Random

It’s the last Friday before Christmas and I’m the living, walking example of not ready…here’s this weeks list of stuff that I read and want to share..

1) Last Friday there was a shooting in the US. I like living in a country that had pretty strict gun laws but don’t think I should be telling another country what they should do. I’ve seen lots of articles and tweets about it and my heart breaks for the parents and family of the 20 children and 7 teachers. This seemed like about the best response…

Despairing sources confirmed that the gunman, armed with a semiautomatic assault rifle—a fucking combat rifle, Jesus—walked into a classroom full of goddamned children where his mother was a teacher and, good God, if this is what the world is becoming, then how about we just pack it in and fucking give up, because this is no way to live.

2) I haven’t seen this advert, but I’ve heard loads about it from my friends who have seen it.

Mothers are told that they are competent and hard working (which is nice), while slyly being exhorted to work until they drop and spend money they don’t have on things nobody has room to eat. Fathers (and men more generally) are told that they’re childlike, workshy creatures of uncertain taste and questionable hygiene; every so often a distant cry of protest goes up about this characterisation, but the ad machine rolls relentlessly onwards.

3) Sarah Rees Brennan recaps The Hobbit: Part One

DWARF KINGDOM: *laid waste*
THRANDUIL KING OF THE ELVES: We should go help our sworn allies, the dwarves. That’s why I came wearing my shiny battle tiara!
ELVEN LIEUTENTANT: Sir, your son young Prince Legolas has got hold of that movie Brave, thrown out all his silken frocks and set up a strict five a.m. to nine p.m. archery schedule at the elven court.
THRANDUIL: Wait, what? What? No! I left strict orders that my elven subjects should do my will and PARTY DOWN!
THRANDUIL: Screw this! We’re going home.
THORIN DREAMBOATSHIELD, PRINCE OF THE DWARVES AND INTERNATIONAL DWARF PINUP: … Elves are assholes.
OLD BILBO: And Thorin never forgave. And he never forgot. And he never got any less dreamy.

4) At roughly the same age, I completely agree (although I’ve always loved John Lewis)

Instead, at the stage at which spots are usurped by wrinkles, one’s relationships are sounder, a support network in place. Constant drama is supplanted by a sense of oneself as a fait accompli. One is less of a daughter, less of a partner, more of an individual, even – perhaps, especially – if one happens to be a parent. Rather than being weighted down by expectation, one can simply do as one wants.

5) The rising numbers of rough sleepers in London. I’ve noticed it and think that it’s only going to get worse with the new Housing Benefit rules coming in.

No London mayor can correct that calamity alone, but if the current one made half as much noise about it as he does lobbying for tax cuts or new airports it would help – and might improve his record on tackling rough sleeping too.

6) Instagram is changing it’s Terms of Service. To do what everyone else already does.

The relevant policies of Facebook, Google, and Yahoo, the parent companies of Instagram, YouTube, and Flickr, respectively, are similar. Yes, Instagram’s new terms of service also contain a confusingly worded follow-up sentence that could be misread as allowing it to sell your photos to advertisers without compensation to you. But so could all the sentences above—if not for the fact that every single one, including Instagram’s, is preceded by a sentence clearly stating that you, and not the site, own all of the content you post to it.

7) Angst from the lovely Christina at D for Darymple. If you know Christina, you know she can’t maintain this for too long, just keep reading to the end!

My first impulse was to run, escape – hide. God only knows what I blurted out by way of goodbye as I gathered my things together and stumbled to the door.

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Too much fun..

Last night was great…perfect manhattans are perfect.

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This morning, I’m sitting at my desk with the biggest cup of coffee, a ham and cheese croissant and the prospect of a really tricky meeting ahead of me. Thank goodness that was the last Christmas night out and I can dedicate the time from now until Christmas to ticking off those lists, although I did manage to post my cards.

Two more days in the office and then I’m done!

And I got a Christmas card from my favourite nephew..clearly an artist in the making!

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Blank for you own message..

I had another migraine yesterday. Spend all day in bed wondering if chopping my head off would help..

As a result, I didn’t make the mince pies, I was going to post about today…

Instead, a selection of Christmassy photos.

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What didn’t you get done yesterday?

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Lists

It’s the week before Christmas and I’m not ready. I’m so not ready, to calm my panic, I’ve been making lists, when I’m panicky about something I turn into my mother only 100% less effective!

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Monday disasters.

1) Knocking the kitchen roll off the microwave and onto the gas hob thus setting it alight.

2) Realising as I was about to leave the house that my travelcard was still in my jeans, that my jeans were in the washing machine that I had turned on five minutes earlier.

3) Bad day at work

4) The 45 minute journey home takes an hour and a half

5) On the train home, a stupid teenage pikey (yes I know, when I was a kid we called them tinkers and they were Irish!) spent 10 minutes telling me how much he’d like to rape me.  Yes it was just as delightful as it sounds…

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Things that I have sort in the house before Christmas

1) Space in the fridge.

Ask yourself does one person really need 9 jars of jam in her fridge?

2) All the washing and the ironing.

Ma is coming to stay and the tree won’t fit if the airer is up.

3) Sort out a space for the tree.

No I don’t have one yet, and yes I do like to leave it until the last minute. Trees should not go up until Christmas Eve!

4) Clean the oven

Yorkshire puddings require a high oven and it needs to be clean. My oven is not clean at the moment.

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Presents to buy/make/assemble

1) Ma’s

2) Ben and Laura’s

3) Oliver’s

4) Christelle and Mike’s

5) Tina and Charles’

6) Jo’s

7) Tabitha’s

8) Max and Danielle’s

9) Murphy’s

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Number of cocktails I intend to drink on Wednesday night at the OXO

Three

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Films I want to watch over Christmas

1) The Philadelphia Story

2) The History Boys

Are you making lists? What’s on them?

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The Weekend

Friday night I was out for work drinks. There are no pictures, be glad!

On Saturday, I got up and out of the house to meet Ma, Laura and Oli. We were off to see ‘Room on the Broom’. Oli was great up until he wasn’t. The tantrum was so bad that we had to leave.

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We went for a walk to the restaurant and Oli was at turns delightful and absolutely horrible. He was just having a bad day. Once we got to eat, Oli was much better and decided to be delightful, he even followed me to the ladies, mostly because he wanted to flush the toilet. He’s three, he likes pushing buttons. He doesn’t like the hand dryers though.

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Ma thought that Oli might like to see the tree in Trafalgar Square. We decided that a walk from Aldwych down Strand was probably going to lead to another Oli meltdown and got a cab.

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We arrived in Trafalgar Square as Santacon was happening.

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Oli was quite amused by all the strangers giving him sweets! I tried in vain to get a photo of Ma, Laura and Oli, that resulted in Oli telling me to “be quiet”.

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I gave it up and we went home. I did say back in November that Oli after three weeks in a row of Aunty Nic and Grandma, he would either be delightful or bloody and it seems that it was mostly bloody!

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Home and I was supposed to be getting ready for the Grace Christmas party. I confess, I fell asleep and woke up at just gone 8pm!

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I broke out the red lipstick and I got to the party and just in time for the secret santa!

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Sunday was an errands day and now it’s Monday and back to work for the last week before Christmas! I’ve planned this week to mostly be at work or at home because I have so much to do, I still haven’t written any Christmas cards!

How was your weekend? Is this week going to be spend catching up on Christmas stuff or are you all ready and just going to spend this week chilling?

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Sunday Music

Yesterday was my Dad’s birthday. In three days time, it will be the 11th anniversary of his death.

On Mum’s birthday, I talked about how music is an inheritance and the music that she ‘gave’ me. My relationship with my father was not easy and he’s been dead a while, sometimes it’s hard to remember that you get things from both your parents. I get my colouring and, according to my brother, my filthy temper from my Dad and Dad had a lovely full head of hair, even at 53! That’s not all I got though as this song proves.

This is the song that we played at Dad’s funeral, Ben remembered that Dad used to sing it and we hadn’t had any music at the church so we played this as people were leaving.

I had planned to use this for Sunday music as soon as I realised the date. When I Googled it, there it was, Joe Cocker at the Queen’s Golden Jubilee Concert. I remember watching this performance on the TV. It was 6 months after Dad died, I was sharing a flat with Christelle. We’d moved in in January, I remember sorting out flat stuff on the way back from the funeral ’cause C was in France and later, when Dad’s ashes were in a box on the living room floor, watching Christelle move them and say “Excuse me, Noel” as she moved them so she could clean the floor.

Anyway, it was a bank holiday, a bunch of us had been in Richmond for the day and had met my cousins Faye and Michelle for drinks. We’d come home and turned on the TV. The concert was on and as Joe Cocker was announced, I knew what he’d be singing.

It was the first time that my friends saw me cry for my father. At that point, I always called him Noel, never Dad and I was deep in denial about how much his death had hurt. It wasn’t as if I’d seen him much when he was alive and had exactly two days off after he died, one the day after to sort out the funeral and the day of the funeral itself. Apart from a brief moment in the church, I was doing one of the reading and nearly lost it, I’m not sure that anyone except Ma and Sarah saw me cry for Dad. You see no one ever really understood how difficult it was to be Noel’s daughter. Ma, who didn’t have an easy relationship with her Dad, maybe got it but everyone else pretty much thought I was a heartless bitch when it came to Noel and it was too complicated to explain.

I wanted a father that loved me more than the next pint, which was never going to be Noel. It would have been easy to look at my father and the damage he caused and see only that. Although that wasn’t all he was, he wasn’t a bad man, he wasn’t a good father or a good husband but he was himself. He was so damaged and he spread that damage without really understanding what he was doing. I can say that because he was my Dad and I miss what he could have been. He was, in his way, brilliant and he could have been a better father, a better husband, a better man. He just couldn’t see how to do it. When he was good, he was very, very good. He just wasn’t that good often enough and when I hear this song, I’m sad about that and about what we lost because of it. I’m also as time builds up, able to remember that that wasn’t all he was….

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Goal Update

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This week I’ve been tired and stressed, but I’ve been doing better. Major issue is that my right hip and lower back are really sore. Stretching helps a bit but if it’s not cleared up after Christmas, I’m going to have to get a referral to a physiotherapist!

1) Do a plank a day of a minute or over (52)

Done: 30.   Target: 43  Remaining: 22

So I’m still behind the target but I have done 2 a day for the last 3 days and I’m going to continue to do that.

2) Log 1820 fitness minutes (35 minutes a day)

Done: 1100.  Target: 1470  Remaining: 720

I’ve been walking to more places and including that in my fitness totals, I’ve done the 35 minutes but I haven’t stepped this up.

3) Walk or run 260km (5km a day)

Done: 130.  Target: 210  Remaining: 130

I’ve made this week’s target but not much more. I’m way behind and need to go for a couple of runs.

4) Do 1040 sit ups (20 a day)

Done: 590.  Target: 840 Remaining: 450

Saturday to Tuesday, I met the daily target. Wednesday I did 10 more and for the rest of the week I’ve done 40. Only issue I really have with these is that I hate them and my hip hurts a bit.

5) Do my knee exercises and stretches 104 times (twice a day)

Done: 85.  Target: 84  Remaining: 20

Still doing these. My knees and feet ache at the moment but I think it’s more to do with the  cold (it was -1C this morning, in London!) than anything else.

6) Have 26 alcohol free days

Done: 17  Remaining: 9

I’ve been drinking on schoolnights, not good, however, I’ve been sticking to my units so I’m not going to beat myself up about it.

7) Eat 364 servings of fruit and vegetables (that’s 7 a day)

Done: 286.  Target: 294  Remaining: 78

I’m eight servings behind target but 76 ahead of the recommended five a day. Being out for dinner means that sometimes it’s harder to hit seven. I do feel much better than I did last week though!

8) Be thankful every day for 52 days.

I’ve done this every day and as you can see if click onto the ‘Reasons to be Cheerful’ page

9) Be in bed at 10pm for 35 days.

Done: 26.   Target: 30

I was really good at this in October, next week will be better.

Cheer me up, tell me what goals you had for December and where you are with them!

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Friday Night Cocktail

The Moonlight Martini.

This is another cocktail from the Savoy Cocktail Book and is described as ‘dry but not unpleasant’. That’s about right. It’s a very fruity but I’m guessing that this could change depending on what type of Sauvignon Blanc you use.

I liked this a lot I’m not sure that I’d want to drink more than one but it’s another one to give to people that like cocktails to be fruity. The grapefruit juice gives it a lovely pink colour too!

(I feel I should also apologise for the state of my kitchen wall as displayed in these photos, it’s in desperate need of painting but doesn’t look nearly as bad as the flash suggests!)

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What

1 1/2oz of gin

1/4oz kirschwasser

1oz sauvignon blanc

1 1/4oz freshly squeezed grapefruit juice

How

1) Shake all ingredients over ice

2) Pour into chilled cocktail glass

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Random

Hello…happy weekend. Some stuff I’ve read this week…

1) What losing weight changes and what it doesn’t. Interesting

Losing the weight was tough, she says: “I had no idea who I was, and while I went through all that I was lost.” But what came after was tougher. Contrary to media everywhere, being thin isn’t enough of an identity to go on. “This is it!” she thought, when she finally got her weight down, and then: “Now what do I do?”

2) Genetic testing to solve historical mysteries.

It was, he agrees, an odd feeling. “Standing in that field and thinking, 500 years ago Richard III died here. It’s very strange, and stranger still to think there’s a tiny bit of me, a tiny bit of my DNA, that was also in Richard. I don’t know that I can get my head round it, really.”

3) What really did the Grande Armee in was lice, not Russians. I’d always attributed it to hubris…

The typical French soldier was dirty and sweaty and lived in the same clothes for days; this is the perfect environment for lice to feed on his body and find a home in the seams of his clothing. Once the clothes and skin of the soldier were contaminated with lice excrement, the smallest scratch or abrasion would have been enough for the typhus germ to enter the soldier’s body. To compound the problem, the soldiers were sleeping in large groups in confined spaces for safety; they were concerned that the Russians would attack or the Poles would retaliate. This closeness allowed the lice to jump quickly to soldiers who were not infested. Only a month into the campaign, Napoleon lost 80,000 soldiers who were either incapacitated or had died from typhus. Under military surgeon Baron D.J. Larrey, the army’s medical and sanitary measures were the finest in the world, but no one could have coped with the scale of the epidemic.

4) What are you eating on Christmas Eve? The Dempsey tradition is fish pie and peas, with champagne!

 “You have to have a whisky mac: whisky and Stone’s ginger wine – it’s essential after midnight mass.”

5) The need to teach the history of England. I know quite a lot but the biggest gap I have is the Stuarts to George III. I missed 55 Days too because Hampstead is too far away!

Earlier this year, one of my children made a confession. He had reached adult life knowing almost nothing about the English civil war. Could I recommend him a book on the subject? I could, and I did. And a few months later, I saw that the Hampstead theatre in north London was putting on a Howard Brenton play, 55 Days, about the events leading up to the execution of Charles I. So we went to that too. As we were leaving the theatre we talked about Oliver Cromwell and the dramas and dilemmas of 1648-9. And my son said: “I don’t think any of my school friends know anything about the civil war. But everyone in this country ought to know about it. They all ought to see that play.”

What are you reading this week?

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Banana Bread

It’s Thursday and I’m ready for this week to be done. I’ve been out every night this week and the days were I could do that and get up happy and cheerful in the morning are long gone!

So I need to apologise for the rubbish photo of the banana bread. I won’t apologise for the  bread.

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Banana bread is a really personal thing. Some people like it to be more like cake and others more like bread. I like all of them! This ,from Nigella Lawson is the one I use most often. I don’t add nuts but that’s the only change I make. It’s easy to make and I generally have all the ingredients in the house. If you should have any ageing bananas, this is the best use I can think of.

Do you like banana bread? What’s your favourite recipe?

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