Things I learnt yesterday..

1) I can’t really be trusted in Kew..there was a sale and I bought this

2) Lt General Sir Harry Burrard, was known as ‘Betty’ by his troops…

3) Whereas Major General Rowland Hill’s troops called him ‘Daddy’

4) I hate ironing and handwashing and am generally not fond of washing up

5) I’m still hugely interested in the Peninsula Wars and the stuff that lead up to Waterloo (although Capt Sir John Kincaid is still my favourite…)

6) “Egad, sir if I have killed today I mean to die like a gentleman” seems like a good way to go and face the enemy, whether that’s the French or depression…

 

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Friday Night Cocktail – Gin and Tonic

I missed Friday Night Cocktail this week.  I was celebrating getting a job..

Saturday was World Gin Day. Billy did post on the Negroni, which is much more informative than this is going to be..but never mind.

I like gin and have 8 different types in the house (yes I will confess that this is excessive, but it just sort of happened..). I thought about a gin martini but decided instead to celebrate the Gin and Tonic.  Which is such a lovely drink and much maligned…

Gin in it’s original form was intended to be medicinal and claimed to treat kidney ailments, lumbago, stomach ailments, gallstones, and gout. Later in the days of the Raj, tonic (basically water with quinine) was used to treat malaria and because it tasted so bitters, doctors took to putting a slug of gin in it to help it go down and the G&T was born..

Gin and Tonic was the first grown up drink I remember drinking, growing up it was a drink for special occasions, we only really had booze in the house at Christmas (in the 70’s and 80’s, grown ups went to the pub to drink except at Christmas or if they were having a party, we didn’t drink at home). On Christmas Day, Ben and I were given miniature G&T’s that were more (much more) tonic than gin, but had the ice and lemon in.  Very grown up we felt too..I love it despite the issue I have with quinine being one of the things that make me sneeze (along with chocolate with a high cocoa content and polos, I don’t know why but I can live with it..)

My G&T’s are generally made with Miller’s or Plymouth (other gins are available but not ever Bombay Saphire – not in my house!!), generally I use Schweppes, although Fever Tree is nice. Nowadays, I use lime instead of lemon and with a gin like Hendricks, cucumber. The real trick, as with cocktails is to have everything really cold, I keep my gin in the freezer. You don’t have to take such extreme measures but use lots of ice and fresh tonic, if you have neither, don’t bother, so many people are put off gin because their first experience of it is a lacklustre G&T…

1. Fill a tall glass with ice, pour in the amount of gin you want (I like to taste the gin, others are more restrained!)

2. Squeeze a wedge of lime into the glass and top up with tonic and other wedge of lime.

3. Drink, enjoy, don’t have too many..

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Iain Duncan Smith is missing the point

After Rowan Williams’ article in the New Statesman this week, there has been much comment and lots of govt ministers going on the radio talking about how wrong he was wrong etc. Iain Duncan Smith was on World At One and he was completely missing the point.  I know he was missing the point because I’m one of the people that is worried about the policies the government are implementing. (In fairness, I was pretty worried about the way things were going under Labour, am I more scared now…yes but this isn’t really party political).  Apparently, the government isn’t demonising people on benefits but “there are people living in houses that they wouldn’t be able to afford if they were working”

Now bear with me because this is going to take a while…but I will get to a point honest.

On Friday I went for an interview, it’s good news, they want me, I start on today. Yay.

It’s not a permanent job. I won’t get paid for holiday or sick leave, there are no benefits and it’s going to pay about £5k less than the last job did. It’s going to be a struggle financially, when I was at Peabody, I was ending the end of each month in the black but only just, so losing £5k is going to hurt. However, it’s a working, I have to believe that working is better than not.

I’m good at what I do, I work hard, I’m professional, I was made redundant when the company I worked for went bust and the next job I took was to cover maternity leave. I want to work, I didn’t like signing on, I want to support myself. In the last two years, in order to keep working, I have taken a £10k paycut.  I’ve gone from being comfortable and able to save and have holidays to barely making it. I don’t pay into a pension, I can’t save, I really have to think about how I spend money. (Lots of the things that I love and write about here – skincare products, theatre, drinking in the OXO Tower have, in the last 2 years been paid for by someone else and yes I do recognise how lucky I am to have people, ok a mum, who will take me to the theatre and so on).

My point is this, the problem isn’t benefits, the problem is work.

Work should pay enough to support living. Work should cover the cost of things like rent and food and bills and saving for a pension. I don’t think that’s unreasonable, not all of us can be bankers not all of us have parents that can set up trust funds or buy us houses.

Government could built more affordable housing, that means building houses and selling or renting them at a price that suits the average wage, not the ‘market rate’. Maybe they could do something to reduce the cost of commuting (my new commute is going to cost over £100 a month). Maybe you could legislate to ensure that employers offer a living wage.

The truth is that if work doesn’t pay enough to make someone feel like it gives them a future, then that’s how people feel. Like they don’t have a future.  Hell, I do work and I feel that my future is bleak, so why bother? I bother because I hope that at some point it will come around that it will change, I have earned more, hopefully I will again, I feel I have to try.

Accepting that you will live your life on benefits, is really about despair, it’s about believing that your life will never get any better, that you don’t deserve any better and that even if you had a job, it wouldn’t help, life would still be rubbish and you’d still struggle. No amount of telling people in that mindset, that they are sponging, that they are useless is gonna get them to work. (On a side note, bankers bonuses – if you work for a company that makes a £1.1 billion loss, why would you be paid a bonus? RBS made that loss and paid £950 million in bonuses, the govt subsidises that loss – is that not sponging?)

So maybe the government could start by building more social housing, or actually doing something useful for 1st time buyers, or perhaps giving private tenants more rights. Maybe you could do something to reduce the cost of commuting.  Even ensure that employers offer a living wage.

Living on benefits is not the problem, how not to live on benefits…that’s the issue.

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Sunday Music: Wagon Wheel – Old Crow Medicine Show

I have been listening to Old Crow Medicine show for a while, this is Wagon Wheel

I maintain it’s bluegrass, my mother says it’s country and I don’t really care…

 

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Sucking it up, snapping out of it etc, etc

So during two days of moping, I didn’t run, I watched seasons 3, 4 and 5 of Friday Night Lights and am now prepared to admit that American Football whilst not proper football* isn’t just rugby with padding. I have also learned that humans gave armadillos leprosy**. Truly, I am a font of useless information..

I have babysat for Tabitha, who was only a screaming banshee for about 40 minutes and was generally charming otherwise. I realized that I know all the words to the Zingzillas song and have decided that this is probably very valuable aunty knowledge and if it keeps this guy happy, I can live with it!

Today I am preparing for an interview, making coffee for the plumbers who are fitting new radiators, going to buy some ribbon for Grace on Saturday (I’ve been asked to but don’t know what it’s for!) and I may attempt these again, I’ve made them before but they weren’t as fudgy as I was expecting, probably because they were missing the additional raspberries, they were still pretty good but I like to get it right!

 

*Football is a game played with a round ball and using the feet – you may call it soccer, you’re wrong, it’s football

**In Our Time – I love BBC Radio 4

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Slump

This week I’ve hit a slough of despond. I can’t see the point in any of it. I’ve had to sign on and there’s nothing like the job centre for making you feel like a worthless human and it’s not that I haven’t tried not to be here but here I am anyway.

I feel left behind, everyone is planning something and I can’t. Holidays, trips away, concerts. I can’t go and I don’t know if it’s worse not to be asked or to be asked but not be able to do it. Either way, it’s fairly horrible.

Unemployment also really brings home how alone I feel. I love living by myself, being single wasn’t how I’d thought my life would be. I wasn’t supposed to be in this place but given that this is how it turned out, I’m generally not unhappy. Today though, not working, not having any money, worrying about what comes next, I feel alone. Everyone else seems to be moving towards something, I’m being asked, yet again, to shrink my expectations of what my life should be. It’s not fair, I’ve done the work here. I’ve come to terms with Stef dying, I’ve accepted that a husband and children probably won’t be part of my future (note the probably, I’m open to it, I’m just trying to be a realist here). What’s left doesn’t suck, I love being an aunt and a godparent, I have a freedom that my friends who are parents don’t have. All I really need is to be able to support myself. I worked hard, I’m not unemployed because I was bad at my job, it was just bad luck and cutbacks, that they didn’t renew my contract. I know this, but at the moment, it feels so unfair.

I’m lucky, I have a parent that won’t let me starve (thanks Ma!) and people that care about me, I live in a country that (for the moment at least) doesn’t have some kind of safety net, I’m more fortunate than a lot of other people. I know this, I am grateful for it. That doesn’t mean it isn’t hard. Today, I’m tired of trying to be positive, of doing the best I can and going nowhere and getting nothing.

I curated a whole service about God not being fair and I know that this time is only wasted if I let it be. No-one died and I’m not nearly as down, depressed and heartbroken as I was 5 years ago, I got through that time and I will get through this the same way, one step at a time.

Just for today though, my life sucks and I’m miserable about it…

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Cooking – Strawberry Summer Cake

 

Baking is how I relax and I like to try different things, over the past couple of years Smitten Kitchen has been a huge source of cake inspiration.  When I saw this, I had to try it.

 

I made it for Maxanne and Danielle when I went to meet Murphy for the first time (new parents always need cake). It was good, so I made it again last week! It’s a zero effort cake and the only problem I had was trying not to eat it all at once!

 

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This kid

I’ve said it before and I’ll say it again..this boy is just lovely…

Even if I have to spend the afternoon chasing him around a park…and rescuing him from over friendly puppies..

I love being his aunt…

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Friday Night Cocktail – Watermelon Mojito

 

I’m not keen on mojitos, usually, but I saw this one on Eat, Live, Run, Jenna got it from here and I just loved the colour. I mentioned it to Matt & Michael, who tried it, tweaked it and presented me with this version.  I don’t know how the original tasted was but I love this version. It strikes me that this would be fab at a summer party but it is quite strong. So if you are planning on having more than one, you might want to consider diluting with soda water or lemonade (if going the lemonade route omit the sugar) or use less rum!

What

3oz white rum

1 tablespoon sugar

3 tablespoons lime juice

10-12 mint leaves

4-5 oz watermelon juice

How

1. First make your juice. Puree some watermelon and strain through a sieve. (I used 120z of watermelon and got about 8oz of  juice).

2. Muddle the mint, sugar and lime together.

3. Add the rum and watermelon juice. Stir.

3. Fill a tall glass with ice. Pour the cocktail in. Garnish with mint and lime.

4. Enjoy.

 

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Supplements

This week, as I was making faces about drinking the ‘orange’ flavoured fizzy CoQ10 tablet, godchild 2 asked “Why do you drink it if it tastes nasty?”

Good question. So I thought about the supplements that I take and for lack of anything else to write about today, thought I’d share what I take and why.

Multi-vitamin with probiotic

I know that my diet should be good enough that I don’t need to take a multi-vitamin. I also know that it probably isn’t, so just to be on the safe side, I take this….and it’s stripy, which for some reason makes me happy..

Joint care tablet

I have osteoarthritis in my feet, causing bunions and quite a bit of pain, and crunchy knees, caused by flat feet.  When I was first told this, I asked my GP if there was anything I could do to slow/improve it etc. According to him, osteoarthritis can’t be improved by diet, losing weight helps (less stress on the joints) and some people have found that glucosamine helps, so I could try that but it probably wouldn’t help.  I’ve been taking this tablet, which contains glucosamine, chondroitin, fish oil and ginger all of which are supposed to help with joint health. If I don’t take them for a couple of weeks, my toes start to hurt all the time, rather than when it’s going to rain or it cold, so I keep taking it…

CoQ10

I had heard about this but not taken it until last year, when I read an article about how it can reduce the intensity of a migraine. I get migraines and having done the trigger diary, I discovered that my seem to be triggered by hormones (I only have migraines in the last 2 weeks of my cycle).  I try to make sure that I get regular sleep (it’s not enough to get 8 hours, you need to get 8 hours at the same time each day!) and I try not to eat too much junk or drink too much wine because all these things can contribute. I added the CoQ10 and sure enough the migraines are less severe, although having said that, I stopped taking the CoQ10 for a while and have just had a doozy of a migraine at the beginning of the week, which is why I was taking the nasty tasting drink and why godchild 2 asked the question!

That’s it.  It’s not a huge list but it seems to work for me. Although it didn’t help me run any faster this morning or feel any less wrecked when it was over!! Anyone else take them? Any thoughts..

Disclaimer: I’m not a doctor and I know very little, I have talked to my GP about what I take and he reckons that it might help but isn’t proven (and for all I know it may be a placebo effect, in which case that’s fine by me), but this is is no way encouraging you to take them.

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