Friday Links

Happy Friday! It’s been a pretty normal week but I’m still very glad to get to the end of it.

More equal than others, how the middle class stays ahead. This is spot on.

An ode to hair bobbles – because who can focus with hair on her shoulders? This because I spend much time watching movies wondering why none of the women tie up their hair!

Jacob Rees-Mogg is a new favourite for Tory leader. How did we get here?

Rees-Mogg remains true to what he actually is: the living remnant of a bygone era, and of a lifestyle that survives now only in the most aristocratic families.

Underwhelming summer photos. It’s Britain, the only thing that’s guaranteed is that it will rain, even in one of the driest spring/summer’s for a while!

Charlie Gard can be cared for in hospice, his parents tell court. I do feel sorry for them but it’s almost completely buried underneath my anger at them. They need to stop, someone needs to explain to them that GOSH is not out to deny them want they want but that what they want isn’t in their child’s best interest. It’s got to be unbearable but it’s not about them. I know that I don’t have children but I have sat at the bedside of the person I loved as he died because as much as I wanted him alive, it was was time and it was the right thing to do despite being horrifically painful for me. I know some of what they are feeling and they are lashing out, looking for anything to give them a win and help them feel better but that’s not an option, they aren’t going to feel better and they need to stop. I was even more cross on Thursday morning when I found out that they will pay for Charlie’s hospice care (assuming that they can find a consultant willing to oversee it) but intend to bill the NHS for it, because the NHS has let them down. The only person the NHS has let down has been that baby, the cost of Charlie’s care for the last 7 months has been paid for by the NHS, when all the doctors treating him were sure that he was suffering and that his life could not be saved.

I also find myself agreeing with Melanie Phillips, in most of this post, the problem is not and has never been the State or the NHS, it’s been the parents inability to accept the truth about their son’s health and the people who have fed their delusion.

10 ways you’re making your life harder than it has to be. Or things I wished I knew when I was 20!

How to grow veg in time for Christmas. It’s really difficult to find seed potatoes about now though! I have a second sowing of carrots and beetroot planned and I’m trying to think of where to put winter spinach and extra beans and peas!

This is wonderful, and really shows how difficult family court decisions are and how judges try to do the right thing by the children involved. The judge in this case is really to be commended. Letter to a Young Person

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2 Responses to Friday Links

  1. Sharon says:

    Thank you for saying what I’ve been thinking about the whole Charlie Gard case. As a parent, it can be really difficult to step outside of the bubble of getting the best for your child and seeing the bigger picture, particularly if you feel the professionals aren’t listening.

    • nicdempsey says:

      I feel bad saying it, they are obviously in such pain but these are the times that we need to talk about the tough stuff. I feel for them but last week, their attitude seemed to tip from desparation to deliberate confrontation that had everything to do with them and nothing to do with their son. It’s a horrible situation and I’m just sad that they are hurting themselves and that baby and dissing the NHS in the process.

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