A Day in Food: Staying with Ma Edition

Ma has been signed off by the reablement team and Adult Social Services has said that she doesn’t meet the standard for carers, unless I withdraw support, which I’m not really going to do. So Ma and I are getting ourselves into a groove. I come to hers on Tuesday night and stay until Friday morning. I get Friday at home and go back to hers on Saturday for housework and prep. Then Ben comes on Sunday to see her and she has Monday by herself.

It’s not entirely a logistical nightmare and I’ve talked about doing meal prep for Ma but what I eat is a work in progress, this is what I ate last Thursday!

Morning food at Mum’s is very like morning food at my house. I take my apple cider vinegar and supplements (a multi vitamin, vitamin D, Omega 3, sea moss, a probiotic, agnus castus) the ACV is from Willys, Ma and I both drink and (suprisingly) enjoy it. The claims for what daily ACV can do for your health are fantastical, all I know that since I started drinking it my heartburn has gone (heartburn is something I always used to get with PMT and at peri menopause all the damn time, no changes to my diet helped, I had it when I didn’t drink for a month, when I fasted. It was grim and after 4 days of ACV in the morning stopped.) Mum is convinced it helps with her hands and it’s a useful way for both of us to get a pint of water into our bodies first thing in the morning.

Breakfast this morning (as it is most mornings for me) greek yoghurt, fruit – strawberries today, a tablespoon of jam and homemade granola. There was a pot of coffee, which has my collagen (this one) in it. I think the possible benefits of collagen for menopausal women has been covered elsewhere, it’s not recommended by the NHS but I think there are benefits and it’s not doing any harm. Yes there is more water because hydration is important!

I did some work until Mum got up and we did her exercises and had her breakfast and coffee. Then I worked for the rest of the morning. At lunchtime, I popped to the Sainsburys local for ham and coleslaw, which was part of lunch.

Lunch

A ham and coleslaw sandwich (I made the roll) cucumber, carrot and a pepper.

‘Pudding’ was grapes and salt and vinegar corn

I did have a fudge at about 3pm when energy was flagging

Dinner was pasta

And another fudge for afterwards

And that was a day of food, it was pretty normal with the exception of the two fudges!

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Allotment Adventures: Gardening in the Rain

The weather was great on Saturday but by the time I got to the allotment on Sunday, it was raining. I did allotment in the rain but by the time I was finished, and I had to go, the rain had stopped. I didn’t really do anything on my list. 

First up I had a lovely surprise, my friend Jude had weeded around my gooseberries, as discussed last week, that area needs a thorough weed and clear before I plant the new gooseberries (we’ve bought them but they haven’t arrived yet!) so this was an absolute gift! I did see her to thank her personally it really was the best thing to see on a rainy Sunday!

Look how lovely that looks

I’ve had a not great growing year and one of my real points of failure has been kale, I’ve killed so many kale plants I’ve stopped counting but it’s been more than 20!! I really like kale, so I wanted to get what I have left alive in the ground. I know where it needs to go but I hadn’t got around to sorting it out it was going to be my end of August task and that didn’t happen. So I wanted to do it on Sunday.

However, my brain took one look at the path next to the bed that also weedy and needed to sort that too! and decide to weed that too. So I weeded the path and topped up the woodchip.

Bed before

I weeded the bed, watered the bed, (which is an odd thing to do in the rain, but the soil is still quite dry) and added compost to the bed and then I planted probably slightly too many kale plants. I think they are cottagers’ kale and cavolo d’nero but like a lot of the allotment beds this year, it’ll be an experiment.

Bed after

 That didn’t leave me with much time and I was quite wet, I weeded the new lavender bed and the lingonberry bed and then I did some harvesting. tomatoes, cabbages and chard. I also pulled up some borage plants that were in the paths. 

The paths are getting really overgrown again, it’s my fault the grass is running wild and I have not been on top of it, I was thinking about why it’s so bad now and then I remembered that I’ve lost my weeder in chief! It’s going to take a lot of work to get it back under control. The thing I’m most concerned about is the cinque foil on the right hand side of the plot as it’s really nasty and I just can’t dig it up enough and it’s started to move into the beds, which I can’t have and won’t spray.

Cinque foil

In consultation with my plot neighbour on that side I’m going to do something I’ve never done before, and use weed killer. I’m going to paint the leaves with it and then I’m going to cover with cardboard and a very thick layer of woodchip and see if that’s enough to kill it off. It’s not ideal and if I had more time or easier to deal with weeds, I would do something different but I am already dealing with rampant couch grass and bindweed, I just can’t add another one to my plate. I need the allotment for peace and mental health and getting this weed sorted will help me.

There is still so much to do but I’m chipping away at it! Definitely on the list for the weekend is sorting out the blueberries, they need weeding, topping up with compost and strulching. The lavender needs trimming and I want to take cuttings of it too. Once the fruit cage is tidy and where there are no plants, wood chipped to help with weed suppression. It’s time to sort the path by the last untidy tomato bed. As cool as it’s been this week, it may be time to clear that bed. I have plants that can go in there.

More path clearing!

There is loads of woodchip right now so if I can clear the paths I can top them up to help with weed suppression.

There is lots to do but by November I’d like to be working on clearing up the middle section of the plot. It’s good to have goals!!

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Monday Miscellany: Don’t send dead flowers

Happy Monday!

Here are five things about last week

If you are going to send flowers to a sick friend, possibly one who has just been given life limiting diagnosis that is not pleasant (like say PSP) maybe don’t send dried flowers. Do you want to remind them of dead, withered things? I know the gesture was kind and well meant but it did seem a bit off!

This chair has made me happier than any further should! (And yes that is a glass of prosecco next to my mum, she can drink what she likes and I’m here to stop her falling over!

I’m not enjoying autumn, it gets dark at 7:15pm and I’m unhappy about it (and even more unhappy about it being dark in the morning) I am trying to take what joy is available in autumn but this morning’s walk to the station was one of them.

Autumn morning

It rained all the way through my allotted allotment hours yesterday but I did manage to get the kale planted!

Kale

This week I was sorting out something for mum and cam across my school reports, the themes are clear, ‘reads all the time even when she should be doing something else, struggles to know when to stop talking and lacks motivation to do things she’s not interested in’. Things change but the are always the same!

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Sunday Music: Daffodils – Muscadine Bloodline

This has been the earworm of September so time to put it here. The only grip I have is that you pull the petals off of daisies not daffodils but who knows what Americans do….

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Friday Links: Feeling Like Henry II

Happy Friday!

Will America please rid the world of it’s turbulent president? I don’t wish death on anyone but impeachment of him AND the vice president would be quite nice about now. Especially given the disgraceful way Trump has behaved this week!

Keir Starmer to launch progressive fightback against ‘decline and division’ fuelled by far right. I’ve been thinking about this a lot recently. I keep coming back to the idea that what most people want is for it to feel fair. Right now, it doesn’t. If you want to launch a progressive fightback, start with a properly progressive tax system, make public services work and make them joined up. Understand that housing, health, food and education are all part of the same issue. It’s hard to learn if you’re hungry, health is difficult to come by if you live in a damp flat and are constantly worried about money. Learn that an ouch of prevention is worth a pound of cure. If you sorted out housing and health in this country most of Farage’s support would disappear.

‘We’re exhausted – but not from doing too much’: can this woman help us survive the age of distraction? I don’t know that distraction is the only reason I’m tired but I do recognise that 4 or 5 hours on the plot is more restorative for my mind that 4 or 5 hours watching a screen.

The hard right are claiming the cross – and true Christians should not allow it. I don’t want to start saying ‘no true Christian’ but honestly, following Christ is more to do with service than superiority.

Spare a thought for right-royal victim Duchess Fergie – it’s been another truly hellacious week. Marina Hyde being brilliant again.

Why do the children of elderly patients stay away? Loneliness makes them get sicker and stay sicker for longer. It’s really hard but I do think that point about priority is right. Mum has moved right up my priority list!

Steam, stodge – and so much suet: I made 10 endangered British puddings. Are any actually worth saving?

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Home Improvement: A Comfortable Chair

Last year Ma moved herself from the sofa to a chair. It’s much easier for her to get out of the chair than from the sofa and we rearranged the living room to suit.

But I’ve been at Mum’s house a lot more and there is nowhere for me to sit when we are watching something on the laptop. I’ve been moving and sitting on a dining chair but it’s not that comfortable and then I sleep on the airbed and my 50 something hips are not that happy about it!!

Ma had intended to buy another chair and finally got around to it. I cannot express how happy I am about it.

Finally somewhere to sit

It’s the Habitat Celine chair with matching footstool and she’s ordered another footstool because we both want one!

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Allotment Adventures: Gradual Tidying

I was five hours on the plot this weekend but probably only got four hours of work on it. One of the joys of the allotment is getting to chat to people!

But the tidying continues. This week I tackled some beds and the surrounding areas.

Before
After

So there was some cutting back of the jasmine, the blackcurrant sage and the cola plant which is actually called artemisia abrotanum ‘Coca Cola’.

I cleared the bed next to it of the tree spinach and dying tomatoes. That bed has had walking onions and parsley in it so I left them there. There were self seeded forget me nots coming up in the path around that bed. So the paths got a weed and I moved some of them into the bed (they might not make it, we’ll see) and finally I stuck some baby fennel in there. It’s every much an experiment.

I also sorted out one of the wild tomato beds and its surrounding paths.

The tidiness is creeping up the plot!

I planted a bed with perpetual spinach and pak choi and where the courgettes (which are slowly coming to the end of their life) are, stuck some Chinese lettuce in the gaps. Again these are experimental.

The last of the courgettes, some parsley, forget-me-nots, a self seeded lavender plant and the chinese cabbage

Finally, I potted up some plants I didn’t have time to plant out into pots. I will get to them later.

Next week, I want to tidy up the next tomato bed and it’s surrounding paths, in fact, weeding paths is going to be the theme of the next few weeks.

More weeding to be done

Mum helped me make a decision about the gooseberries, we are going to dig them up, weed the area throughly put some weed fabric down and plant new ones that we ordered last week. One ‘Invicta’ and two ‘Hinnonmaki red’. So I want to get that area sorted over the next couple of week.

I also want to weed grass at the front and move the artemisia in that bed nearer the path, and I have some perennials to go in there too. I also need to trim back the lavender at the front of the ‘fruit cage’. There are plants on the table that need to go into the ground (kale, more pak choi, spring greens and various herbs) so that is also part of my planning for the next two weeks!

I have worked hard but the plot isn’t just about work. There is huge amount of ladybirds on the plot.

A dahlia the size of a dinner plate

The way the dahlias have decided to spring into life!

It’s autumn and I have to admit I haven’t had the best year on the plot but, it still brings me joy and calm and peace.

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Monday Miscellany: Autumn Equinox

Happy Monday!

  • Despite the title it’s been a good week. There was a brief issue with the carers for Mum. Mum told them that I’d be with her from Tuesday to Friday and they logged that as refusing care. She was just trying to time them time and money, but a couple of phone calls sorted that out. Right now what we need is an old fashioned sheltered housing warden that will call in to check on Mum. However, I don’t think that the housing association provides those to social housing clients, just to the private ones..
Ladybird
  • I spent one day in the office this week and yet this week I was told that it felt like I was on top of everything in the best way. I’ve been pretty ruthless this week in terms of priorities (ma, work, sleep), apparently work have noticed!
  • I bought some more plants this week because plants make me happy!
Planted already

  • I’m really grateful for the small conversations I’ve had this week, just people checking in.
  • Autumn is here and I’m trying not to be too unhappy about it!

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Sunday Music: September – Earth, Wind and Fire

Ok, so I know I’ve had this before on Sunday Music but it’s still good and it’s the 21st of September so I had to do it. (For those of you confused, go and look up the lyrics)

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Recommended: Cyberjammies

It’s a very boring photo of a nightdress

I’m fussy about my nightwear.

I’m completely allergic to nightwear with patterns, slogans, teddy bears or Disney characters on them and I don’t like things with scratchy lace bits either! I’m also the wrong shape, in a country of pear-shaped women, I’m not. This means that pyjamas often don’t fit right, they are oversized in the hip and bum area and undersized around the belly and generally always too short in the leg. So they manage to be loose and tight at the same time while swinging around my ankles. I want to be comfortable when I sleep and none of that is a recipe for comfort.

I had a brilliant run with M&S lounge wear about 10 years ago, but since then it’s been a bust and nothing has fit quite right.

Up until this year, that hasn’t been a problem as I had lots of pyjamas and nightdresses, but they have been getting older and recently my nightdresses have been more holes than fabric. It was time to retire them and get some new nightwear.

Cyberjammies seemed to fit my fussy criteria and I bought this. Which was perfect, so I ordered two more in different colours. And when it got hot, they were perfect.

They are expensive, but they are so nice and soft and unfussy that I’ve also bought a set of pyjamas and they are as nice.

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