know who are living here have dual nationality with the UK and are alright to be here. The one person who isn’t got her settled status this week which is a relief! Hopefully, everyone else will find it as simple and painless.

Why Can’t We Have Decent Toilet Stalls? This isn’t an entirely American problem, there are lots of UK loos that don’t have floor to ceiling partitions, the thing I really can’t get my head around that I have never seen here are the gaps in the doors, what’s with that?

MPs have voted for a fantasy. It’s an indictment of our entire political class

It’s an extraordinary thing, this ability of May’s: she somehow manages to combine grinding intransigence with a willingness to perform the most brazen U-turns.

Innocent, jailed and uncompensated: these are the men our system fails. Oh good grief, just the stories are appalling.

Ukip leader asks Queen to suspend parliament to thwart remain MPs. Maybe we should just rename UKIP. The British Fascist Party would fit.  Seriously, this is a twisted understanding of representative democracy and to ask the Queen to enforce the Bill of Rights (you know the thing was passed to ensure that a foreigner couldn’t just come in and take over, even though they were happy for him to rule after his wife (who had the claim to the throne) died. Why not just stand at the doors and not let people in, have a rump parliament and call it the will of the people? I can’t even. This is the definition of just enough knowledge to be dangerous!

Mitch McConnell: making Election Day a federal holiday is a Democratic “power grab”

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What I’ve Read: January 2019

It wasn’t a terrible start to the year! Here’s January’s list complete with a picture of where most of my reading takes place

Ocean Light – Nalini Singh

I love Singh’s book crack but I’m impatient with the Trinity section of the story. The problem I’m having is that all the men and women are beginning to be the same and have the same problems/strengths/weaknesses. I need one of the woman in her stories to not have a trauma based in the loss of her close family at a young age or an unfeeling mother and to be carrying that trauma around in a bloody backpack. I don’t doubt that losing a parent at a young age is traumatic and gives children a certain outlook. When I was born, my mother was 24, 10 years earlier her mother died, I lived with someone whose mother died when he was 6, I have two godchildren who’s father died when they were coming up to 4. Was/is there emotions and reactions that they carry that I don’t, yes but it’s much more subtle than Singh’s characters have. Memories, even traumatic ones, are generally not remembered in the vivid detail that her heroines remember them, and it come up as much as you’d think. This is their normal, the trauma you carry isn’t as easy to define or recognise as Singh seems to think. The stuff that was interesting was about the ‘pack’, how did a divergent, bunch of water changelings make a pack and how you lead and live within that (and you can fuck off with the dominance, they’re not wolves or cats, where that makes some sense), it should have been far more interesting than it was although there were some great tentacle jokes though. I want to know more about what is happening in the overall story and the next book is another spirited away heroine, which is just repeating the Sahara/Kaleb story from Heart of Obsidian although it seems we have a damaged hero who needs love to solve all their problems. Actually that’s my issue. Love doesn’t solve deep seated emotional trauma and anxiety, at best you learn to cope and deal (sure after a while that dealing looks like a cure but it’s not entirely) but in the interest of a HEA, Singh shortcuts that and given that she gives them such a terrible backstory, I struggle with how easily they overcome it. She’s a better author than that.  So it was good for keeping up with the overarching story, but not enough depth for the main characters or that overarching story. There was also a ‘twist’ that I saw coming as soon as I met the character. Could do better but still a very enjoyable way to spend a day.

A Perilous Undertaking – Deanna Raybourn 

A Treacherous Curse – Deanna RaybournIt took me ages to read the first one of these books and then I read the others in a matter of days and I’m going to write about both of them, rather than each one. They are so much fun. On the one hand they feel out of time but on the other they really suit. I really enjoyed them and I love Veronica and her attitude but I also am enjoying how she’s learning to understand how to be a friend. I think it’s deliberate that she and Stoker are both on the outside looking in and I’m glad we finally got to meet Stoker’s ex wife in ‘A Treacherous Curse’ and put that piece of the puzzle together. I suspect though that we’ll see in the next book that Stoker could have family, if he’d let his brothers in, whereas Veronica won’t because they are all horrible and that was brilliantly observed.

To Marry an English Lord: Tales of Wealth and Marriage, Sex and Snobbery in the Gilded Age – Gail McColl and Carol McD. Wallace

This has been sitting in my Kindle TBR list since 2014 and it should have been fascinating but it was badly written. It’s not that it wasn’t interesting but it didn’t have a proper narrative, the typesetting was all over the place and it was clearly written to cash in on Americans interest while Downton Abbey was running. It’s such a good story, why they came to England, that Edward VII was receptive because he was bored and his mother wouldn’t let him do any work (and he was a bit thick in mind and later, in stature!) but it’s badly told we know that many of these marriages didn’t work but we never follow them from beginning to end and get a sense of why these women and/or their families wanted to do this. I would also say that in completely ignoring the Caton sisters. It could have been so much better and I’m sure that there are better books on the subject.

The Girl in the Mask – Marie-Louise JensenThis was so much fun, it’s set in Bath at the time of the George I and the Jacobite Rebellion of 1715. I don’t know much about this period of English history, I tend to stop at the Civil War, know a bit the reign of  Charles II and then pick up again around George III. So the later Stuarts and the early Hanovers are a bit of a mystery. So I didn’t know a lot about this although I do at least know who the Old and Young Prentenders are! This is so good on how few options girls had at this time. I love that the nicest men in this story are also completely obstructive, not because they are bad people but because they lack the imagination to see a young woman who has energy and is clever and can’t possible imagine that they could look after themselves or aren’t interested in dresses and balls and might be  in fear of being married off or sent into white slavery! It was a fun book and I’m going to recommend it to every young girl that I know.

Tess of the Road – Rachel Hartman This was my birthday present to my back in August. Could we also just take a minute to admire the cover. I managed to leave it at Christina and Fred’s and didn’t get it back until October and then didn’t pick it up until this month. It was delightful but not light. The book is about finding out how to be a decent human being, to live a worthwhile life when you feel worthless and are full of grief and shame. Yes, I did say it was delightful, it has lots of other things going on, but it right at the end when Tess apologised for something she had done and meant it but didn’t hate herself. That was lovely. This is apparently a two part story and I know from other books that Hartman has written that she takes her time, I hope she doesn’t take a lot longer because I want to read more about Tess.

The Nothing Girl – Jodi Taylor

This is written by the mind behind The Chronicles of St Mary’s, I think it’s supposed to be less weird than St Mary’s and it mostly is with the exception of an imaginary horse who smells of ginger biscuits! It actually put me in mind of Katie Fforde, it was a fun romp and had some very emotional moments. I haven’t bought the next book, but it’s only a matter of time

Overnight Sensation – Sarina Bowen

Another Brooklyn Bruisers ice hockey novel. It was fun while I was reading it but it felt like a novella because the h/h were underdeveloped. There was more here, the other ‘Bruisers’ books have been better developed.

Conversations with Friends – Sally Rooney

This was my Christmas book (thanks Ma) and Sally Rooney is quite the sensation about now. This brilliantly captures the mix of certainty and uncertainty of being 21, and it’s lovely to read a Dublin novel that’s comfortable and unapologetically Irish in a way I haven’t seen before. Having said that I finished the novel without being any clearer about Frances and who she is. I might have to read it again but I was reminded of Barbara Pym and that’s not a compliment from me.

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Allotment Adventures: Busy doing nothing

Honestly the week has passed and we’ve done nothing except re-up the birdfeeders. This week we harvested leeks, kale and chard and bought seed potatoes. We have settled on five bags of nicola, one of pink fir apple and two of sharpes express. That gives us eight bags of potatoes, which is three more than last year. Ma says I’m obsessed with potatoes and blames my father, I would like more but note the compromise, they are all salad potatoes, which are the ones that she prefers. They are currently in the living room chitting…I also bought the remaining seeds we need, Ma’s favourite cucumbers Boothby’s Blonde and two new to us winter squash, North Georgia Candy Roaster and Burgess Buttercup. For those of you following along that’s four types of winter squash, which should keep Ma happy – her favourite things to eat from the plot are beetroot, winter squash and broad beans.

My extra purchase was the tree onions also known as Egyptian Walking Onions, I have a place to put them, as I don’t have enough space to grow onions and shallots at the moment this will have to satisfy my onion needs.The allotment looks ok and there is work I need to get to but realistically, we’re not going to do much more heavy work done over the next couple of weeks because we’re busy next weekend AND the week after so mid February we’ll really start, I want to set the cloche up, dig up the raspberries and re-site them, top up the beds that need it, and sow sweet peas, leeks and kale. I’m holding off until the light is better because everything gets leggy indoors (oh for a greenhouse or even windowsills!).

 

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Food Lately: January and February 2019

I found cooking in January difficult. I had a really good first week but generally if I don’t spend a chunk of the weekend making sure that the food for the week is good to go then it all tends to go a bit wrong! January has seen a lot of ‘I feel to tired and/or sick to cook, so things on toast or a ham and coleslaw sandwich, there was a meal that consisted of mashed potatoes and raw carrots, which is the definition of can’t be arsed dinners.I did cook a great meal of meatballs and pasta with pesto bread for Ma and me and I had a great work lunch for the PA’s but when I have cooked it’s been basic and frankly half arsed.This weekend, I pulled myself together and did some proper meal prep. Breakfasts this week are yoghurt and compote, lunches are salads (grated red cabbage, carrots, cucumbers, peppers and mushrooms with sausage egg cups. Snacks are orange jelly, a small square of brownie (this one), and an apple, a pear and some mango. Dinners will be some veggie crispbakes (I needed to use up some mash and some veg) with more vegetables, a sausage and chickpea stew with rice and more vegetables, stir fry and pizza (I’m out on Wed night). I’ve prepped the veg (chard, kale, leeks) and made a massive ready to roast bag of winter veg (squash, swede, onions and carrots). It’s been nice to have veg from the plot and I’m planning on growing more winter veg this year because it’s been a good reason to go to the plot and it’s lovely to eat what you grow.

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Monday Miscellany: Stupid Suppressed Immune System

I didn’t have a great week health wise and I’m very unhappy about it. Other than the vomiting and fever, there was work, marmalade and reading, so a pretty normal week. But I missed a haircut which makes me sad….

Oh London had about five minutes of snow…and I bought seed potatoesThis week is a very busy work week (I’m minuting 4 meetings) and at the weekend I’m in Ramsgate on Saturday for a 70th birthday celebration. I’ve prepared myself, there is food all prepped, the flat is tidy and all laundry done. I need to make sure that I get outside very lunchtime and to bed early all week. Let’s do this…

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Sunday Music: It’s Yer Money, I’m After Baby – The Wonder Stuff

Last weekend, Matt, Ruth and I referenced this and the godchildren and their grandfather were baffled. So for those of you that weren’t around for the Wonder Stuff, here it is…

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