Thankful 2015 – Week 3

 

I’ve been off work for three weeks. It feels like no time and lots of time. I have settled into to doing very little quite easily, I’m not bored but the passage of time seems at different times of the day to be fast and slow. Mornings are fast, evenings slow, a complete reversal of how time usually works. My foot is looking much better, the swelling has come right down and although I had a day when it was really painful, the pain is mostly manageable. Having said that I can’t put any kind of weight on it without the boot and it hurts when I wiggle my toes or stand on it for any length of time.

So this week I’m thankful for the things that allowed me to have the osteotomy and that give me space to recover. The NHS, seriously I love our socialist healthcare and I don’t care what other people say (Tories and Americans, I’m talking about you!) when it works it’s amazing. The other thing I’m grateful for is work, my company does do being good about sick leave and flexibility but I’m also grateful for the legislation that allows me to have leave.

So basically what I’m grateful for is living in a first world country. Where workers have rights and healthcare is something that we provide for everyone. These things are important, I’m going to leave with two quotes, both from Labour politicians, both part of the post war Labour govt (the one that created the NHS at a point wear the country was at as low a point as it could get because it helped win a war).

“Charity is a cold grey loveless thing. If a rich man wants to help the poor, he should pay his taxes gladly, not dole out money at a whim.” – Clem Attlee

“Illness is neither an indulgence for which people have to pay, nor an offence for which they should be penalised, but a misfortune, the cost of which should be shared by the community” – Nye Bevan

We shouldn’t ever forget that so much of what we take for granted, right now I’m thinking about paid sick leave and free surgery. We moan about unions and taxes and the long wait at A&E but we don’t really think about what it would be like if we didn’t have them. I’ve been to a country that doesn’t have those things, I wasn’t there long but it’s scary.

And you know that doesn’t just apply to the NHS and sick leave, it’s education, roads, rubbish collections, housing, public transport, food safety, the police force, the legal system, child welfare, street lamps, health and safety, democracy. All of these things happen in my country because people fought for them. We take it for granted that they were always here, that we have these things because we are somehow superior to others in other places. We’re not, we were just lucky that enough people in our history stood up and demanded that things change and then got them changed.

I’m thankful for that.

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Friday Links

Happy Friday! This week has been much like last week, with more showering, which is bizarre and I have to do with someone else in the house (thanks Ma!) so I don’t fall over…oh the glamour..

Loneliness and income inequality. Money doesn’t make you happy, it does allow you to do more of the things that make you happy..

The London property market is like the Hunger Games. I have been banging on about the housing problem for about 20 years, I’m of pretty average intelligence, if I could see it, why the hell did no-one in power notice?

Boys need to be taught about work-life balance as well as girls. Feminism isn’t about putting women above men, it’s about giving everyone choice and freedom…

Consent is just like tea. This is fab.

How does he sleep at night, easy, he just doesn’t understand.

Beck wrote her annual review of Oprah’s Gift List. As always, it’s better than the gift list….

Also what I watched this week.

London Spy. Lots of good actors, being brilliant.

River. I’m still not sure that I entirely understand what’s going on but I want to.

Hugh’s War on Waste. I find the general stuff really interesting but some of the people he’s talking to one on one just need a slap it’s not hard to recycle. Also watching it, I’m shocked by the amount of food waste from households, I find it mind boggling..

The Last Kingdom. Which I am really enjoying although I could do without the very cheesy recap at the beginning of each episode.

 

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Life Happened – Stitches and sofa time.

It’s fair to say that I’ve been completely out of the loop this week, I haven’t heard Adele’s new song, didn’t see the John Lewis Christmas advert and I wasn’t wearing a poppy.

The most exciting parts of my week were the trip to the hospital to get my stitches out..  and getting a shower…finally..

The foot looks much better but I still have to wear the boot to avoid putting any weight through the toes, hence the one footed shower!IMG_3494The big scar is quite sore but looks better than it does here already.IMG_3492I love how neat the scar on the top of my foot looks though.

Sarah R came over on Friday, which was lovely, and Ma came over on Saturday (the day of the glorious shower), as usual for the past couple of weeks she’s been fantastic and we had fun with indoor sparklers…God I love sparklers, it’s impossible to be miserable with a sparkler going off in your hands…

This week, I may go for a small walk outside and I want to do some yoga for my back and hips, it’s tricky to do because of not being able to put pressure on my foot but my back is beginning to hurt more than my foot. Other than that some reading, and even though it’s too early for Christmas, as this year’s Christmas music selection is now done, I’ll start to burn the CD’s because I was gently reminded that they needed to be done…godchild 2 is a bossy boots!

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Sunday Music

 

I think all the enforced rest is making me mellow….

Sharpness – Jamie Woon

 

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Thankful 2015 – Week 2

I was thinking about a list this week, but what I’m really grateful for this week is connection. I went outside once this week, to have my stitches out, I haven’t seen many people over the last two weeks so it’s been people taking the time to contact me that I’ve been most grateful about.

Ma came over on Saturday, did all my shopping, changed my bed and washed my hair. She’s ace. She was over again on Tuesday and we had dinner, she stayed to come to the hospital with me on Wednesday. Ma deserves a whole post of thankful because she has been amazing!

Ben took Ma and me to the hospital on Wednesday, which made life so much easier.  Sarah D came to see me last week. Christelle came to visit on Sunday and Kathy came over on Monday with lunch. Sarah R came round on Friday. Friends have emailed, texted, called and facebooked to check up on how I’m doing and if I need anything.  I am good at fending for myself and I like to be alone but even for me, the last couple of weeks could have felt lonely but they haven’t because of my family and friends keeping in touch and connecting with me.

The people in your life make such a difference to how life goes for you. I have a family and a family of friends who help and encourage me, who are there to celebrate and commiserate with me at all the points of my life. Who can tell me to buck my ideas up when it’s needed too. We support each other in small and big ways. Like me. none of them are perfect but these people are the people that I do life with, who do life with me.

I’m thankful for them.

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Friday Links

Happy Friday! This week’s links…

Women who have to travel to England for abortions. I support the right of women to have abortions but I’m reluctant to wade into the rights and wrongs of access to abortion in the Republic. However, it’s appalling that women in Northern Ireland can’t get access to a procedure that is legal the UK. If Northern Ireland is so bloody keen on staying in the Union, then woman should have the same rights as women in the rest of the Union…

The joy of a boring walk.

The Bristol conundrum. Not just London then

Mark Steele on poppy wearing. It’s getting to stage where I don’t want to wear one just to be contrary.

Suzanne Moore on gender and being genderqueer. First up, if someone decides to transition from the gender they were at birth to a different one, good for them. I will use the name and gender pronouns they feel are appropriate if I am aware of them, i.e I have a clear understanding of how they present. That’s just good manners and if I make a mistake, I am happy to be corrected. I have no doubt that there is horrific bullying of transpeople and I have no desire to add to it. I don’t like people  who think they know about and understand my experience of being a woman  better than I do. For the record, this has always been my problem with Germaine Greer. Her experience is not every woman’s experience. We all need to understand and listen to people and their experiences, I can’t speak to BAME women’s experience or transpeople’s experience or middle class woman’s experience. We also need to understand  that for some people the notion of changing gender is deeply disturbing and we need to acknowledge and be sensitive to that too.

 

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Freedom…sort of…

Yesterday, I got my stitches out!

My lovely brother drove Ma and me to the hospital and then I finally got to see my foot.IMG_3485As you can see, the operation has made my foot any prettier but it’s so lovely to get the bandage off .

I was expecting that it would be more painful than it is, either I have a high pain threshold (very doubtful) or it’s just healing well. I don’t need painkillers and it only really hurts if I’m on it for too long but I can see that it has really improved over the last 12 days and that should continue over the next 4 weeks.

So all good, with more time on the sofa to read, I really am living my perfect life at the moment!

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What I’ve Read – October 2015

Courtiers: The Secret History of the Georgian Court – Lucy Worsley (TBR pile)

This was a birthday present from Jo about two years ago and it’s shocking that it’s take me so long to get around to reading it. My knowledge of the early Georgians is sadly lacking and this book did confirm my belief that none of the George’s were very nice. Worsley is far more sympathetic to them than I think I would be able to manage! It was nice to learn more about George II’s reluctant mistress, Henrietta Howard and read about her eventual escape to Marble Hill House, which is quite near me and I’ve been there!OLYMPUS DIGITAL CAMERAI don’t think it’s going to provoke me into an early Georgian reading frenzy, but it was interesting and I really enjoyed it.

Rock Redemption – Nalini Singh (bought)

More book crack. I didn’t like this as much as the others, I think I just struggled more to get into the story and the characters. I was irritated by them and their silly decisions and the stalker part of the story felt off. Still read it in a day, will still read the next one though!

A Single Kiss – Grace Burrowes (library ebook)

The First Kiss – Grace Burrowes  (library ebook)

Kiss Me Hello – Grace Burrowes   (library ebook)

Grace Burrowes contemporaries which is a departure. Again I read the hell out of them but I didn’t enjoy it as much as her historicals.

Half a King – Joe Abercrombie  (library ebook)

First time I’ve read anything by Joe Abercrombie and I believe this is aimed at a YA audience. I really enjoyed this and promptly put a hold on the next two. At first, I couldn’t work out if this was pretend Vikings or future dystopia and I liked that I couldn’t tell. The world building is strong and I like the hints that horrible things happened in the far distant past (the breaking of God). Yarvi narrates this and I liked him, he wasn’t a hero at all and you can see that the things that saved him in this book are the things that may doom him in the next two. I finished this and went straight into book two.

Half a World – Joe Abercrombie  (library ebook)

Where we see Yarvi from other people’s POV. This book is about Thorn and Brand. The book reads like a saga, lots of life lessons in it. I read this straight through, came to understand Thorn better and again that ‘happy endings’ are not necessarily happy…

The Cinderella Deal – Jennifer Crusie (library ebook)

Quick afternoon read, I didn’t buy it as a story but it hit the spot when I was suffering with cold and didn’t want to think to hard.

The Martian – Andy Weir (library book)

This came recommended by a couple of people and the film came out this month. I wasn’t sure if I’d understand it, it is very technical but strangely readable. I was interested all the way through and it was tense in places, if it was possible to read with my fingers over my eyes, that’s what I would have been doing. I really, really enjoyed it.

Born to Endless Night – Cassandra Clare and Sarah Rees Brennan (borrowed)

Wool – Hugh Howey (library e-book)

Shift – Hugh Howey (library e-book)

I’m going to take these two together, I really enjoyed Wool, but struggled with Shift. I loved the way Howey creates the world with language. People living in underground silos, see ruined skyscrapers and call them ‘tall silos’. It’s beautiful, showing the lack, the way this culture thinks through it’s language. I will read the next one, Dust but I may need a break as they are pretty depressing. Shift explained the world of Wool but it was harder to get into and understand, it felt more disjointed.

A Kiss for Luck – Grace Burrowes (Kindle TBR list)

A novella and palate cleanser after Wool and Shift. It has all of the charm and all the frustration of a Grace Burrowes book but a great two hour change of pace.

 

 

 

 

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Nephew No 2

Nearly 2 months after Joe made his arrival, here are some photos of him. DSCF4914  NewbornDSCF4906All of them DSCF4909Being held very carefully by his big brother.

Joe at a day old was more cooked than Oli, Joe was a bit late, Oli 2 weeks early, the major difference being that Joe’s neck was stronger and he had (for a little bit at least) his eyes open!

The next time I saw him was for Ben’s birthday, just over a month later, he’d gone from 7 to 11lbs and he’s a chilled out little baby, smiled and was quite happy to be passed backwards and forwards.DSCF4958 DSCF4953 Just asleep with Aunty Nic (he was ready for a nap but it’s good to know that I still have the knack and to note that he sleeps with one arm up like Oli did!)DSCF4946 DSCF4959With Grandma!

One of the problems for second babies is that they are always compared to their bigger siblings, it’s easy to say that Joe is a more chilled baby than Oli but actually I think that it’s that everyone is more chilled with Joe, than we were with Oli! Either way he’s a dote and I’m looking forward to December when I get to spend time with both of my nephews!

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Sunday Music: Down Here – Turnpike Troubadours

Back in September, I discovered that The Turnpike Troubadours had a new album and I ordered it and then forgot about it. On Thursday night my phone reminded me that the album was downloaded.

Hurrah for new music. The genre of music is technically red dirt but it’s pretty damn country to my ears…

 

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