#resound11: Then and Now

What was your life like a decade ago? How has your life changed since then? If you’re not feeling wordy today, why not show us some then and now portraits of yourself?

How will you resound?

Strange for me that this was the question for the 19th, you see exactly 10 years ago my father died. So around about the time I’m writing this 10 years ago, I’d spoken to my mum, my brother, comforted Sarah’s sister (who upon hearing the news had started to cry…she was always doing stuff like that, I wasn’t surprised). Mum had just started a new job and legally couldn’t do anything because she and Dad were divorced. I remember that we were worried about Ben, because he was the one the police had told (over the phone – something that still makes me cross) and he was closer to Dad, my relationship with him had pretty much crashed and burned years ago.

In the 10 years that have passed since he died lots have things have changed. Dad dying gave us the opportunity to be a different kind of family, something that wouldn’t have happened if he had been alive.

I have forgiven Dad for the damage he me, he did to us. I mourned the life that we could have had but didn’t and accepted him for what he was.

I’ve also lost friends that were bad for me. I’m happier than I was 10 years ago, despite or maybe because I’ve less friends and money than I had 10 years ago. I think coming to terms with my father’s effect on my live has changed me for the better.

I don’t have any photos scanned in of myself from 10 years ago something I am very grateful for!!

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