Friday Links: Doomed?

Happy Friday! This week was all a bit ‘waiting for the apocalypse’. Public transport is heavy with the scent of hand sanitiser! It’s not happened yet but who knows. Here are this week’s links

It’s not just chlorinated chicken: five foods a US trade deal could bring to the UK. Lots of my friends in the US only eat organic and this is why. It’s also why I’m thinking more about how self-sufficient I can be in vegetables, because I’ll need the money to spend on ensuring better quality meat, which I will be eating a hell of a lot less of should any of this come to pass.

Faced with the coronavirus, Boris Johnson must stop playing the invisible man

How I managed to raise a little bookworm in the age of smartphones and tablets. I found this unbearably smug. She seems only to have one kid, her method is not tried and tested. It worked on one kid, whose mother was a reader, would it work on another? My mum read and I’m a reader, my brother is not. We had exactly the same upbringing in relation to books and he reads but it’s not the default option for entertainment that it is for me.

Boris Johnson’s baby news: his transition from politician to celebrity is complete. Also any female politician admitting to a sixth or seventh child engaged to be married for the third time to the father of the baby but not yet divorced from her previous husband who was undergoing treatment for cancer, with a history of moving onto the next person before she was divorced, would be absolutely destroyed in the media. Think about the way that Jeremy Corbyn’s private life was examined and reported?  The way the ‘family and morals’ papers are treating this news like a national event is hypocritical and sickening….

Labour can’t have it both ways on immigration

On fishing and farming, Johnson may again be forced to back down

Coronavirus will show us what this government is really made of

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What I’ve Read – February 2020

February’s reading started strong and then sort of trailed off, I couldn’t find anything I was really interested in partly it’s because I’m really busy at work and partly because I’m waiting for The Mirror and the Light! Which should arrive today, I may just spend the weekend in the 1530’s as imagined by Hilary Mantel!

Good Husbandry: Growing a Family on a Community Farm – Kristin Kimball

I have read and really enjoyed ‘The Dirty Life’ which is her first book about her relationship with the husband and the farm. I’m not going to pretend I understand anything about the life she describes so unflichingly, I’m just romantic enough to think I could do it and just practical enough to know that it’s not my thing. The difference between when I read her first book and now, is that I have an allotment. An allotment is not the same as a farm but I have a better understanding of the effort and the worry of growing food even though I’m not dependent on it either as my sole source of food or income. There is an allotment joke about how one year we might grow two punnets of tomatoes which will take the overall cost down to £30 per tomato! So the effort it takes to wrestle a living from the land is not lost on me and Kimball is clear about the hardship and about her choosing of that hardship. She is also clear about how she finds grace and meaning from her way of life but at the same time completely open about the struggle that it takes to get there.

The Life and Times of the Thunderbolt Kid: Travels Through my Childhood – Bill Bryson

This was on the TBR shelf at home, I have a really bad habit (one I’m working on in 2020) of racing through the fiction TBR and leaving the non-fiction. So this has been on the shelf since the last time I was in Northumberland (it was part of a Barter Books haul). As ever with Bryson’s books, I found it informative and entertaining, it also confirmed my belief that the 1950’s (especially in the US) was completely insane…

Waking up with the Duke – Lorraine Heath

This was discussed on a recent episode of Fated Mates and they are really good at selling the books they like just through talking about them. I was sold and I pretty much agree with what they said. Everyone in the book is, not exactly lying but just not saying painful, truthful things. There is a lot that the heroine isn’t told to ‘protect her’ and there are no villains just imperfect people mucking up things. It’s a really lovely book, it does have some of the usual hand waving required to believe in the HEA but it was a lovely book.

Pleasures of a Notorious Gentleman – Lorraine Heath

I’m reading this trilogy backwards, the trilogy is about the sons of a notorious Duchess and this is the book before Waking up with the Duke, and about the middle brother, Stephen, who has no title, and Mercy. We start the book with Mercy at the home of the Duke presenting the family with the son of the presumed dead (by Mercy), Stephen. Stephen was in the Light Brigade at the Crimea and was much injured, Mercy was one of Nightingale’s nurses which is where they met and he knocked her up. Except Stephen isn’t dead but he has amnesia and Mercy wasn’t the one he knocked up. She helped another nurse, Sarah, give birth and when Sarah abandoned the baby, Mercy took on motherhood and claimed it so that she’d be allowed to stay with the baby. There is a lot of work to do to give them a happy ending and most of it would have been resolved quicker if they’d used both their brains and their tongues to talk. 2 books in, I’m already tired of what marvelous lovers these brothers are but mostly because someone Stephen served with in the Crimea but doesn’t remember, tells him how amazing Mercy was, he believes the story she’s told him. Rather than take the word of the woman he says he’s in love with, he’ll believe a completely strange man. Ruined it. Is it believable, well that last bit is, but I was not convinced by the HEA because of that.

The Bright Beauty – Emily Cavannagh

This was an Amazon free book a while ago and I finally got around to it. It’s a story of twin sisters, Franci and Charlotte (Lottie) told by them. Lottie is bipolar (are you bipolar or do you have bipolar?) and it centres on Franci being called to come and help her sister in California because she’s been in an accident. It’s about how the disease changes you and changes the people looking after you.

I felt a huge amount of sympathy for Franci and a huge amount of frustration with Charlotte. Like an addict her disease tells her, that it’s everyone else, if they would just leave her to it, she’d be fine, but as the people around her point out, it’ll never be fine, she’ll always find a reason not to take her medication and with a child in the mix, you can never be left to it. I found Charlotte difficult because mental illness, is quite selfish and we see that as Charlotte resents Franci’s family and can’t understand why she can’t drop everything and come and look after her and her child indefinitely. It’s also in the very real irritation she feels and expresses when Franci asks her if she’s taking her meds, she’s not, Franci’s right but Charlotte just can’t see it, there is no real understanding of the consequences of her actions on other people.

Chasing Cassandra – Lisa Klepas

I’m almost at the point that a new Klepas is an auto buy for me and I really enjoyed this, it’s funny and simple. I quite like a story where the things that the characters need to overcome are in themselves and that this allows them to be fully loved. I did feel that the plot moppet was a bit much and the story I wanted was more of Tom and his family. His mother refusing to speak to him because when his father returned for money Tom didn’t make him stay and now his sisters don’t speak to him. I wanted to know about that, about whether some of this is the cause of much of his behaviour. It could have been more interesting but I was still very fond of it!

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Allotment Adventures: Allotmenting between the storms

We finally had a good chunk of time when it wasn’t raining! Behold we put more beds in and there was wood chip so we did our thing. This picture is from the work area. We have a couple of more beds to put in but the drill ran out of battery and we only have enough wood for one more bed anyway.

We have left the path extra wide because we can put potato pots and things there and still have space, eventually (probably next autumn we will move/adjust some beds at the top end in order to give us more of a straight path all the way from the top to the bottom of the plot.

End to end

We didn’t do a lot more but we did take down the kale which was starting to flower. We love kale and it kept us in greens for all of the winter. I can see why this time of year is the hungry gap, we have some underdeveloped leeks, some corn salad and some tiny sprouting broccoli growing right now. That and the herbs, which are growing but don’t provide all that much sustenance! Every year I say I need to get better about over wintering and having food growing at this time of year. At least I still have some squash to eat!

There is a lot more to do but I really feel that we’ve broken the back of it. Next up compost buying and sorting but that probably won’t happen until the end of the month

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Lent Week One

For Tuesdays during Lent, I’m going to talk about my faith and spiritual practice (or lack thereof). So this is the time to look away if you’re not interested in this topic. No worries, there will be an allotment post tomorrow and I’ll see you then!

One of the things I really miss about living in Fulham is having a Church community and a church I’m comfortable-ish in. There are lots of churches in Ealing but I miss the connection I used to have at St Thomas’ and the ease of just knowing when I could turn up because I knew the Mass times and I knew the church because I’d spent so much time there.

I don’t have that anymore. Having left my home parish due to the rise of conservative attitudes and clericalism within the church (personally there were lots of reasons but the decision to change the Mass with no consultation because consultation that had happened was overwhelmingly opposed, was my last straw), I don’t feel that any RC church is a place that shares my Christian values so where do I go? CoE churches are a minefield because you never know what you’re going to get, in Ealing they seem to be either happy clappy or Anglo Catholic (and if I wanted to be a member of a faith community that didn’t allow women to be priests, I’d still be a Catholic!). Grace fits for most of it but the timeframes don’t always work and you can’t really just turn up to a service so I have struggled to be an active member for several years. Other Christian denominations, my Grandad was a Salvationist, I can and have gone to Methodist churches but I like Mass…

Last week, I spent some time working out where and how I could get ashed for Ash Wednesday. St Paul’s at 5pm is pretty much next door to the office will there be a problem getting in just for a service? The nearest Church to my house is very evangelical and the only Ash Wednesday service was at 10am, there other church near the office is St Nicholas Cole Abbey and that is coffee shop by day and has no Ash Wednesday service.

This is a perennial problem of the established Church (and I mean churches with building and presence not just the Established Church which is the CoE) and people like me. Church is a community, showing up is important and they should minister to the needs of their parishioners but what if you just need to turn up for one thing, or just hear Mass because you need to find comfort in the structure of it?

It’s a conundrum for churches which should be for everyone and it’s a conundrum for me because I don’t fit any of the recognized boxes that accompany organised church. I’m female, I’m single, childless and middle aged and I have a very clear idea of my faith and my relationship with God, I’m not lonely, or poverty stricken, I don’t have a drug problem and I don’t have a God or community shaped hole in my life. Most of the outreach that church communities engage in don’t work for me because I don’t fit the demographic. That’s not in anyway boasting about my specialness, most churches really struggle with single, childless, women with opinions. Old maids are for cleaning churches, doing what the priest tells you and pining after the v. few single men in the church congregation (it’s part of the reason I stopped going to St Thomas’.)

So what do I do? I could just pick a church and go and work at being a member of the community but I was part of a community and I was quite clearly rejected for being who I am and not being obedient enough. So there is a lot of fear for me in doing that, it perhaps takes a level of vulnerability I can’t brave right now. Grace was part of a solution, but part of the problem for me, was me, sometimes I don’t want a radical re-imagination of worship, sometimes I just want to go to Mass and be comforted by the familiar structure of it and the comfort of communion. I’m aware that living in community is sometimes about learning to live in community and that this isn’t always perfect, but I do need to live in a community where I’m not viewed as lesser because I’m single, as my friend Kathy says “One is a whole number”.

On Ash Wednesday, I left work later than I wanted and I would rather skip church than be late, so I didn’t go at all. Proof that I don’t have any answers but it bears thinking about….

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Monday Miscellany: March

Happy Monday and welcome to March!

March is a good month, in fact in March we get both the first day of metreorological Spring and the Spring equinox, it’s Women’s History Month and also World Book Day, International Women Day, St Patrick’s Day (St David’s Day but that’s not an excuse to drink Guinness!) Mother’s Day and the clocks go forward. Joy seems a lot closer in March for me it’s the month I start to feel a bit more myself because it’s not so dark.

Other plans for the month, well there’s sowing to do for the plot, Mother’s Day and my sister-in-law’s 40th birthday party and yes I am contemplating a massive ‘oh no 4-0’ poster. What are you all up to March?

But let’s talk about the week just gone because it was quite a week. At work we stepped up our Business Continuity planning (yes I’m sure you all know why!), I planned and hosted a drinks event for the company’s Foundation and I had another ‘inexplicable fever’. I’m still calling it inexplicable but the doctor says it’s a peri-menopause symptom, which sucks because they seem to be happening monthly and I’m not bouncing back as quickly as I used to! I have some blood tests this week but I’m worried he’s only testing for hormones (which go up and down) and not other things it could be. It took three years to get an asthma diagnoses because the doctors couldn’t see past my weight, now they seem not to see past my age!

Other than that work, thinking about the allotment and trying to get enough sleep (which is another thing that has gone even more missing recently and is perimenopausal…joy!)

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Sunday Music: The Stone Roses – She Bangs The Drums

At some point in the not too distant future, one of the children in my life (Tabitha or Oli are my personal bets) will be very dismissive of She Bangs the Drums and I just won’t get it. In exactly the same way that I don’t get Ma’s Billy Fury ‘thing’ and I really won’t get the stuff that was the soundtrack of the year they did GCSE’s (or whatever they’re calling them).

For the record, I don’t recall it being a song a really loved at the time but I do know all the words…

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Friday Links: The Government of All the Spanners

Happy Friday! This is going up very late today because I forgot to post it. It’s been a very busy week…

Priti Patel is out of her depth – and that is Boris Johnson’s fault

The fall in life expectancy is proof that austerity kills

Long-Bailey’s shift to attack mode shows what awaits Starmer if he wins

Israeli forces shot a Palestinian journalist in the leg. He got no compensation.

The war on Israeli democracy

The Gig Economy Has Never Been Tested by a Pandemic

It’s children who will shoulder the caring burden under Johnson’s migration policies

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Allotment Adventures: Buying wood

Anyone else sick of the weather?

The weather wasn’t great last weekend and Ma had a trick knee, so we already knew not much was going to happen. We hit the plot and checked for damage, the bird feeders were casualties but other than that we’d survived storm Dennis and the crocuses are appearing.

After we re-filled the bird feeders, we went to Wickes to buy some wood. Sometimes, when we do stuff like this, Ma hires a car, this week we did it on the bus.

One of the great things about London is that no-one really blinks when you carry wood onto the bus! We did two round trips, bought 12 planks of wood and 3 posts for the corners and the screws. We need another pack of 5 planks but it was about to rain, it was windy and Ma was starting to hurt. So we called it a day.

I did want to show you the rogue potato plant that’s growing up in between one of the pallets that we use for storage!

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Pancake Day:

Today and then on Tuesdays during Lent, I’m going to talk about my faith and spiritual practice (or lack thereof). So this is the time to look away if you’re not interested in this topic. No worries, there will be an allotment post tomorrow and I’ll see you then!

Lent starts tomorrow, which means tonight I will be eating pancakes! Before we get to pancakes, I’ve been giving some thought to what I’m going to do/take up/give up this Lent.

Lenten practice is supposed to be about making ourselves better for Easter, I’m not sure that I want to ‘offer up my suffering to Jesus’ but if I deny myself something and use the money saved to do some good, that works for me. I don’t want to use Lent just to clean up my diet, but I am going to use it as a time to consider what I eat. So I want to do 2 eating related things:

  • give up sweets and chocolate;
  • be much more mindful about ultra processed foods. I’m pretty good at this but I want to stop buying food instead of cooking it and buying lunch at work because I can’t be bothered to prep properly. So I’m going to do my best to cut it out by using the Nova food classification and cutting out Nova 4’s

Lent shouldn’t just be about denial, so I need to take some stuff up too….

  • I’m going to stop buying flowers and put that money towards my other food related thing;
  • Three items or £3 donated to the food bank every week. (I do donate to the food bank outside of Lent but not as regularly as I should);
  • Attend the volunteer days at the allotment on 7th March and 4th April; and
  • Gratitude journal, I think in a time that we think about being better people I should work to remind myself of the privileges of the life I have right this minute.

That done let’s talk about pancakes. The best pancake recipe is Delia Smith’s, I have two courses of pancakes tonight, savoury and sweet because we used to have this at home. I make up a bunch of pancakes and stuff them with mince or chicken in white sauce, then pour white sauce over them, add cheese and bake in the oven. One year I made lasagna but with pancakes instead of pasta (I regret nothing!). For pudding, I eat them with bananas and maple syrup (which is bizarre because I am not keen on bananas!) instead of lemon juice and sugar.

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Monday Miscellany: Theatre, Wine, Cinema

Happy Monday!

Last week was half term which meant that getting into work in the morning was somewhat easier and work was a lot quieter, which provided balance because going home was full of whiny children and I couldn’t book meeting because no one was in the office to confirm times.

So that’s work, home was pretty much the same, I had Thursday afternoon off, to go to the theatre and see A Number and then in the evening to see Parasite at the cinema. So culture and shenanigans with Ma!

On Friday I worked from home and on Saturday took many trips to Wickes for wood buying purposes.

I’m middle aged that was quite enough excitement for the week, so on Sunday I stayed indoors!

This week, I want to eat pancakes tomorrow, get ashed on Wednesday and it will be a busier week at work, we (as in my team) are running a bar for the work charity on Thursday night, which seems both like a good Lenten activity and a bad one! No weekend plans excepting the allotment and then it’s March. I’m fairly certain that time speeds up as you get older!

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