The Weekend

My weekend started on Thursday night at the OXO Tower Bar to celebrate Ma’s retirement with her work colleagues.

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I spent Friday making sure that the flat was ready for people and cocktail making! People came and drinks were made and drunk, pizza and cake were eaten.

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On Saturday morning, Christelle and I wondered down to Northfields to buy some breakfast ingredients, crossings, coffee and sausage sandwiches were on the menu.

I spent the rest of Saturday setting up my new toy and having a nap. Then was out on Saturday to Jenny and Jonny’s for their summer party, another late night!

Unsurprisingly, I spent Sunday catching up on sleep and washing!

This week, I’m not at work and having a nice time instead! Today Ma and I are heading down to Plymouth for the day, so I need to get a move on, I won’t be forgiven if I miss the train!

Tomorrow is my actual birthday (and the new moon, I wish I was a big more into New Agey stuff ’cause I’d see that as a sign!). Ma, Ben and I are off for lunch at Hawksmoor and maybe a trip on the river, weather permitting!

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My friends are awesome

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Last night was the start of my birthday festivities, we drank nearly a bottle of gin, all of the rhubarb syrup, the juice of 20 lemons, 5 bottles of prosecco and a magnum of Cremant de Jura, there were other things but I lost count somewhere about midnight!

I really enjoyed myself and I’m so glad I know such amazing people, nurses, social workers, missionaries, engineers and other inspiring types and they do inspire me.

This afternoon, my house is full of cards, flowers, foods and other lovely things, including the iPad mini that I’m writing this post on!

My friends are amazing!

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Friday Night Cocktail

This evening, with any luck, my flat will be full of people drinking cocktails and eating pizza and cake.DSCF0584I like cocktails and I like food and I like making both for my friends but it’s fair to say that I’m a huge fan of the ‘good enough’. I’m not an expert and my friends know that, they are not expecting my house to turn into the Savoy for the evening!DSCF0825I offer a couple of choices of drink and the food is designed to soak up the booze!

This year the cocktails are:

Aperol Spritz

Summer in a glass

The Peach thing (no name or a photo yet but I tested it on Kathy and Adam last Sunday and they approve.)

Rhubarb Fizz (no photo of this one either)

Japanese Slipper

Perfect Manhattan

Gin Martini

The last two are mostly for Ma!

It just makes sense to make cocktails that use the same core ingredients over several cocktails, which for this seems to be gin and fizz, however, I have emergency vodka on hand for the strange people (I’m looking at you Maxanne!) who don’t drink gin. For people that don’t drink at all, yes I do know some!, the rhubarb and peach thing can be made non-alcoholic.

Other top tips – you can never have too many glasses or ice and set the glasses out before the party.  Spend some time before the party juicing the lemons and any other citrus you’re using. Set up an area for making cocktails with all the ingredients to hand and write the quantities of each drinks down and pin the list somewhere in your eye line, there will be a point when you forget what goes in each. If you don’t have a double sink set up a bucket for used ice. Make use of your friends to do stuff you can’t, tasks include answering the door and handing out food.DSCF0582

Any party tips from you lot?

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Friday Links

1) Brene Brown is awesome and I love how honest she is about what she gets wrong.

To a cynical British ear, this may sound embarrassingly new age, but Brown’s Ted talk has been embraced by the American military and she’s in huge demand as a speaker at global corporations. Neither is she a model of perfection: in a video call from her home in Houston, Brown tells me that she flips people off when she’s driving and would instinctively rather punch somebody than make herself vulnerable. But her academic research showed that the shaming culture we live in makes it harder than ever to show courage and be vulnerable – and somebody had to speak out. “People are sick and tired of being afraid all the time. People want to be brave again. So the message is, do it! Get your courage on, but be clear that it won’t be easy. It’s going to feel like shit.”

2) I want to eat all of these but especially the watermelon negroni lolly. Now where did I put the lolly molds…

3) Nice try Guardian but there is no defence of red trousers.

The great and the good of London’s royal boroughs have long-admired the blog Look At My Fucking Red Trousers, which is a brazen celebration of RTs of every sort. A quick browse and perhaps the hatred of the YouGov pollsters becomes clear. The young RT wearer tends to be the kind of wannabe brayer that gallivants around Henley pouring jugs of Pimms on errant serfs’ heads, whilst hoping that his friends won’t tweet incriminating pictures that may later spoil his chances of becoming a Tory councillor. They have all the markings of what the public loathe at the moment: the pillaging banker, the cosy hedge-funder or worse, the Chelsea Foxtons estate agent.

4) Jackie Ashley on what she learnt when her husband had a stroke.

And finally, and perhaps most important, I have become aware of just how fragile life is. We walk in the sunlight, ignoring the shadows. In the blink of an eye lives can be changed utterly. Every year 150,000 people suffer a stroke, and 50,000 of them are still of working age. It can happen while leaning back in the basin at the hairdresser, or even turning your head in the car to look out of the rear window. This is not to say it’s best to spend one’s life worrying about what horrible illnesses or accidents may strike. But there is nothing like a near-death experience to put life’s little annoyances into perspective and to learn to live each day for the day.

5) The Fire Brigade is launching a campaign to raise awareness of ‘silly’ callouts.

We launched our campaign, #FiftyShadesofRed, in a bid to highlight some of the less conventional incidents we’ve attended over the past few years. We tweeted about the incidents from our account, @LondonFire, which certainly raised a few eyebrows, not least among some of my international firefighting colleagues who were surprised to see us putting it all out there, so to speak. This included nine instances of men with ringsstuck in awkward places; nine people with their hands stuck in blenders and shredders; numerous people with their hands stuck in letterboxes; a child with a tambourine on its head … the list goes on. We’ve even been called out to rescue a man whose penis was stuck in a toaster. The mind boggles but the message is serious: use some common sense and remember we’re an emergency service and should be treated as such.

6) New Pope, same attitude.

As Erin Saiz Hanna, executive director of Women’s Ordination Conference said in a statement, there are plenty of other sources the pope could have looked to regarding women’s ordination that did not involve slamming the door in their faces:

[Pope Francis] could have quoted the Vatican’s own Pontifical Biblical Commission that concluded in 1976 that there is no valid scriptural or theological reason for denying ordination to women. Pope Francis could have cited history that documents women’s leadership in the early church, or acknowledge the great works Roman Catholic Women priests are doing today. He could have looked to Jesus who welcomed women as his equal.

He could indeed have done all of those things, but like pretty much every other member of the all male hierarchy in the church, the pope’s mind appears to be “definitively” closed on this issue. The church has gotten away with blatant sexism for so long that even a leader who says all the right things about the need to be inclusive and forgiving and non judgmental (and who probably genuinely believes what he says) loses all self awareness when the rights and expectations of women to be judged as equals within the church are raised.

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The rest of her life

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Yesterday was Ma’s last day of work. Ever.

Ma left school at 16 and has pretty much worked ever since. There was maybe 6-ish months of not working when Ben and I were born (maternity leave wasn’t much available 40 years ago!). I make that over 10,000 days of work.

For lots of reasons this week, I’m acutely aware of how I lucky I am to have her, however, today I want to thank her for her example. Whenever a working mother tells me how hard it is, I say I know, my mum did it, in the 70’s & 80’s when not many people did, because otherwise bills would not be paid and children would not get fed.

When people talk about work/life balance, I remember Ma telling me that working full time and having children is possible but you need to be very, very organised!  I don’t recall her ever making a big deal about it but I do feel that she was a trailblazer because no-one else at my school had a mother that worked full time. I knew it was different but I never felt that I was deprived of her in any way. She never missed a school play, a parents evening, or anything that we needed her for.

People keep asking Ma, what she’s going to do now, she keeps saying nothing for at least 3 months because she’s tired and she needs a rest!

She does and I hope she enjoys it…

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Rhubarb, rhubarb

When we went to Chiswick House last week, we bought some rhubarb from the kitchen garden.

Rhubarb isn’t pretty once you’ve cooked it but it is tasty, the perfect balance of tart and sweet. I didn’t take up Ma’s suggestion of dipping the raw rhubarb in sugar and eating it like that.  Instead I baked it with sugar and a vanilla pod. (750g rhubarb, 225g sugar, 1 vanilla pod split – cover with foil and bake for 30-ish minutes at about 175C)

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Once cooled, I strained away the lovely pink syrup to use for drinks on Friday night (you can make rhubarb syrup in a saucepan too but this syrup is sweeter and more rhubarby and pink) and I’ve been eating the rhubarb with greek yogurt for breakfast. I also have plans to use it instead of the strawberries in this cake too.

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What I’ve Read – July 2013

A Gambling Man – Jenny Uglow

Fascinating and worth reading if you like history. I do feel that I need to know more but am resisting buying anymore books about the period.  I have a ton of history books to get through first.

Dark Triumph – Robin LaFevers

This is the second of three, with each book focusing on a different girl.  I really enjoyed Grave Mercy, which I read last year and I enjoyed this as well. This is a darker book, Sybella is a more damaged person but I really enjoyed it. The only thing that really bugged me is the use of British when they meant English. I know that it’s a fantasy novel but it is loosely based on actual history, set in the 1400’s and you would have said English or Scottish not British, they are not interchangeable. Sorry it bugged me and pulled me out of the story which I really didn’t want because I was enjoying it.

Broken Soup – Jenny Valentine

I read Finding Violet Park about four years ago and really enjoyed it although I think that the US title, Me, the Missing and the Dead, was a better title! I really enjoyed this too, it was quite grim and yes, I’m happy for parents in YA to be flawed but I really, really wanted to slap these parents. I loved that meeting the boy doesn’t solve all problems and that the ending is left open for all sorts of stuff, which is how a story about a 16 year old should be

A Regimental Affair – Allan Mallinson

The third of the Matthew Hervey books and one of my Barter Books purchases. I really enjoyed this, although I just found out that there are 11 books in total so I’m not sure whether I want to read all of them. It reminds me of the Hornblower stories but for dragoons rather than the Navy. Good fun but well researched although I accept that other may not enjoy them as much I did.

Feed – Mira Grant

Another zombie book, I’m enjoying parts of it and when I read it I want to carry on reading it, when I put it down, I’m not too bothered about picking it up.  We’ll see

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Want

I love the shop at the Royal Festival Hall.

This book seems appropriate for some (like me) who thinks London is the best city in the world and in spite of Boris Johnson’s best efforts to muck it up!

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Fridge clearance dinner

It’s fair to say that my eating over the past couple of weeks has been erratic. I’m mostly blaming the weather with a side of ‘really can’t be bothered’ and ‘don’t feel very well’.

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Dinner on Saturday night was about using up food that needed to be eaten before it had to be thrown away and it was really good.

I took two small red onions, a lemon, the roasted tomatoes I hadn’t used in my lunch last week and a smoked mackerel fillet.

Sliced and browned the onion, added the flaked mackerel and tomatoes, let in all mingle for a bit and then added the juice of the lemon and mixed it through cooked linguine.

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Dinner done in 30 minutes and nothing wasted. There were leftovers, which I ate for lunch on Sunday and it was good enough that I’ll cook it again.

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The Weekend and a sad thing

There were good things this weekend.

The theatre, haircuts, shopping, time with friends, tiding up. It was a full weekend.

All of it was overshadowed by the news late on Saturday night that Tina had died earlier in the day.

I feel that I’m treading a fine line here because although I knew it was coming and I’m sad about it, at the same time I’m very aware that my grief is nothing compared to what Charles, Christina and Tom are going through.

The last time I saw T was just after her birthday, I dropped in to deliver a card and a cake. Tina commented how much my writing of her name was like hers and I reminded her of an afternoon I spent when I was 17, signing her company Christmas cards for her. Having spent 4 hours writing ‘from Tina’ and trying to get it so it was just like hers, I couldn’t get out of the habit and now I write her name almost like she did. Until T pointed it out, I had stopped noticing.

The people we love have the ability to do that, to change us in ways so deep that we don’t notice we didn’t used to do that or be that way.

I was very lucky to have known Tina and I could make a list a mile long of the things she taught me. The most important thing that she taught me was just to get on with life and be as kind as you can, something she did by example and with energy and enthusiasm. I don’t know anyone that knew her that didn’t feel glad to know her and I know that my life is richer for having had her in it.

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On Sunday night, Kathy and Adam came for dinner, a dinner that made easier because of my magimix, the magimix that T bought me as a thank you for making cakes for a party. Eating and friendship, seemed like the best tribute I could come up with.

I’ll miss her.

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