Want..

I know it’s for children but it’s called Flossy the Cloud (one of the many things my mother calls me is Flossy!)

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Friday Links

1) North/South Food on why food banks are not the answer. Can’t agree more…

The welfare state is, despite all the claims to the contrary, is a safety net. It’s a brilliant brave thing that gives more back to the nation that it takes. But it’s a precarious thing. You can’t stride across a safety net: you have to shuffle and strategise and take the help given to get to the other side. It can be slow going and it needs trust and courage. It doesn’t need a pit of crocodiles underneath and high winds. But that’s what the Welfare Reform Bill has brought. It’s going to push more people to food banks and it’s going to affect you even if you don’t think it will.

2) Behind the scenes of The Wire. I love The Wire but it sounds like it was stressful.

“He was pissed, man. And I got it, because, in effect, we were firing him,” said George Pelecanos, the crime novelist who wrote the episode. “David and I went to his trailer and tried to talk him down. We said, ‘This is the end of the character. We can’t keep his story going; it’s not logical. And this is exactly the way he would probably go out.’” Elba fixated on the urination. Omar wouldn’t be peeing on him, Simon and Pelecanos said; he’d be peeing on a fictional character. “Not on my character,” Elba told them.

3) Food Intolerance maybe in your head. Interesting.

Occasionally, as with vaccines and climate change denial, alarmism veers into paranoia, yielding accusations that a shadowy East Asian cabal is paying off scientists and journalists to regurgitate their propaganda. (Ajinmoto Corporation, I await your check!) For a small minority, MSG sensitivity somehow became more than a medical condition, and challenging its physiological basis poses a threat to their very identity. The harmfulness of MSG, a seemingly trivial assertion, took on the importance of a religious doctrine, a fundamental truth to be defended at any cost. But why?

4) Christina is running and made a video, go and give her money, please…

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Want (or I’m not hard to buy for)

I’ve been told several times that I’m hard to buy for. I of course utterly reject this notion, there’s lots of wonderful things in the world and I like a lot of them, but the truth is that there is very little I need. Also although I love them, I really don’t expect presents but when I do get them, I like the element of surprise. I also hate having to do the “is that too much, am I being greedy?” dance in my head as I try to think about the things I like and they may want to buy because really I’m happy with a card, flowers rock my world, no-one can ever buy me too many flowers!

So I cheat and direct them towards my mother. However, at the moment the world seems to be full of marvellous things, so if I see something I love, I’m going to post about it here and maybe you’ll like it too and maybe Ma can point people in the direction of this blog when she gets asked about presents..

First up is this.

I know. I want about 4 with different words on them. Although I pretty much love everything on the site…

From Vinegar and Brown (via Domestic Sluttery).

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Wednesday Whining: Hot, tired and grumpy

There’s just no pleasing me. For months I’ve been complaining about the grey, miserable weather. Now in the midst of sunny, hot weather I’m fed up with it already.

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The sad truth is that I love the lighter days in summer but can’t stand the heat. At all. I just don’t have any energy, I’m sweaty and uncomfortable, I don’t sleep well, I’m more grumpy than usual (so extremely!) and I don’t want to eat anything (actually that one isn’t so bad both my budget and my waistline could do with slimming!)

Added to the heat we also have the city’s favourite summer tricks, pollen, pollution and commuting. The underground is a marvellous thing but not all that great when it’s packed with sweaty, smelly people. Welcome to London, please use more deodorant.

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I’m fairly used to it and always travel with tissues, water and a plastic bag (the last because the migraines often cause throwing up – I’ve actually stopped being embarrassed by it and just try to do it quietly, apologising as much as I can). Others are not and people are fainting a lot. Two journeys a day, 4 delays due to passenger alarm being pulled so far this week and I was working from home yesterday! That’s a lot of fainting and because and this year there are no extra staff to pull them off the trains quickly (last year we had the Olympics and TfL got all fancy). So we wait, in the heat and people begin to feel faint and so it goes on…

That’s just general though and I can handle the commute. Harder is pollen and pollution. We had a really long winter and cold spring this year, so the usual tree pollen followed by grass pollen didn’t happen, it all hit at once. I take an anti-histamine daily during the summer and normally that’s fine. Not this year, this year I’m using my inhaler, usually just used before an outside run in the evening, every morning or I can’t breathe by the time I’ve walked to the station. Which is not good.

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If the heat is making  me more irritable than usual, next door have been renovating their house for 12 hours a day, 7 days a week for the last 8 weeks. There’s only so much banging and drilling and sanding a person can take, but we’ll add to that the Middle Eastern equivalent of Celine Dion, warbling her way through cheesy music, a dog that has a barking problem in that it won’t stop and a bloody rooster crowing in the distance (you already know my thoughts on chickens in cities) and I am about demented with being really, really cross.

Embracing the good weather and frolicking through fountains is probably not going to happen this week!

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Sunday Music

It’s not Country, it’s Americana, however Bob Harris played it on his Country show, so pick your name. Whatever genre it is, I think it’s great…

The Civil Wars – The One that Got Away

 

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Friday Links

Happy Friday! This weeks links…

1) When I grow up I want to be Imelda Staunton, only taller.

If you could bring something extinct back to life, what would you choose? 
A dodo, or the old Labour party.

2) Lionfish invasion. Fascinating and has one of the best phrases ever, eat them to beat them!

In 2010 scientists named the lionfish invasion one of the top 15 threats to global biodiversity. In the three years since, the invasion has only worsened. The only solution is to fight fire with fire, or in this case, pit our bottomless stomachs against theirs. We really do have to eat them to beat them.

3) Flag etiquette for displaying a US flag. I’ve always been intrigued by flag etiquette in the US, I come from a country where the Union Flag is often flown upside down and called a Union Jack (it’s only a Union Jack on a ship!). So of course I looked it up and turns out that it’s universal flag etiquette. Also we have a Flag Institute and an All Party Parliamentary Group, called the Flags and Heraldry Committee. Really, of course we do!

4) Hemmingway on drink (via Letters of Note)

5) Matt Seaton on the 4th of July and being British in the US.

Americans in 1776 liberated themselves from the monarchical principle once and for all. Thomas Paine emigrated to America – and with him went all those wonderfully seditious democratic ideals in Common Sense and the Rights of Man. He left behind a country that would never have a written constitution or formal bill of rights.

And this despite the fact that England did depose a king, in 1648. The year before that, during the parliamentary army’s Putney debates, Colonel Thomas Rainsborough anticipated Painite doctrine by more than a century:

“For really I think that the poorest hee that is in England hath a life to live, as the greatest hee; and therefore truly, Sr, I think itt clear, that every Man that is to live under a Government ought first by his own Consent to put himself under that Government; and I do think that the poorest man in England is not at all bound in a strict sense to that Government that he hath not had a voice to put Himself under.”

 

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What I’ve Read – June 2013

Fragments – Dan Wells

I started this straight after Partials. Which I didn’t talk about at all last month! I really enjoyed both the books and I’ll read the third but I did find the writing style dense. I needed time to think about what I’d read before I continued, so I got into the groove of reading it on the way to work but then not reading it for the rest of the day, like I needed the rest of the day to process but when I was reading it, I didn’t want it to stop. It’s not one that I’d give to a younger teenager but would recommend to an older one.

Dinner at the Homesick Restaurant – Anne Tyler

I’m still not sure about Anne Tyler. The writing is great but nothing happens, no that’s not true, stuff happens but no one learns anything or changes. It’s a very observational style but I find it very frustrating, I want to see change. I was totally drawn into the story but by the end I was exasperated because Cody hadn’t grown up, Erza hadn’t manned up and Jenny was still empty. Everyone was stuck, I felt like I often do at the end of Checkov, just sad because no-one seemed to have any ability to move forward through the past and into creating a future.

The Boy Next Door – Irene Sabatini

This book has been sitting on my to be read shelf since I left Peabody nearly 3 years ago. Joe, my ex-boss, raved about it and said I’d really enjoy it but I never quite got around to it. However, this year I’m determined to get around to reading the books I own because it’s getting silly now, so I picked this up and was hooked, read it in two days, two days that I worked.

I don’t know how to describe it except to say that it’s about trying to have a relationship when life is happening and the country you live in, is falling apart.  It’s set in Zimbabwe and Lindiwe narrates the story of her relationship with the white boy next door and if I say anything else, I’ll end up telling you all about it. Go and read.

A Million Suns – Beth Revis

I need to stop reading Bookshelves of Doom. I’d read the first of this trilogy ages ago and didn’t enjoy it. Then Leila raved about the sequel and I put it off ’cause I didn’t really enjoy the first and so on. Then Shades of Earth came out and I found myself thinking about it and before you know it I was reading it. I enjoyed it much more and I was more interested in what was going on and what was happening. I liked that there weren’t easy answers, that the book addressed the issues about changing from the familiar if perhaps doomed way of life to the new (and possibly doomed) new chance. In fact I liked it so much I went straight onto the third book..

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I really enjoyed this. I had sort of worked out what was going on and really enjoyed it up until the smooshy ending. I loved that all through the first two books Amy had been all about her parents and how everything was going to be ok when they were awake and that she realised that her parents were human with human flaws and that they didn’t have all the answers. I’m really glad that I gave these books another shot.

The Ocean at the End of the Lane – Neil Gaiman

The new Neil Gaiman, which I liked and read in a day. It wasn’t what I was expecting but not worse for that, it did feel like a children’s story (which I have absolutely no objection to) but I think it’s going to need rereading because I felt that I was missing something. It felt a bit thin but I think that maybe because I raced through it.  Worth reading though and L and H are reading it now.

Isolation – Dan Wells

This is a short story about one of the ‘Partials’ in the series by Dan Wells. See first book I read this month. It’s was interesting if you’ve read the other books. I’ve really got to stop reading books that come in series because now I have to wait for answers, which I hate (except in the case of Hilary Mantel’s Thomas Cromwell books, I know what’s going to happen and the wonder of it is that I know it’s going to break my heart as I’ve become very attached to her version of Cromwell!)

A Gambling Man – Jenny Uglow

I borrowed this from Ma and it’s been sitting on the ‘to be read’ shelf for a while. I’m not more than halfway through it but enjoying it so far. I don’t know loads about the Restoration and while I knew that Charles II was a bit (ok a lot) of a ladies man, I wasn’t aware that James II was although Pepys description of him as “in all things but his codpiece led by the nose by his wife” made me laugh out loud on the train this morning!

What have you been reading this month? Anything you’d recommend?

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Sunday Music

Sometimes having the radio on, reminds me of the songs I love but just haven’t played for a while. Like this one…

The Impressions – Finally Got Myself Together

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Friday Links

Happy Friday! Thursday night drinking with Christelle and Mike isn’t the most sensible thing I could have done but it was lovely and I’ll wake up at some point today. It’s been a huge week for news. Here it’s been about the Spending Review and in the States, Texas, DOMA and voting rights. Obama is in Senegal and Lazare was there to take the photos, it’s odd to see you’ve been tagged on Facebook and see pictures of presidents of Senegal and the US! Naturally, in a week of big news, this weeks links start with an article about whiskey!

1) Small and craft isn’t always better when it comes to whiskey.

In America’s evolving whiskey landscape, however, smaller isn’t necessarily better. Some excellent craft whiskies have emerged in recent years, but the distilleries responsible for big names like Wild Turkey, Jim Beam, and Four Roses make whiskeys that a surprisingly high number of microdistilleries struggle to match.

2) Too big to fail means too big to control.

The reality is that global high finance is de facto a set of interlocking cartels that divide the market among themselves and use their advantages to keep out competitors. Cartels can extract huge premiums over what would be normal profits in a functioning market, and part of those profits go to keeping the cartel intact: huge PR efforts, a permanent recruiting circus drawing in top academic talent; clever sponsoring of, say, an ambitious politician’s cycling scheme; vast lobbying efforts behind the scenes; and highly lucrative second careers for ex-politicians. There is also plenty of money to offer talented regulators three or four times their salary.

3) The evolution of food banks? because it’s not just poverty, or debt, or single parents, or unemployment, or benefits, or housing, or education. Something has gone wrong with our society when a person needs to need to use a food bank.

He cites the case of a client he has been working with: “I’m trying to help him deal with things that are way beyond three food parcels. If he went to an ordinary food bank, would they help him tackle his Work Programme manager, or write to his MP? Forget the food, is the [food bank] system geared up to deal with the climate we live in?”

4) Texas and abortion was in the news this week. I’m pro-choice and proud of it, so I’m linking to this again, because it’s worth saying, even if I do say so myself.

5) Zoe Williams on politicians lying.

The key things to watch with IDS are claims that the benefit cap is working; claims that the Work Programme is working; claims that the benefit system is rife with fraudsters; any claim about jobless households; most things he says about foreigners (with the caveat that if he is talking about a specific foreigner, José Mourinho or Angelina Jolie, it’s likely that defamation laws will keep him on the straight and narrow); and everything he says about family breakdown

6) Wendy Davis is a hero but rather than listen to what his electorate are telling him, Rick Perry is going to try again. It’s one of those moments where I’d like to be able to be all superior about our govt and the I look at the clowns in charge of my country and the real and lasting damage they are doing and wonder about the state of democracy generally.

7) George Osborne is playing the game. I’m reminded of John Woodward Philip’s words to his sailors “Don’t cheer boys, the poor devils are dying”. Osborne has never been without money or worked on minimum wage, he really doesn’t understand what he’s doing to poor people and worse he doesn’t care.

He proposed changes to social security motivated less by the need to save money than by the urge to show how tough this government could be. From now on, jobseekers will have to sign on every week. Those who can’t speak English will have to learn or lose their benefits. Most striking of all, the newly laid off will not be able to claim benefit straight away but have to wait seven days. That may not sound like much, but for those who have just lost a job that paid little, it could be impossible.

8) What the repeal of DOMA actually means. Not my country but I’m so pleased for my friends who have been on the receiving end of this nasty piece of legislation.

And Doma is personal to me and my partner for a reason that goes deeper than visas and stamps and living arrangements.

I’ve always felt that there’s a significant trickle-down factor to discrimination. If the school principal picks on a kid, it makes it that much easier for his classmates to have a dig. If the government says this group is not equal, it makes it that much easier for people to target them because, hey, they’re different… the boss says so

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I feel like my head is about to explode..

This week I have been dodging migraines. I seem to have been on the verge of one since Sunday, on Tuesday I didn’t go to the planned pub quiz because I thought my head was about to go boom. It didn’t, I’m still here, have been at work all week but I still feel a bit odd, like there’s a blur at the edge of my vision. I’m wearing contacts today to see if that helps and it seems to be working. So maybe the ridiculous amount of pills I’m swallowing each morning (if you shake me, I’d rattle) are working.

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Also work. No, not work. Work is fine. However, I have a stressy work colleague, who seems only able to relieve their stress by moaning about everyone else in the office. I’ve been trying all week to re-frame it. To think of a way to understand it that takes the irritation out of it. That’s what yesterday’s post was about, I could feel myself getting cross with the poor tourists on my way to work who were committed terrible faux pas’ like standing on the left of the escalators and getting in my way! Then it occurred to me that it must be pretty overwhelming to come to London for a holiday and get thrown into a rush hour train. I’d be traumatised too. So I thought about things it would be useful to know and hey presto a post and I’m mostly unstressed by the commute at the moment.

Re-framing is not working for this situation because I can’t get my head around it.

I have learnt over the years, that contrary to what my ego would like to believe, I am not the centre of anyone else’s universe. If someone upsets me they probably didn’t mean to but if my interaction with others is negative, people stop hearing that there’s a problem, they just assume that they’re never going to get it right and stop trying. This is what’s happening and no amount of feedback, advice or sympathy is making any difference.

Arrghhh!! I need to grit my teeth, tune it out and be very glad that we have such strict gun laws…

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