The Weekend

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On Friday night there was no pizza because I felt to tired and to meh to make it. Instead I admired the sunset through my very dirty kitchen window and had an early night.

The long sleep seemed to do the trick and I woke up on Saturday feeling much better and had breakfast and coffee.

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What I didn’t realise was that the builder who is fixing the front of the building was going to be working over the weekend. I discovered him working as I was wondering about the flat in a towel post shower!

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I shopped and did some housework, ticking tasks off the list and admiring the sky!

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I also defrosted the freezer, yes I know that the top drawer is broken, that’s been there a while!

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This weekend we had freak weather, warm and sunny, 20°C so it was the perfect time for a walk in Richmond Park. Something that we and most of south west London decided to do, fortunately the park is big enough you can feel quite alone

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I had an ice cream and then because we had a car we went to the crem and visited Grandad!

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Lunch at home (and I really wished I’d taken a photo of it because it was really good!), Ma went home and I tidied up and had another early night.

This week’s goal is to really concentrate on self care, making sure that I eat well and get enough sleep! Although I’m out at the OXO on Thursday!

How was your weekend? What are your plans for the week?

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Sunday Music

In 2007, I finally understood what my parents had been going on about. I remember hearing songs and my parents being horrified and telling my about the ‘original’ version. Then McFly’s version of ‘Baby’s Coming Back’ was all over the radio and I understood what they were talking about.

Rizzle Kicks new album has a song that is pretty much EMF’s Unbelievable with new lyrics. How did I find this out? The Now Show on Radio Four.

What really scares me, neither of the members of Rizzle Kicks were born in 1990 when Unbelievable was released.

Eventually, you become your parents!

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Tasks for the weekend

One of the ways that I react to the autumn and the onset of SAD, is to just focus on getting through the week and then collapsing in a heap at the weekend. Which is pretty much how September went.

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This is a mistake. It’s impossible for me to get through the work week well, if I haven’t laid those foundations at the weekend. Which is how I found myself crying the week before last because I couldn’t get the freezer drawer back into the freezer. I know, it was a low point even for me, but I had a migraine, was trying to get to the ice pack for my head and I couldn’t get the bloody freezer closed. Defrosting the freezer is a weekend job and the consequence of not doing it was a meltdown about a freezer drawer! You live, you learn, you live a bit more and re-learn the same lessons..

So for October, I’m going to change that. I’m going to try and get the bulk of the housework done on one day of the weekend and reap the rewards of a tidy living space during the week. My plan is to do the general stuff every weekend and add one or two specialist things that don’t need doing every week but do need to be done semi regularly (defrosting freezer, cleaning the oven, sorting out part of a room etc) each weekend. Those things will be in italics. I need to write it down somewhere so here it is.

This is this weekend’s to-do list!

Kitchen

  • Defrost freezer and clean fridge
  • General clean (this means sorting out the recycling and rubbish, mopping the floor and general cleaning)

Bathroom

  •  General clean (mop floor, change towels, empty bin, clean bath, sink and toilet)

Bedroom

  • General clean (sweep floor, change bed, dust, general tidy)

Living Room

  • General clean (sweep floor, dust, tidy sofa, put things away etc)

General House things

  • Washing
  • Ironing
  • Wash make up brushes
  • Water plants

What’s your style of housework? All at the weekend? A little every day? Share any hints and tips you have, goodness knows I need the help!

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Friday Night Cocktail Re-visited

I have the beginnings of a cold. I am croaky of voice, starting to get bunged up and very, very tired. Yes, I am tired most of the time, but I’m more tired now!

At work today, the boss was saying that he always drinks gin and tonic, when he’s ill but his wife swears by whiskey. Both of which are good choices.

I mostly avoid booze when I have a cold and drink Night Nurse instead! However, if I’m drinking at home, I’ll drink this. It feels like it’s good for me with Kamm & Sons and the grapefruit juice providing extra Vit C! It’s good even if you don’t have a cold!

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What are you drinking tonight? What do you drink when you’re full of cold?

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Friday Links

Hello Friday!

This is the week when the Tory and Republican Parties went a little bit mad and the Daily Mail was disgusting or more disgusting than usual! To smear a dead man in order to get at his son. Just wrong. Also to say that Ralph Milliband, ‘hated Britain’ because he disagreed with the Establishment is just silly. I don’t believe that the Queen should be Head of State, that doesn’t mean I don’t love my country. To quote G.K. Chesterton “My country, right or wrong,” is a thing that no patriot would think of saying except in a desperate case. It is like saying, “My mother, drunk or sober.”

I’m not going to link to the article but have linked to some of the comment. Finally, there has also been a lot said about freedom of the Press and that’s a much hashed over subject in the UK, so I’m just going to add this; with privilege and power comes responsibility. If you can’t behave responsibility you don’t get privilege. The Daily Mail really needs to reflect on that, as do the people that buy the paper.

Anyway this week’s links…

1) I don’t understand the opposition to Obamacare, I don’t actually think it goes far enough and I don’t understand how a country that claims to lead the world doesn’t provide it’s citizens with healthcare. This is why. (also this  and here Ms is talking about it for PwC)

2) If the shutdown was happening somewhere outside of the US and how the Americans would report it.

3) John Green on Drake and Benjamin Franklin.

4) Things are not getting better in Liverpool.

5) I knew I wasn’t alone. Pumpkin Spice Is Not Actually What Pumpkin Tastes Like.

6) Michael Rosen to Michael Gove on education reforms.

7) Mark Steele on the Help to Buy Scheme and it’s total irrelevance to the housing problem.

8) Ralph Milliband, British values and the Daily Mail.

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Soup

I eat soup at least once a week and as the temperature drops and it gets darker, soup becomes the perfect food, easy, quick and comforting, so I eat it more!

There are a couple of soup recipes on here. The lentil soup that I love and ate every day one winter, there’s Borlotti, Pancetta and Spring Green Soup, French Onion Soup and even Accidental Soup.

What has never appeared here is the soup I eat most often, which doesn’t have a name or even a recipe, it’s the ‘use the vegetables in the fridge drawer’ soup. At the some point over the weekend, I will gather all the vegetables that I didn’t get around to eating during the week and make soup with them. I don’t like to waste food and soup and frittata are my two favourite ways of making something good to eat (also pickled carrots) and Friday Night Pizza is the other place that the end of the week vegetables go to avoid the bin! Menu planning should mean that I don’t waste any food but it happens and I hate to throw food away so soup is always a meal option for one night a week on the plan and it’s normally this one. If of course there are no leftover vegetables, then I just make the lentil soup and am just as happy!

The ingredients change all the time but the basic principle is the same every time I make it. Chop the veg, saute it for a bit, add some garlic, ginger or any herbs that are around and/or red lentils (although if there are any cooked lentils in the fridge I just bung them in), add stock (if I don’t have stock I use Marigold Stock Power or a stock cube and hot water), simmer until the veg is cooked. Put soup through the blender, done. Although it might need some salt and pepper. Sometimes for variety, I roast the vegetables and just blend them with some stock. Either way it’s really easy.

This can lead to some interesting soup, it sometimes comes out an off putting sludge colour that I probably wouldn’t serve to other people but am quite happy eating myself, it always tastes good!  I most often serve it with additional sautéed vegetables and chopped kale (another Tina trick), sometimes with cheese, seeds or yoghurt. There are hundreds of ways to dress it up and make it interesting.

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How do you make sure that you don’t waste food? Are you a fan of soup or do you only eat food you can chew?

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What I’ve Read – September 2013

She-Wolves: The Women Who Ruled England Before Elizabeth – Helen Castor

This has been on my to be read list for ages. You couldn’t tailor a book more perfect for my interests, medieval English history and the role of queens. So I knew I’d like the subject matter and this really drew me in, I knew the rough outline of the history but there was lots of detail I didn’t know and seeing each story one after another helped to see the development of the ‘rules’ such as they were. I really enjoyed it, if you have a thing about medieval history, you should read this.

Falls the Shadow – Sharon Penman

This is technically a re-read, I read this ages ago but She-Wolves put me in mind of it so I read it again and I really enjoyed it again!

The Transfer – Veronica Roth

I’m waiting for Allegiant and this short story was an easy read to get me out of the medieval world and into something else. Which it did quite nicely.

The Bitter Kingdom – Rae Carson

I really enjoyed the story of this book. I liked that all the mysteries weren’t cleared up. What really hits me now I’ve read all three books are the things that you want to see in a series that are going into the hands of impressionable teenagers – Elisa gets things done because of herself but also because of the people that she loves and who love her. The book models different kind of love, not just romantic love. Which is also important because in this book Hector’s life is at stake and although she does everything she can to save him, Elisa is aware that she would survive his death and do what she needs to do. Hector also isn’t the first person she’s been in love with, which is a refreshing change from the ‘he’s my only true love, I’ll never love again’ trope that comes up so much in YA. I also like that Hector, as difficult as he sometimes finds it, lets Elisa make her own decisions about how safe or not she should be and he can take orders from her. Finally I love that the reason she’s special (she has a Godstone which indicates that she has an act of service to perform) isn’t the story we’ve been following for 3 books. Sorting out treaties and preventing civil war, not her act of service or the concern of the God in this universe, no that God is concerned with water! I’m really sad to leave this world and Elisa but I’m happy about where it ended.

Fangirl – Rainbow Rowell

This book didn’t feel like YA. I think that a bookshop would bung it into a New Adult category. I liked it and I liked Cath. I liked that she was set up as the dysfunctional twin but actually wasn’t, that she finally started to grow into herself and learn what was real and important and what wasn’t.

Longbourn – Jo Baker

I wanted to read this for a while, however, it is worth pointing out that I’m not a massive fan of Pride and Prejudice, unlike some of my friends, I don’t re-read it every year. I enjoyed the book, more in the first than the second half because I think in the second half there was almost too much story. There are things that are left unsaid in P&P that Baker makes part of her story, Bingley’s profiting from the slave and sugar trade, the wars and the need for able bodied men are two examples and Baker does show the reader the sheer drudgery of working in service at the time “If Elizabeth had the washing of her own petticoats, Sarah often thought, she’d most likely be a sight more careful with them”

Baker is also nicer about Mary and Mr Collins than Austen ever was and it’s her sympathy for the underdog that comes through. Worth reading but if you love P&P, you may not like this much and the Bennetts don’t show well in this story.

Eleanor and Park – Rainbow Rowell

So I read Fangirl and enjoyed it far more than I expected and lots of people whose opinions I admire suggested that this was worth a read. I didn’t enjoy it as much as I expected and I kept nitpicking. I would recommend it to others but it didn’t quite click for me.

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What politicians fail to understand…

We are in party conference season at the moment, with each of the major parties trying to convince voters that they have all the answers and that we should vote for them. This week it’s the turn of the Conservative Party. Their slogan is “For Hardworking People”

So far the two major policy announcements are:

1) a £200 tax break for lower rate tax payers but only if they’re married. Because married people are better and glue society together. I obey the law, work and pay taxes. All of which counts for nothing as my single and childless life is ruining society. Which honestly, I think is silly but I can live with.

2) A ‘crackdown’ on  the long term unemployed. Which involves making the long term unemployed do community work (picking up litter, cleaning graffiti) or go to a job centre every day or go on a full time course to sort out the underlying reasons for their joblessness. Failure to do this will result in sanctions, that means taking away benefits for 4 weeks in the first instance and 3 months in the second. This is the one that scares me…..

George Osborne says that you “For the first time, all long-term unemployed people who are capable of work will be required to do something in return for their benefits to help them find work….But no one will get something for nothing. Help to work – and in return work for the dole.” 

Current estimates are that there are 200,000 long-term unemployed. I was unemployed from August 2009 to April 2010 and then again from April 2011 to November 2011. That isn’t considered to be long-term unemployment but it felt like it and I wrote about it at the time.

In February 2010, I wrote this about why I felt so hopeless:

The major problem with being unemployed isn’t the lack of money, it’s the sense of hopelessness.  I spend time applying for jobs and hearing nothing back. The benefits system adds to that hopelessness.  I can’t get a part time or lower paying job to tide me over because then I lose all benefits and if I can’t cover my rent, I’ll be homeless (as a single childless adult, my chances of getting social housing is mimimal and how am I going to get a job if I don’t have an address?) .  When I go to sign on, I turn up on time but have to wait 30 minutes, I never know when housing benefit is going to be in my bank account, so am constantly on edge about money.  I’ve worked full time since I was 19, I want to work, God knows I’ve applied for enough jobs, but I’m treated as if I’m not trying, as though I deserve nothing.  I listen to the radio and hear that people on benefits don’t want to work and have unrealistic expectations (thanks Frank Field) but I don’t think that it’s unrealistic to want a job that pays enough to cover my rent and bills, is it?

In June 2011, when I had a temporary job, I wrote about the problem with benefits and the cost of working:

My point is this, the problem isn’t benefits, the problem is work.

Work should pay enough to support living. Work should cover the cost of things like rent and food and bills and saving for a pension. I don’t think that’s unreasonable, not all of us can be bankers not all of us have parents that can set up trust funds or buy us houses.

The truth is that if work doesn’t pay enough to make someone feel like it gives them a future, then that’s how people feel. Like they don’t have a future.  Hell, I do work and I feel that my future is bleak, so why bother? I bother because I hope that at some point it will come around that it will change, I have earned more, hopefully I will again, I feel I have to try.

Accepting that you will live your life on benefits,  is really about despair, it’s about believing that your life will never get any better, that you don’t deserve any better and that even if you had a job, it wouldn’t help, life would still be rubbish and you’d still struggle. No amount of telling people in that mindset, that they are sponging, that they are useless is gonna get them to work.

In August 2011, I wrote this about my experience of signing on and how I was treated:

At 8.30am on Monday 25th July, the job centre wasn’t open. A group of us stood and waited. At 8.40am they opened the doors. At no point during the time I was there, did anyone attempt to apologise or explain why they were late opening the doors.

At 8.45am – ish, a lady starts to talk to us about the packs we have been given. She tells us that we can have 14 days a year off from job seeking but we can’t go abroad, that we must attend every 2 weeks to sign on or we could lose our benefit, that if we have an interview and that is the reason we can’t attend, we must call them and let them know, that we will have an appointment today and sign a job seekers agreement, that if we don’t keep to this agreement we will loose our benefit, at no point does she introduce herself and the ‘presentation’ is all over the place and hard to understand because her English isn’t that good.

After this we go to have the interview and make the job seekers agreement. I wait 30 minutes before I am seen. We talk about my skills, she looks at my CV, etc. My next signing on appointment will be in 2 weeks at 10.40am. I’m told it’s on the 2nd floor and given a cycle letter.  That’s it.

2 weeks time. I arrive at 10.35am, I was at my Mum’s the night before, so I go straight there, I have a coffee in my hand, I’m told that I can’t take my coffee in as I might commit violence against the staff with it. Ok that’s a fair point, until I notice the cups of tea and coffee that the staff have on their desks – what’s to stop me committing violence with their tea and coffee. There’s a big sign saying ‘No mobile phones’, my book is on my phone, so I switch it to airplane mode and start reading. “No” says the security guard,

“But it’s on airplane, I can’t make any calls with it”

“No mobile phones allowed” he repeats.

It’s nearly 10.40am, it won’t be long until I see someone. At 11.05am, I hear someone saying, what sounds like my name…”Ms Demps, Ms Demosay”, I figure it’s me they’re calling and I get up but I can’t see anyone calling my name. That would be because they are around the corner and sitting down. I get there and say hello, I sit down, I say “it’s Dempsey, my name”

“Oh” says the man, who didn’t stand up, didn’t apologise for the 25 minute wait, is wearing a sweatshirt, “Where’s your job search booklet?”

I hand him the booklet I have to fill in to document what I have done to find work. He reads it, signs it hands it back to me, gets me to sign something and tells me I can go. I haven’t had a letter from anyone confirming I’m going to get any money, does he know what’s going on with that? No he doesn’t, call this number downstairs.

I didn’t enjoy unemployment, I tried to apply for at least one job every day, I got up and got dressed and went for a walk and then came back and spent at least two hours a day, changing my CV, writing letters etc. Longer if there was an application form to complete. I volunteered to get me out of the house and to try and keep my spirits up, I babysat for a friend, I helped T&C move and I did everything I could think of to get myself out of unemployment. I took all the help the Job Centre offered me. I went to the CV workshop and they told me they couldn’t make any changes to it that would improve it and asked if they could show it to the others in the group as a good example. I went to the ‘re-training’ appointment and was told that my ‘A’ levels and the NVQ I did in Administration meant that I wasn’t eligible for any of the training they offered.

In the last 10 years, I’ve never had an interview that didn’t result in a job offer, I interview really well. It was getting the interview that was the problem and I still couldn’t tell you why, of the hundreds of applications I made, I was only asked to 3 interviews in time I was unemployed (two of the jobs were temporary contracts). I have a permanent job now and financially things are better but they are still rocky because I earn less money and my rent 56% of my income after tax, utilities, energy and food is more expensive but I’m actually better off than a lot of other people. I worry about not having any savings or security of accommodation when I retire but it’s ok and I have 27 years to worry about that and work to resolving that issue.

The long-term unemployed have it worse than I did when I was unemployed, there may be work out there but that work probably isn’t near where they live or they’re not able to do it. They are already living on the edge economically and they can’t afford to move where there might be work and anyway that would mean losing housing and support networks. The lowest paid and unemployed are often the people who pay the most for energy (pre-pay meters) and, especially if they don’t live in cities, food because there’s one supermarket and you have to get the bus and that costs more money. They have tried to get work and been subject to the demoralisation that comes with almost constant rejection and the Job Centre, which is not a place that anyone comes out of feeling positive or optimistic.

Welfare spending in 2011/12 was 29% of government spending, 13.5% of GDP. Of that 42% was on pensions, housing benefit and winter fuel allowance for the elderly. 20.8% was spent on tax credits and housing benefit for people in work. (source). I couldn’t find the figures on how much of housing benefit goes to private landlords but I bet it’s a significant amount of money.

So instead of trying to resolve the problems of work, or education, or housing, or living costs. Or telling the true about where the money spent on welfare actually goes. The plan seems to be, blame 200,000 people and punish them for not being able to find work. Make it harder for them and  talk about “no one getting something for nothing”.

Hope that no-one notices that there’s been a tax cut for higher rate tax payers, or that George Osborne has a trust fund based off shore so it avoids tax. If they make the rhetoric good enough maybe it’ll distract the public from noticing how many Cabinet ministers benefited from the higher rate tax cut or that MP’s expensive are still rising.

Maybe.

 

 

 

 

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The Weekend

Friday night started as is traditional with pizza and wine, although Ma came over to stay too.

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The plan was G&T, pizza and wine, and one whiskey after pudding. Except I only had bourbon in the house! Ma was very disappointed and we had ginger wine instead, but it was definitely a daughter fail!

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I was up early on Saturday morning to make sure the house was tidy for a visit from my landlord.  That done, we wondered down to Papillon for pain au raisin, one of the things that I love about where I live is Northfields Avenue, it’s got a decent butchers, bakers, cheese shop, fishmongers, there’s a childrens bookshop a couple of laundrettes and dry cleaners, the junk shop where I got sofa, and lots of other shops, including Papillon that has the best pain au raisin (even the French people I know agree with me!).

Then we went home to eat the pastries, drink coffee and wait for the landlord. Owain was just coming around to check a crack in my bedroom wall which has got much bigger over the summer, caused we think by the 4 months of building work that the neighbours did, it was pretty major 24/7 work and on a couple of occasions, I had to go round at midnight to tell them to stop!

That done, we sorted out Ma’s phone.  She has decided to join the 21st Century and start using my old iPhone 3!

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That done, we basically just arsed about, we shopped and visited The Cheddar Deli to buy all the cheese.

Ma left at about 5pm and I went home to read the paper and eat cheese for tea!

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On Sunday, I did nothing, it was almost as if I’d used up all my productivity on Saturday and had none to use on Sunday. I did finish the paper, bake bread, do my ironing but other than reading, very little else.

How was your weekend?

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Sunday Music

I’ve been listening to the The Civil Wars album since it came out (on my birthday) and every time I heard this song, I was very aware that it sounded like something else and it’s been bugging me.

Then it hit me in a flash, Had Me a Girl sounds like Norwegian Wood by the Beatles. Then I spent some time hitting myself with something heavy because it’s so obvious. ‘I once had a girl’ is actually the first line of Norwegian Wood.

I am an idiot.

Here they both are so you can compare and contrast.

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