Monday Miscellany: It is glass or plastic?

Happy Monday!

I’ve been away. There was some peri-menopausal illness, three very busy weeks at work (that’s not going to change this side of Christmas!), some adjustment to the fact that it’s dark a lot of the day and the lifeness of life.

At the beginning of the month, I read a post by Sarah which mentioned the theory (attributed to Norah Roberts) about when you have too many balls to juggle you have to decide which are glass and which are plastic. This space is plastic, my health, my work, my family they are glass and so I put this ball down while I tried to manage the glass balls of my life.

So that’s where I’ve been, working and getting to grips with the new parts of my job (which I am sort of enjoying and will enjoy more, when I have more control!), sleeping, organising myself a bit better, seeing my family, you know life.

Other than the usual, we did family lunch for my brother’s birthday. It was lovely, the dog is still my favourite (even though he can’t be trusted around food of any sort!)

I’m working on getting the plot tidy, and next week is the Pumpkin Walk, which is already sold out!

This week is busy, four days work and one day off for a haircut. There’s a Grace dinner tonight and everything else is all about work and sleep. I’ve come down with my usual autumn tiredness, although at this point, if I’m not tired, I think I’m sick!

Have a good week!

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Embracing Curly Hair

I’ve always said that I don’t have curly hair, its mostly straight and just rebellious in places!

Menopause is changing that a bit, which I was expecting because Ma’s has got curlier in spots too.

The first thing I did was talk to Jane, who cut my hair so that it curled more easily (it may have been layers but it’s not obvious when it’s straight

Post haircut selfie

There are hundreds of products out there, so I started with cheap and easily available Umberto Gianni range, and no it’s not really cheap but you don’t need to use loads so they do last, and tried lots of different methods.

I have myself in a routine now. I haven’t changed my shampoo and conditioner either. So after I’ve washed my hair, I briefly put it up in a towel. Then I brush it out and use the curl cream. Once that’s brushed through, I add the hair gel and scrunch, followed by the mousse and scrunch. Then I let it dry, at the moment that takes about 5 hours (I’m going to need a diffuser in the winter)

When it’s mostly dry, I scrunch again so my hair isn’t crispy.

That’s pretty much it for product. I can’t not brush my hair, it just gets too knotted, so if I’m sticking with the curly, I brush it with a wet brush and that’s usually enough to reactivate the curl.

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Monday Miscellany: Return of the SAD Lamp

Happy Monday!

Last night, I admitted defeat and set up the light lamp. It made this morning slightly less traumatic, although it didn’t make me any happier about it!

Last week felt really busy and this week isn’t going to be any less busy. Back in July, I mentioned that July seems to be a point of the year where my work life goes haywire. That was true this year and usually by this point I’ve rallied and the volume of work has decreased. This year, my understanding has increased but the workload has not.

We’re all busy and because the only unchanging thing in my professional life is that ‘change is constant’, it’s going to be a roller coaster from now until Christmas.

From a personal point of view, it’s probably not a bad thing. I like to get things done, so having a big old target and needing to produce isn’t the worst thing as I head into wanting to hibernate for the winter.

This month, it’s my brother’s birthday, the Pumpkin Walk at the allotments at the end of the year. More generally, as we head towards Christmas, there’s lots going on, which can only be a good thing!

Have a good week!

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Friday Links: No good news

It’s been another really depressing news week. A 15 year old got stabbed (boys are afraid girls will reject them, girls are afraid boys will kill them), Suella Braverman thinks all refugees and immigrants liars and criminals, which given that both of her parents are immigrants says something and none of it good. Rishi Sunak is going to abolish inheritance tax and not finish HS2 and we’re opening a new oil field because apparently what the world needs now is more carbon. Modern life is indeed rubbish…

Here are some links

Are you single or in a ‘hard-working family’? Your answer counts for a lot.

Water firms in England and Wales ordered to cut £114m from bills. Thames ordered to repay £101m, as a Thames customer, I’ll believe it when I see it. My bill has never got down, it only ever increases every year.

London apartment block that deviates from plans must be torn down, says council. Nice to see a council exercising it’s authority against a developer for once!

Smirking Suella trashes 70 years of human rights in 30 minutes

Michael Gambon, star of Harry Potter and The Singing Detective, dies aged 82. I did see him on stage and he was great, he also nearly ran me over before the play!


Justice for Neanderthals! What the debate about our long-dead cousins reveals about us

 

Loose lending and inadequate auditing: central government’s role in the local council disaster

 

My first time in a float tank: ‘the only part of me I was sure still existed was my head’. I’ve done this once and I came out saying that I ‘felt like a dolphin’. It was great.

 

‘One size fits nobody’: markers of high-quality clothing are getting harder to find

 

The austerity influencers of TikTok: ‘I wanted to share the things I have given up’

 

‘He swam, hooking my arm with his penis’: inside the dolphin sex scandal that outraged a nation

 

‘I didn’t want to be Bubbly Bonnie Langford for ever’ – the star relives her career highs and lows. Everytime I see something about Bonnie Langford, it reminds me of my aunt, who used to clean her house

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A Plan for Winter – Exercise and Thankful

Ok so I missed last weekend’s exercise and thankful posts so here they are.

Exercise

The aim was:

  • Three days of yoga
  • 10,000 steps a day
  • 1 set of the following each day, 20 squats, 20 sit ups and 20 press ups.

I didn’t manage the steps but did everything else and I’m going to do the same thing this week.

Thankful – Week Three

The bounty of the allotment. It’s not just the produce, it’s the exercise, the conversations I have when I’m on the plot. It makes my world bigger, I have outdoor space and as I go into winter, the plot gives me a focus beyond that. The rest of winter is great, I know but even as my brain shuts down a bit, part of me is planning for next season. Gardening is a profoundly optimistic hobby and my brain really needs that.

My Kitchen Aid was the best birthday present ever, I love it and I use it…

Last week, marked six years since I was made redundant. I wasn’t happy or sure what was going to happen, but with the hindsight of 6 years, it was the best thing ever. I tempted for a while and then in May 2018, started at Quilter. I don’t do the job that I was initially employed to do but it is a measure of the company that they saw what I could do and kept me on. That has continued and I enjoy my work so much more that I ever thought that I would enjoy work. Turns out, it wasn’t me, it was them and I’m so thankful for all the changes that it brought and for the company I find myself working at.

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Allotment Adventures: Starting to tidy up

Ma and I have decided that allotment work is best tackled in the morning. If we get up and go straight to the plot and work to about noon, we are, or at least we feel, far more productive.

Still getting the odd strawberry

Ma picked raspberries and trimmed the winter savoury and thyme. She also fell over and managed to completely destroy a pot that had a blueberry in it. No-one believes me but even when I give her sitting down jobs, she falls over!

She must have hit it at just the right spot.

Fortunately, I had a spare and my allotment neighbour and I re-pottted it!

I picked tomatoes and took a bunch of the plants that were done or too blighted down. Which led to me, weeding the beds and tackling the sides of the beds at the front again. I wanted to get the plants that were languishing in the poly, into the ground so I combined the projects.

I cut the grass down, weeded, planted, laid cardboard around and covered in woodchip.

Tidier

Down the sides, I planted corsican mint and thyme, I had a pinnata lavender in a pot that has not been doing well, especially when compared to its twin, which I planted into the ground and is romping away, so that went in. I had a free bbq rosemary from Urban Herbs that needed a home and last year I’d planted another at the front corner of the plot and it survived but wasn’t thriving, so I took it out and put both of them in front of a bed on this run. The last space was taken by a roman camomile.

Little rosemary plants

Finally, I planted out some camomile lawn by the patio.

I have some more plants arriving this week and I have some comfrey that needs planting out. So my plan for this weekend is to tidy under the plum tree and at the front. The comfrey is going in the weedy corner that the rosemary was in (after I’ve weeded!) and I’ll add some manure to feed the rhubarbs. If there is any wood chip left, I’ll use it to mulch that area.

I think that’ll be it for this week but Ma is back the week after and I really need to sort out the strawberry runners, re-set the front poly tunnel bed for autumn/winter and clear the tomato beds. We may, if they arrive by then, plant the garlic.

the wild pond area

For October and November, I need to clear and cover beds we’re not going to use, tidy and clear the paths on the other side of the plot and do the same to all the beds on that side of the plot (gooseberries, wild area, iris garden, rose garden, pond, squash beds and the pink and white bed and boysenberry. You can really see that I don’t walk the path on this side and it’s unruly. Yes, I do love unruly but not that much, it needs work and it’s going to be my focus for the winter.

this is a couple of weeks ago and the bed is in a right state..
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Miscellany: Busy, so busy

Happy Tuesday!

Well I completely dropped the ball for the blog over the weekend. Last week was busy and I was a bit ill. I think it’s probably a combination of antibiotics and something I ate but out of nowhere on Tuesday night, I was violently sick. Which meant I didn’t sleep much that night and WFH and in the office on Friday, I had to go to Fulham for a flu jab so was halfway into work anyway! Work has been and is busy and by the weekend I was just stupid tired.

Sunday was an allotment day and the NHS fitted in Ma’s second cataract operation for yesterday. So I went back with Ma on Sunday afternoon and stayed until last night. Everyone is very happy that Ma’s eyes are done, and when her pupil stops being quite so dilated (seriously right now one of her eyes looks like she’s been on all the good drugs!) and she has some reading glasses (not being able to read or do codewords would be a tragedy for her), she’ll be golden!

All of this to explain that I’m not quite up to speed on other aspects of my life right now!

This week is you may have guessed going to be focussed on working and trying to get my home life more under control. At the moment, I need to really nail down all housework and food prep on the weekend because it’s just not going to happen Monday to Friday, I’m too tired after work and as it gets darker, I’ll just lose all motivation to do anything.

So that’s where I am, have a good week!

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Thankful: Week Two

A trip to Sipsmith from Christelle. It was fun and it’s lovely to spend the time with Christelle.

I had another period and another bout of cystitis start this week (it’s been about two weeks since the last of each, peri menopause sucks) so I called the GP and got antibiotics. I’m thankful for that because seriously, I live in a marvellous age, but it’s a difficult picture. However, on the way to pick them up, I noticed that the sign on the train was a bit confused. ‘Please mind the gap’ and ‘Cockfosters’ portmanteau-d to this….

We’ve had very unseasonal weather but on Tuesday it rained hard, the trip from the train into the station at Ealing was ‘fun’ but I’m thankful that I didn’t need to water the plot and thankful that I’d remembered my umbrella….

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Exercise: Another Autumn Plan

In my attempt to implement self care before it gets really dark, I started the Thankful posts.

However, mental well being doesn’t just happen by taking care of thoughts and feelings, it is much enhanced by some exercise.

As a naturally lazy person, I hate this but needs must and a little bit of planned exercise would not go amiss. So on Saturday’s from now until the end of November, I’ll be setting an exercise goal for Monday to Friday, weekends I can if I wish have off and I’ll write them down here to hold myself accountable.

For next week

  • Three days of yoga
  • 10,000 steps a day
  • 1 set of the following each day, 20 squats, 20 sit ups and 20 press ups.

It’s not a lot but it’s enough for next week.

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Friday Links: Government ministers outraged that they are expected to govern…

Happy Friday!

It is time to start wearing closed in shoes and we still don’t have a date for a general election…

Here are this week’s links….

Laura Kuenssberg’s Time as BBC Political Editor has been a Catastrophic, Systemic Failure. I don’t watch a lot of TV news, so most of my news comes from Radio Four, I have noticed that we get a lot less of Laura Kuenssberg on the radio than we did of Nick Robinson when he was the BBC’s Political Editor. Robinson has come under a lot of flak for his political leanings (he belonged to the young Tories when he was at Uni) but although I deplore the general middle classness of the BBC and the drift to the right, I don’t think that Robinson is an interviewer with an agenda. I do think that Chris Mason who is the current Political Editor is brilliant and considered and you can see that if you hear him talk about current affairs, I think there is generally a move in the BBC to self correct. The recent Gary Lineker nonsense has really shown up how slanted to the right the BCC news dept is.

Why do Tory MPs still turn up for the crushing disappointment of PMQs?

‘Sea is constantly dumping bodies’: fears Libya flood death toll may hit 20,000

‘I feel anger; it never needed to have happened’ – Wilko workers lament closures. I’m going to miss Wilko…

Morocco earthquake: Macron tries to soothe tensions after frosty response to offer of aid. I wonder how much help there will be now that Libya is flooded. The developed world has a bad habit of only being able to help one disaster at a time.

More than a fifth of UK shoppers’ favourite grocery items at climate breakdown risk. Bananas, avocado and tea fair enough but grapes can be grown here, but it’s hugely seasonal. Tea can also be grown here (I know it’s grown in Cornwall) but I accept not in the quantities that Britain drinks it. But peas? I grow peas, they don’t need to be grown abroad. This is about cost and availability, we can have these things but we’re not prepared to pay for them.

The perfect flush: eight essential toilet tips – from closed lids to cleaning. Things I find really difficult to understand, people who put sanitary towels down the toilet and people who put fat down sinks. Why? Who dragged you up? Even without the plumber for a parent, I wouldn’t have done that but with a plumber for a parent, those things were cardinal sins….

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